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In this heartfelt and empowering episode, I’m getting real about what it means to be a highly sensitive woman. From personal experiences to powerful insights, I’m sharing why sensitivity is not something that needs to be fixed, but rather, something to be celebrated.   We’ll explore how the world has conditioned many of us to believe our deep emotions and big feelings are flaws, and I’ll offer a d...

Because sometimes we all need a moment to catch our breath, The Highly Sensitive Woman podcast is taking a break. I'll be back on July 24th with new episodes. Until then, listen to some of your favorites or get caught up on episodes you may have missed.   Want to connect with me and other Highly Sensitive Women?   ➡️ Share your wins and aha moments on Facebook:  Life Coaching with Allyssya  or Ins...

How often do you let other people decide how your time together will unfold — what you’ll do, when you’ll do it, even what you’ll talk about? You show up, but you leave feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected — like you can’t fully be yourself. Today, I’m pulling back the curtain on how this subtle form of people-pleasing keeps you from building the deep, meaningful connections you truly crav...

We all experience those moments when self-doubt creeps in — sometimes it’s triggered by a specific event, and other times it shows up uninvited, with no clear reason at all. The important part is what happens next. Do we let that doubt take over, or do we make a conscious choice to shift toward confidence? In this episode, we’re diving into practical ways to help you do just that. In this Part 2 e...

Do you ever feel like you aren’t good enough? We all have those moments, sometimes because something happened and sometimes there’s no explanation for it, but it’s what we do next that determines if we continue down the low-confidence spiral or shift in the other direction with confidence boosters. In Part 1, I’m sharing 5 tactics you can do today to invigorate you and foster a sense of self-assur...

I used to go through life with an undercurrent of irritation all of the time, and didn’t really understand why. Then I heard this quote from Neil Strauss: “Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.” The concept was enlightening, and I also wasn’t sure how to start saying what I wanted because I’d rarely done it.   In this episode, you’ll learn:   🩵 How to check in with yourself before s...

When old thought patterns creep back in, try not to panic because it’s a totally normal part of life and you're just learning to dance to the new soundtrack you’re creating for yourself. In this episode, I’m going behind the scenes of being human and reminding you that you are not alone when it feels like you’ve stumbled backward. In truth, a stronger, more confident you is emerging.    Want to be...

Have you felt misunderstood your entire life, so you stay guarded when interacting with people, waiting until you feel safe to open up and show them the real you? Being rejected is painful, and so is going through life guarded, pretending to be a version of yourself that isn’t entirely authentic. Letting your guard down is risky, and you might get rejected. There’s also the possibility that by sho...

Do you ever say No to an invitation because you fear you won’t have enough energy to do it, even though you would rather say Yes? What we do before and during an activity makes a huge difference in our enjoyment of the experience. In this episode, I’m sharing how you can expand your capacity to do more by offering ways to protect your energy, because when you preserve your energy, you get to have...

Most of us go through life trying to avoid the pain of rejection, judgment and failure, not realizing that our comfort zone isn’t so cozy, and that by not pushing beyond those limits, we are guaranteeing rejection, judgment, and failure. Inside this episode, you’ll discover there’s discomfort outside your comfort zone and there’s a lot of discomfort inside your comfort zone too, and we’ll begin ex...

If you spend hours, days, weeks, or maybe even years replaying conversations and interactions in your mind, you are not alone. In this episode, I share how ruminating robs us of time and so much more.    Key takeaways: 🩵 Ruminating takes a TON of energy 🩵 We are innately selfish creatures, and that’s not a bad thing 🩵 You are already living your worst fear 🩵 Ruminating robs you of the connecti...

Are you someone who rarely, if ever, expresses your needs because the thought of it makes you uncomfortable? Do you worry that you might upset someone or be a burden? In this episode, I candidly share: 🩵 What unspoken expectations actually create 🩵 How resentment feels like you are angry at another person, but that anger is misdirected 🩵 The truth about the discomfort that you feel when you exp...

What we believe about ourselves determines the actions we take. Do you struggle with self-doubt and the belief that you are worthy of something more? Something better? Something different? Today, I’m opening up about a time when I believed I was not worthy of different circumstances and the frustration we feel when we’re in a season of transition from who we used to be into who we are becoming. I...

Ever felt like you don’t follow through with things you desire over and over again, but don’t know why? In today’s episode, I’m diving into how perfectionism is playing a role. Many people think perfectionism comes from a place of arrogance, but that is far from accurate.   Key Takeaways: The root of perfectionism 3 ways perfectionism prevents you from saying, doing, and producing what you want An...

If you ever find yourself needing a nap while it feels like everyone else has limitless energy, this episode is for you! I’m being open about how my energy was low and some things I did to conserve it. I’m also sharing how a friend and I navigated evening plans when both of us were struggling to make decisions and the vulnerability we had with each other. Want to learn more about letting go of sha...

I used to believe I was destined to live a life void of inner peace because, as much as I tried to find it, I continued to experience constant inner turmoil. It wasn’t until I started setting boundaries that I got a glimpse of what was possible, and everything changed. If inner peace is eluding you, don’t miss this week’s episode as I teach a practical exercise to begin the process of setting boun...

If you’re like me, as a Highly Sensitive Woman, I went through life feeling like I was broken because I didn’t fit in a box. It took me years to realize that I was not innately broken, but by trying to contort myself to fit in the box, some pieces of me did break. In this episode, I share the secret to self-acceptance as a Highly Sensitive Woman and offer an exercise to try over the next 30 days t...

Are you someone for whom all emotion comes out in tears? And do those tears prevent you from connecting with others?   I am a “crier” and for decades I hated that characteristic. My crying often led to frustration, feeling misunderstood, and consequently, I held back from telling people what I was thinking and feeling. When I finally accepted the tears and stopped resisting them or shoving them do...

Do you find yourself feeling depleted because you overextend yourself? Do you spend a lot of time and energy ruminating and perseverating on what you said or wish you’d said?   I used to agree to things immediately, then later regret making that commitment. I’ve also spent countless hours replaying conversations and wishing I’d had the “right words” in the moment.   In this episode, I share tactic...

Have you ever been so overwhelmed that you couldn’t enjoy an experience with your family or friends? Did you have to leave early or find yourself choosing not to go at all?   For many years, I struggled with overwhelming anxiety in social settings and everyday activities. And then it became a cycle of being overwhelmed at the event, so I became less inclined to go to another one, which led to more...

Do you lack or have limited self-confidence? Have fear of trying something new? Tell yourself “I could never do _____”?   For years, I tried to change how I am wired, and ended up depressed and a shell of myself. I became fearful of almost everything. I rarely left the house, and wasn’t honest with those closest to me about my thoughts and feelings. I had no confidence to be myself.   Eventually,...

Have you spent years focusing on other people’s needs, wants, desires, or expectations of you and feel like you don’t know yourself or your true purpose? When you try to figure it out, does your brain go blank and you feel stuck?   Several years ago, I found myself completely disconnected from what I liked, who I was, or my purpose in the world. And, at first, the idea of figuring it out seemed so...

Welcome to The Highly Sensitive Woman podcast. Do you have a hard time accepting yourself? Have trouble fitting in and think there’s something wrong with you? Do you feel misunderstood, especially when your emotions are heightened? My name is Allyssya, and I’m a Highly Sensitive Woman. For decades, I lacked the confidence to be myself. I worried so much about what everyone else thought of me and c...