Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective

June 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Wife thinks she has to be mean to our children Golden showers (again) Wife can’t decide if she loves me or not Just because you’re experienced, doesn’t mean you’re qualified Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: SWM 029...

SWM 135 - It's good to try new things. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Most kids, when growing up, enter a picky stage at some point.  Some when they’re toddlers, some when they’re young children, some when they become teenagers.  When our 3rd or 4th kid entered this phase, everyone knew the response when they didn’t want to eat something new that we’d made.  “It’s good to...

SWM 133 - Loving your spouse where they are. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. I often give beginner homework to my coaching clients. A few of them will likely read this and think, “He was talking about me.” You’re not wrong, but you’re also not alone. I give it out frequently because it helps combat some fundamental problems I see in many marriages: resentment, unmet expect...

SWM 132 - Breast implants and body image issues. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. This episode I'm answer a question I received back in February that I forgot to answer. Here's the question: Hi! To start, I just wanted to say thank you so much for what you do! Your podcast has been immensely eye-opening and helpful! Now, to my question. I am in my 30s, and my husband and I...

SWM 131 - Tips to fight more effectively in your marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Last week, I shared a list of ideas our Couple’s Night group had that helped build a resilient marriage. At the end of the call, we still had some time and started discussing fighting more effectively. Again, the group came up with some excellent ideas I want to share today. Because...

SWM 128 - Marriages require recalibration. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. There’s an old quip about how men get married expecting their wives to stay the same, and women get married expecting to be able to change their men, and neither gets what they want. It’s funny because often, there’s an element of truth to this, which frustrates both spouses. Of course, it doesn’t a...

March 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: Why am I not interested in sexy any more after having a baby? How do I get my wife to rest without guilt? Why does my wife dismiss my advice when she asks for it? How do I get my wife engaged in sexual growth? Are men infatuated wit...

SWM 126 - Unspoken nuances of understanding. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Marriage is a cosmic tapestry, a constellation of souls woven into the fabric of time, where vows echo in the heart's language, shaping a journey of shared whispers and laughter. It's a dance of compromise and compassion, a symphony where individual melodies blend into a shared harmony, with time...

SWM 125 - Rethinking Duty Sex. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. I've had a lot of conversations with couples as well as husbands and wives individually lately about what often gets called "duty sex" or "pity sex." For those who don't know, duty/pity sex is when one spouse gives in to sex, not because they desire it themselves, but because their spouse does. They might have...

SWM 124 - My daughter's speech - A vaccine against the epidemic of transgenderism. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Today I've got something a bit different than the usual fare. Last year, for our 100th episode, I had my eldest daughter present her 4H speech as I felt it fit the scope of this blog. This year, she wrote a part 2. She won at her local club, and placed second...

January and February 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: The monthly masturbation challenge How do I make anal sex enjoyable for her? Periods and vacations and sex Aging and orgasm struggles How do I know if I’m in right? Does fantasizing about my husband make it a shared e...

SWM 122 - How to make your spouse more attractive to you. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. If you look online, you can find tons of videos, articles, podcasts, products and more about how to make yourself more attractive to your spouse or potential partners. I mean, it's everywhere. You can also find resources to help you make your spouse more attractive by changing them. W...

SWM 121 - Why marriage should be hard work. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. I made a post on social media some time ago saying, “Marriage is hard, divorce is hard, choose your hard,” and someone asked me if I then disagreed with some other bloggers and podcasters who say that marriage is and should be easy.  This post expands on what I wrote in response to that question. T...

SWM 120 - How you may be making your birth control methods ineffective. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. A few years ago, I was talking to a client during a coaching call, and we got off on a bit of a tangent about condom use. I explained a few ways that people tend to lower the protection of condoms when they use them. He was, well, shocked because he'd done many of them a...

November and December 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: How do you use a vibrator? Is roleplaying marriage a sin? Will a dildo make me unsatisfied with my husband? Wife makes excuses about everything When to start talking to your kids about sex? Wife caught me watching po...

SWM 117 - Why do I want sex when I'm sick? Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Well, it’s winter here, which means cold and flu season.  So, of course, the last couple of weeks, it’s been rolling through our family of 7.  Christina and I were the last to get it, and it seemed I got it worse than her.  She complained about being sick but still working out multiple times daily (...

SWM 116 - Why do I always have to tell my husband how to help? Check out the blog post here for more details and links. Lately, I've noticed a trend on social media where famous creator couples make videos of the wife telling the husband that visitors are coming over and they need to prepare. In response, the husband goes and starts cleaning out the attic and crawlspace, going through keepsakes, a...

SWM 114 - Understanding and Navigating Sexual Obligations in a Christian Marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links. I had a wife ask, Sex should be a gift given freely, and if I don’t have veto power, am I really giving freely? This is my response in light of 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 and the role model Jesus was for us dying on the cross. If you have a different opinion than I d...

September 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links. In this episode, we are tackling the subjects: A husband's changing orgasms Can widowers masturbate Husband won't stop masturbation habit Calling husband "daddy" Feeling guilty about initiating sex Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast: Guide to edging Is it sinf...

SWM 112 - Do men have it harder when it comes to sexual expectations? Check out the blog post here for more details and links. This podcast episode is answering this question I received from our anonymous Have A Question page: Hi Jay, I've noticed a dichotomy when it comes to expectations for male and female sex drives and what's considered desirable sexual performance. As a man, I feel like there...