Shared Frequencies and the Space Between

Episode 23 – The One About Self-Care In this open and wide-ranging episode, El and Don sit down to talk about what self-care really looks like in their day-to-day lives. From haircut philosophies and mental reset showers to routines, red meat, running, and emotional bandwidth, the conversation weaves through the deeply personal and the totally relatable. They explore how neurodivergence influences...

Episode 22 – Dead Serious(ish) In this deeply reflective and unexpectedly wide-ranging episode, El and Don start with grief, loss, and anniversaries, but quickly find themselves unpacking far more. From running a 5K on a difficult day to navigating the emotional weight of family estrangement, breakups, and furniture that carries forgotten dreams, they explore how grief shows up in unexpected ways....

Episode 21 - Living Well, Ageing Weird! In a delightfully meandering episode full of synchronicities and side quests, El and Don unpack the recent glitches in their matrix: strange coincidences, shared brainwaves, and the bizarre ways the universe seems to line things up. What starts with a few “did that just happen?” moments turns into a bigger conversation about belief, folklore, myth, science,...

Episode 20 – One Pavement – Two Paths In this powerful and vulnerable episode, El and Don explore how differently men and women navigate the world—often walking the same streets but living very different experiences. They unpack what safety really means, how social conditioning and lived realities shape their movements through public and private spaces, and how power, perception, and gendered expe...

Episode 19 – Still Catching Up In their second catch-up after an unintentional hiatus, El and Don reflect on life lately—from university rejection and time perception to memory quirks, energetic dips, and the emotional impact of furniture and routines. They navigate frustrations around the barriers faced by mature students, share vulnerable moments from recent weeks, and laugh through stories of m...

Episode 18 - Let's Catch Up After an unplanned break, Don and El are back with a warm and honest check-in. In this unscripted episode, they reflect on why life got so full, what’s been going on behind the scenes, and how burnout, masking, and executive dysfunction have played a role. From shifting their podcast schedule to changes in Don’s job and El’s emotional journey through rearranging fur...

Episode 17 – A Wee Blether In this off-the-cuff, in-transit episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between , El and Don mic up for a real-time blether—recorded on the way to the cinema and full of the kind of rambling, heartfelt conversation that only happens when nothing is scripted. What starts as a casual catch-up turns into a reflection on meaningful coincidences, feeling seen in familiar...

Episode 16 – Unpacking More Than Boxes In this reflective episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between , El and Don explore the emotional ripple effects of big life changes. Don’s just sold his house and landed a new job—two major transitions that stir up more than just logistics. Meanwhile, a spontaneous furniture reshuffle sparks unexpected emotions in El, revealing how the spaces we crea...

Episode 15 - Signal Check - May 25 In this open and grounding episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between , El and Don hit pause to check in—not just with each other, but with the rhythms of life that have shaped their past few weeks. Recorded after a whirlwind of travel, illness, and home projects, this episode is part catch-up, part reflection, and part recalibration. 🔹 Pacing Ourselves...

Ep 14 - Frequency Interrupted - Renovation Reflections In this episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between , Don and El return from a short podcast hiatus brought on by the chaos of a full kitchen renovation, undertaken entirely as a DIY project. Between demolition dust and cabinet confusion, they reflect on the disruption to their usual routine, what it’s been like living in a temporary s...

Episode 13 – Tuned In, Zoned Out - The Static Frequency In this wide-ranging and deeply personal episode, El and Don explore the hum of neurodivergence that buzzes in the background of their lives—and sometimes takes centre stage. They talk candidly about self-discovery, undiagnosed ADHD traits, sensory sensitivities, and the unique ways their brains process the world around them. It’s a conversat...

Episode 12 – pHysical pHrequency Pt 2 In the second part of their reflection on physical selfhood, El and Don turn the lens toward now - what it means to live in and with their bodies in the present. They talk about learning to listen to the signals their bodies send, the daily impact of work, routine, rest, and overwhelm, and how their experiences have shaped what physical health looks and feels...

Episode 11 – pHysical pHrequency Pt 1 In this reflective first part of a two-episode arc, Don and El take an honest look at how their bodies have evolved with them—through childhood, life events, breakdowns, healing, and changing expectations. They explore the early shaping of physical identity, how illness and stress left lasting marks, and what it’s meant to learn self-compassion in the face of...

Episode 10 – The Space Between What We Know and What We Feel In this honest and emotionally resonant episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between , Don and El open up about a recent blip in their day-to-day rhythm—a misalignment that left them both feeling unsettled. What unfolded was more than just a disagreement; it was a moment that revealed the deeper space between what we know and what...

EP9: The Space Between Then & Now – A Mental Health Check-In Pt 2 In this second part of our mental health check-in, we shift the focus to El. We take a thoughtful look at her recent experiences with mental health, the pressures of holding things together, and what healing has looked like in her world. Through open, reflective conversation, Don offers support as El unpacks what’s felt heavy, w...

In Episode 8 - The Space Between Then & Now - A Mental Health Check-In Pt 1 Don and El get raw and real as they check in on Don's mental health journey. They revisit past breakdowns, burnout, and the long road to recovery—using a unique clock analogy to map Don’s progress. With El offering her steady support, they reflect on how connection, care, and honest conversation can shape the heali...

Episode 7 - Sharing Space & Settling In Don and El give you an intimate, unfiltered look at their first week living together full-time. With humor and honesty, they share the excitement of moving in, unpacking, and arranging their new shared space—from navigating quirky challenges like the “crisps in sandwiches” debate to adjusting routines and handling unexpected emotional moments. Join them...

Episode 6 - Our Relationship, Our Frequency In this revealing episode, Don and El explore the complexities of defining a relationship that defies traditional labels—non-romantic, non-sexual, yet deeply emotional. Inspired by insights from Simon Sinek’s podcast episode Happily Friended with Author Rhaina Cohen , they discuss how societal norms often misinterpret genuine connections and share what i...

Episode 5 – Drafting Our Frequency: Housemate Agreement Part Two In this practical follow-up to Episode 4, El and Don dive into the nitty-gritty of moving in together. They tackle everyday cohabitation challenges - from setting up shared finances and meal planning to coordinating cleaning, dishes, and laundry. This candid conversation uncovers how two friends negotiate responsibilities, adapt rout...

Episode 4 – Drafting Our Frequency: Housemate Agreement – Part 1 In this raw and unscripted episode, El and Don dive into the practical—and emotional—realities of moving in together. They candidly discuss creating a baseline for cohabitation through a household agreement, exploring everything from rearranging furniture and redefining personal spaces to managing micro traumas and differing communic...

Episode 3 – "Background Frequencies" In this revealing third episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between , hosts El and Don peel back the layers of their lives, offering an intimate look at the journeys that have shaped who they are today. In a candid, unfiltered “elevator pitch” style conversation, they share: Deep-Dive Into Personal Histories: From Don’s bustling upbringing in Inverness...

Episode 2 – Finding Our Frequencies In this raw, unedited episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between , hosts El and Don dive into the origins of their unique friendship and the moments that helped them truly "find their frequencies." Join them as they revisit the day they met—on March 2, 2020—sharing vivid memories from their early encounters at Visit Scotland’s head office, that unforget...

Welcome to the debut episode of Shared Frequencies and the Space Between ! In "Tuning In," hosts El and Don invite you into their unfiltered, honest conversation about new beginnings, life transitions, and the art of finding balance in the spaces between change. Recorded live (with a side of stormy ambience and the occasional dog cameo), this introductory episode lays the foundation for candid cha...

Welcome to Shared Frequencies and the Space Between ! We’re thrilled to have you join our journey of raw, unscripted conversations. Our very first episode drops on 4th February at 6pm (UK time). Stay tuned for authentic talk, deep insights, and plenty of laughter. Mark your calendars and get ready to tune in!