Sextras

For our third episode of Pride month, Honey is joined by relationships editor Daniella Parete to answer your queer dating and sex dilemmas and questions. We advise on everything from being pigeonholed as a top to how to dress as a femme lesbian. Please keep sending us your dilemmas! You can do so on Substack , Instagram , TikTok , and our website . Email us at sextraspodcast@gmail.com, leave us an...

In this episode of Sextras, Honey speaks to Zoe K, a sophrologist and somatic coach ‘for the girls, gays, and theys’. For as long as heterosexuality has been ‘the norm’, queer people have been forced into disconnect with their bodies, which naturally has a knock on effect on confidence.  Zoe tells us how sophrology – a blend of meditation, mindfulness, and breathwork – can help us feel in har...

Happy Pride month! In case it wasn't clear already, we're huge fans of the LGBTQ+ community here at Sextras, so we'll be publishing an episode a week for the rest of the month. This week, Honey talks to Samuel Douek, founder of HOWL , a sexual wellness brand and queer, sex-positive rave. Samuel tells us all about his journey into starting the brand, including why he was drawn to running queer nigh...

Happy Masturbation May! To mark one of the best months of the year (IMO) we're talking all about orgasms, and whether they need to be the goal during sex or masturbation. To start the episode, Honey talks to our deputy editor, Lucy, about faking orgasms. We discuss how the female orgasm varies from the male orgasm, and why the orgasm rates are different for women in straight relationships versus q...

If we're at all similar, you'll have been just as obsessed as I was with Temptation Island Season 2. It was the kind of show I had a million questions about: why would anyone go on it in the first place? What is it like to be on the show? Did the cast have any regrets? And, no shade, but the reunion didn't answer most of them. Thankfully, on this week's episode of the podcast I got to sit down wit...

Happy Lesbian Visibility Week 2026! On this week's episode, I'm joined by Katie, founder of Labeless , a queer sex toy company. Katie tells me all about her latest release (hint: it's a sapphic sex toy) and we jump into why labels are sometimes problematic when it comes to lesbian sex. I ask Katie what kinds of sex toys can be used during lesbian sex, and how beginners or couples can start to inte...

Internet feminism has latched onto a long-contested debate: can you work in porn and be a feminist? In this episode, Honey is joined by Cat, the head of creative, community at education at female-led porn company Ersties, to mull it over. They talk about what it's really like working for a female-led porn company, how it made Cat realise she wanted to date women, what the state of the porn industr...

This episode we’re joined by sex and relationships educator, coach, and sexologist, Amari Leigh to talk about how you can have better luck in sex and dating.  Everyone’s in a situationship nowadays, and no one’s fucking! (We don’t have to tell you, we’re sure). If you need a little extra helping hand, Amari joins to give us her dating and sex tips. Thanks for listening! You can find Amari on...

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Not to sound conspiratorial or whatever, but Big Tech doesn't want us to talk about sex on social media. But it's not just sex, and specifically pleasure, that's not allowed. Women's health content, LGBTQ+ issues, and sexual wellbeing is also not allowed – especially not when it's posted by marginalised community. So let's get into it: in this episode we paint a picture of the breadth of digi...

If there's one aspect of sex that's severely misunderstood, it's kink. From 50 Shades of Grey misrepresenting it as being non-consensual and all about pain, to the stigma of openly associating with any kind of desire that's not ✨mainstream✨ it can be a little intimidating to consciously decide to engage in kink for the first time. And not least because there's so much information out there that,...

It's no secret talking about sex can be awkward – that is, if you get round to doing it at all. But what with a lack of sex education, the fact that pleasure for women and LGBTQ+ people is basically completely ignored, and not to mention the rise of conservatism, it can be almost impossible to know what to say and how to describe your pleasure. That's where sexual confidence is crucial. This week,...

You can run (in circles) but you can’t hide from the panopticon, so of course we had to make our first episode of season four all about how surveillance culture plays out in relationships and sex. If you’ve not heard of the extremely esoteric (joking!) philosopher Foucault, don’t worry – we start the episode explaining exactly what panopticon theory is and why you should care, before diving into h...

It’s been (nearly) five years since we started the podcast and, while we’ve been on a shamefully long hiatus, we thought it would be just about time we reflected on what exactly we’ve learned about sex and relationships. We discuss how our perception of sex, relationships, and friendship have evolved from the start of our 20s to our mid-20s (ew), from going after lots of sex at university for vali...

Sextras is back! Once again it's been a while but we promise it's for good reason and we get into why in this little catch up episode. We start with the headlines, namely revealing a new relationship, the challenges of living with a partner, moving out of a family home, and the fact that neither of us are unemployed any longer. Honey discusses moving out of her family home for the first time at 24...

Our masculinity miniseries has been a little negative up until now (we’re aware of it at least!). But this week that all changes because we’re joined by Ben Hurst – activist, educator, and Head of Facilitation and Training at Beyond Equality – to discuss how we can rethink masculinity. As someone who regularly works with young boys in schools, we talk to Ben about what representation boys see of m...

Christmas could not have come sooner with this episode as Lovehoney has sent us their 24-Day Advent Calendar to try and we’re opening it with their resident sexual wellness advisor, Sarah Tomchesson!  We start the episode telling Sarah what we’re experimenting with in our sex lives, before diving into the calendar to find different sex toys, from vibrators, to butt plugs, cock rings and restr...

In the second episode of our Masculinity miniseries, we unpack everything to do with male friendships. While it comes as no surprise to some of us, the fact that men don’t have supportive friendships has been in the news a lot of late, with claims that there’s a male friendship recession and that men are lonelier than ever. After years of wondering what men talk to their friends about, we thought...

Welcome to the first episode of our Masculinity miniseries!  Masculinity has been under scrutiny the last few years: on one side, there are claims that masculinity is “toxic”, “fragile” or “in crisis”, and on the other there are those who claim “not all men” are responsible for this poor perception of masculinity.  While we fully support bad behaviour being held to account here at Sextra...

In even the most accepting of households, children pick up on their parents’ beliefs about sex. If that includes restricting sex or teaching that it is inherently bad, that can lead to sexual shame that persists throughout our lives and shows up not just in our sex lives, but also in our entire emotional wellbeing.  This week, we’re joined by spiritual and sexual psychologist Kaamna Bhojwani...

Have you ever had sex so good you wish you could freeze the memory in time? This week we’re joined by Carly Pifer, founder of Aurore, a curated collection of erotica written by and for women and LGBTQIA+ people, that encourages you to do just that by writing a story based on your real sex experiences. Carly tells us how she started Aurore and how erotica is different from other kinds of porn. Wher...

There are so many stereotypes about Gen Z it’s hard to keep track of where they’re really at: they’re a sexless generation, they’re the most sensitive because they have a victim mentality. They want to be parents, they don’t want to have babies because they’re worried about the planet; they’ll be the best parents… oh no, wait, they’ll be the worst.  But parenting has changed a lot over the ye...

Raising kids is hard in a bunch of different ways, but one of the main things parents dread is having the inevitable “talk” with their children. How do you have the talk, when should you have it, what is appropriate to say: these are all questions that nobody really gives parents the answers to. But what if that one, all-important moment never needed to happen, because kids got the information the...

After having a literal human come out of you, getting little to no sleep and suddenly being entirely responsible for another human being is not exactly conducive to new parents’ sex life. But when you are at a point where you want to start having sex again, what do you do? Cecile Gasnault, brand director of Smile Makers Collection, joins us this week to tell us all about the research the company h...

TW: substance abuse, anticipatory grief We’ve all been sold the idea that you’re meant to experiment in your 20s, something that our guest this week missed out on. Author and professor Jessica Hendry Nelson joins us to talk about being in a relationship for the whole of her 20s and eventually ending that relationship because of differing interests. Jessica starts the episode telling us about her u...