Sex Worth Having

What does a raisin have to do with better sex? More than you might think. In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare Sente explores how mindfulness can deepen pleasure, connection, and desire in long-term relationships. Most of us spend much of our lives on autopilot, moving through our days without fully noticing what's right in front of us. The same thing can happen in our relationships. We stop...

Many people hear the word kink and immediately think of something extreme. But what if kink has less to do with whips, chains, or dungeons and more to do with communication, trust, curiosity, and connection? In this episode, intimacy coach Faith Laux joins Clare to explore what kink really is and why so many people are curious about it. They discuss how healthy kink relies on clear communication,...

When was the last time your partner felt unmistakably wanted by you? And when was the last time you felt wanted by them? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores one of the deepest human longings in long-term relationships: the need to feel desired. Many couples still love each other deeply, but somewhere along the way, they stop expressing desire. The relationship becomes focused on sc...

What if early ejaculation isn’t really about lack of control… but a nervous system that has learned to rush, brace, and panic during intimacy?   In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores the hidden anxiety, shame, and nervous system patterns behind early ejaculation—and why so many successful men silently struggle with it. Instead of focusing on numbing creams, distraction tricks, o...

What happens to intimacy when hormones, sleep, stress, and a woman’s nervous system all begin to change during peri-menopause and menopause? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare explores one of the most misunderstood topics in long-term relationships: how hormonal changes in midlife affect desire, arousal, orgasm, emotional connection, and a woman’s ability to relax into intimacy. You’ll lea...

Why does sex sometimes leave you feeling empty instead of fulfilled? In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare Sente sits down with somatic sex educator and sexological bodyworker Ariel Szabo to explore why so many men feel disconnected after sex – and why it should not be about orgasm alone. Learn the difference between disembodied and embodied pleasure, why performance-focused sex leaves many c...

What if dominance wasn’t about control—but about leadership, trust, and creating deeper connection? In this episode of Sex Worth Having , Clare sits down with sex and relationship coach Brandon the Dom to explore how power dynamics, when grounded in consent and care, can bring new energy, polarity, and excitement into long-term relationships. You’ll learn: the difference between dominance and domi...

When illness enters your relationship, intimacy often gets pushed aside—but it may be the very thing that helps you both get through it. In this episode, Clare explores how fear, stress, and uncertainty affect connection, and why intimacy becomes even more important during challenging times. You’ll learn how to stay close without pressure, redefine intimacy beyond sex, and create meaningful moment...

Do you think you’re going slow enough in the bedroom? What feels slow to you is often still too fast for your partner’s body to fully register and feel. Many of us live at a constant “60 miles an hour,” stuck in a stressed, distracted state that blocks the kind of deep, connected intimacy long-term relationships need. It’s time to discover the power of slowing down. This shift begins when someone...

If sex has slowed down or stopped, the way back isn’t pressure—it’s a different kind of touch. In this episode of Sex Worth Having , Clare introduces nurturing touch as a powerful way to rebuild connection, reduce pressure, and help your partner’s body relax again. You’ll learn why touch that doesn’t lead to sex can actually restore desire, how to break the cycle of pressure and rejection, and sim...

Simple Ways To Add Fun, Curiosity, And Connection To Your Sex Life How do you bring playfulness into the bedroom—especially if it’s never been there? If sex has started to feel routine, serious, or pressured, you’re not alone. Many couples lose the sense of fun and curiosity that keeps intimacy alive. In this episode of Sex Worth Having, Clare talks with Eros and Trisha, founders of LitUp , about...

How do you keep sex exciting in a long-term relationship? If intimacy has started to feel predictable—or like you’re both going through the motions—you’re not alone. Most couples were never taught that there are many different ways to connect sexually. Over time, relying on the same pattern can lead to boredom, pressure, or even quiet disconnection. In this episode of Sex Worth Having , Clare intr...

What if you could stop guessing how your partner wants to be touched—and simply ask? Most couples struggle to talk about touch. One partner may wish the other would be clearer, while the other feels unsure, awkward, or afraid of getting it wrong. In this episode of Sex Worth Having , Clare sits down with Dr. Betty Martin, creator of the Wheel of Consent and the Three-Minute Game—a simple but power...

For many women, desire doesn’t come first—it comes after connection, touch, and feeling safe. So when she’s not “in the mood,” it can feel confusing… or even like rejection. In this episode of Sex Worth Having , Clare introduces the concept of responsive desire—a natural pathway into sexual interest that many women, especially in midlife, experience. When you understand how desire actually works,...

What if the most powerful thing you could bring to the bedroom isn’t a new move—but your full attention? Learning how to be better in bed isn’t about mastering techniques or memorizing moves. What most partners respond to is attention, presence, and the feeling of being truly seen and felt. When you slow down and bring your awareness into the moment, intimacy becomes more responsive, connected, an...

Men over 50: Want deeper connection and better sex in your long-term relationship? Sex Worth Having shows you how to become the partner she’s actually dreaming about. Great sex isn’t about performance. It’s about presence, attunement, and knowing how to meet your partner’s changing body and desire — especially in midlife and menopause. Hosted by Clare Sente, Sex Worth Having is a podcast for men w...