Sextras

Why do we have such high expectations of our romantic partners and not of our friends? Do we just have a deeper connection with our significant others than with our friends or are our expectations setting us up for failure? In this episode we discuss whether expectations are good or bad, where they come from, and what they tell us about our relationship. We begin with our segment where we hear wha...

In this episode we have a lovely guest, Matilda, telling us all about her fairy-tale-like experience with falling for her friend and moving to another country to be with him after spending only ten days as an 'item'. We begin the episode with a segment where we ask our listeners about their craziest one night stands, also sharing ours. Matilda then moves on to how she and her boyfriend met; how sh...

The coronavirus pandemic has restructured the world as we knew it, with restrictions on who we can interact with safely, and how we can interact safely, many people have been pushed into a very strange kind of isolation. In the UK we're in the middle of our second lockdown, and more curfews and restrictions are being introduced worldwide every day. Not to mention all the people that have lost thei...

It's normal to feel nervous about introducing your girlfriend or boyfriend to your family. Sometimes they don't get on, or your parents don't approve of the person you're dating, and sometimes you scare your partner by suggesting they should be introduced 'too soon'. But it doesn't necessarily have to be a big deal, even if your family (and your partner) are extremely important to you. We begin th...

This week we are joined by our good friend Miranda, who we talk to about the harm trying to fit into labels can have on your sexual and emotional freedom. We begin the episode by hearing about some of your sexual fantasies, from joining the mile high club to having your wrists and ankles tied to the bed.  Miranda then tells us about her own experiences of sex and being labelled as sexual grow...

What are your first memories of hearing about sex? This week, we reminisce and examine the very first memories we have about sex, our attitudes around it and the things we were taught. We dive into the way our parents talked about sex, if they did at all, and the way we were initially taught what it was. Sex education is unfortunately lacking in many ways, and as we describe our experiences we def...

The idea that money equals success surrounds us. Instagram models with huge mansions, endless closets and trips to the clearest blue waters all year round. That's become the epitome of success; of envy. But does money really make us happy? For our segment this week we asked our followers a series of questions revolving around how important money is in comparison to love. We sit down with our guest...

Everyone suffers in love sometimes, but what would love look like if either party were unaware of what makes them insufferable to be around? We think it's important to be aware of what makes you difficult, even if only occasionally, and who knows? Maybe you won't be quite so offended next time someone you love points out something you need to improve in yourself. It can never hurt to notice the sm...

In light of the upcoming US presidential election, we welcome our first American guest, Alex Turner, a dear friend of Honey's and a passionate activist. To open the episode we play another game of Stereotypes , where we discuss your views on Americans, Republicans, and Democrats. Alex later breaks down how the voting system works in America and deconstructs why it's so important for everyone to ge...

Long distance relationships can be hard. Nobody - or very few people - thinks to themselves wow! I would love to live far away from my partner and only be able to see them once in a while or maybe not even once in a while and our whole relationship will basically be on the phone. Yet, many people still find themselves embarking in long distance relationships because they’ve gone to university; the...

In the progression of your life, you may one day be confronted with The Elusive Female Orgasm . The likelihood is: you either have a vulva yourself, or will one day want to sleep with someone else who does. And yes, these two things sound kind of scary but we’re here to tell you that they’re really not. We open with a segment discussing some polls, in which we asked if people were having orgasms a...

We have the wonderful Tori joining us this week, and we dive deep into bi girl stereotypes during our segment. We break down the harmful effects of being seen as slutty, greedy, fake, ‘just hopping on a trend’ and how the ‘bi girl’ identity is so often invalidated. Tori shares her experience as a queer person joining and leaving the church, and the difficulties in coming out and finding one’s iden...

Getting naked in front of someone can be pretty scary. So much so we end up spending the entire time thinking about whether we groomed our pubes to perfection rather than actually enjoying the sex itself. This week, we have a chat about the little pressures and insecurities that build up when in sexual situations, like whether your body looks good, or whether your vagina is ‘normal’. We talk about...

Unfortunately, as women of the bisexual persuasion we are outsiders to and therefore unknowing of the inner workings of gay men. However, our beautiful guest William Taylor joined us this week to gaysplain his own experiences as a gay man. We break down stereotypes about gay men during the segment, is it true that gay men are all slutty? We then dive deep into the potential impact of these stereot...

For the first time ever on Sextras, we recorded in the same room and had a chat about friendships and how they intertwine with your romantic relationships. We open with a segment in which we asked for your honest thoughts and opinions on your best friend’s significant other. With responses of concern, to dislike to jealousy, we explore the different obstacles you might face when dealing with your...

We found ourselves in love with foreign men. That was mistake number one. We decided to embark on a relationship with said foreign men. Mistake number two. So how do we maintain our sanity when faced with innate differences that we overlooked when we were falling in love? In this episode we dive into the difficulties we encountered in our experience with dating American and French men. More specif...

Why is it so easy to accept love from others yet so hard to find it in yourself? This week we talk about our struggles in learning to love our body, from societal pressures to fluctuating weight. We open up about wearing clothes that are too small in order to fit into a certain standard and how we have found a way to move away from that standard and use clothes to learn to love our bodies and expr...

What makes someone a slut? Here on Sextras we encourage slutty behaviour, and, that is to say, we encourage everyone to be sexually free and open. In this week’s segment we expose the sluttiest things you guys have done to remove some of the shame around the term ‘slut’. We then dive deep into a heated conversation where we try to dismantle slut shaming and explain why it’s harmful to be sex negat...

The concepts of ‘friends with benefits’ and ‘fuck buddies’ exist solely to make it easier, more accessible and more convenient for humans to have sex. Romantic relationships can often be emotionally taxing, whilst one night stands can be messy and frankly, you often have bad sex. Ergo: the fuck buddy. In this episode we talk about sleeping with your friends and how that is different from having a...

Sadly, sex education in school is for the most part insufficient. It often brushes over important topics, such as female pleasure and queer sexuality, thus releasing us into the world with a very limited idea of what sex is and how to have it. We expose all the things you wish you knew about sex in our segment, from queefing to female orgasms. This week, we are joined by our first guests, Carlota...

For incoming freshers, current university students, or anyone that wants a little insight into what first year at a U.K. university looks like. We expose what people’s general opinions are of sleeping with your flatmate and give tips on how to avoid it getting messy. We explore whether people are truly looking for sex or love at university and how to make clear what you're after. For most, this is...

What does the world of dating, sex and relationships look like in the midst of a pandemic? How are relationships affected when the world is called into quarantine and you may be forced into cohabitation or into a long distance relationship? We attempt to paint the picture of relationships in a COVID-19 climate in our segment asking How has quarantine affected your sex/love life moving forward? And...

The period of falling in love can often be so intense that you might find yourself going to ridiculous extremes to make your love known. From writing a poetry anthology, to flying from country to country for a little more time with someone. In our game, How Far Is Too Far we read the wild things you’ve done for love and assess whether it is indeed too far . We attempt to get to the root of these g...

There’s always a first time for everything, so let’s talk about it. First times can be sloppy, not everyone has the candlelit-stare-into-each-other’s-eyes anecdote to last through the ages. For some, it may happen in an abandoned tennis court in the middle of the day, and that’s okay! We question the concept of virginity and what 'losing it’ means to us as two bisexual girls, share the lessons lea...

In Sextras, you’ll hear two best friends have honest conversations about sex and relationships, with all the issues that surround them. From sharing funny stories, to sex tips, to hard life lessons learnt, Honey Jane Wyatt and Maria paint a candid picture of relationships of all kinds when approaching and reaching adulthood. Episodes may include heavy discussion one second and cringe worthy confes...