Self-Help Junkie

Another season of Love is Blind is set for September, so I’ve brought on Dr. Diane to talk about all things reality TV. From The Bachelorette to Love Island and Love is Blind, we apply attachment theory and see what we can learn from the chaos that ensues! Our book this week is Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love by Amir Levine and Rachel He...

Are you overwhelmed by loud noises or bright lights? Highly empathetic? Been told you are ‘too sensitive’?You may be a HSP, a Highly Sensitive Person as described by Dr. Elaine Aron. Sheryl Green is on to share how she and her partner navigates life now that they better understand this personality trait. Join us for a reflective episode to understand yourself, your partners or a friend a little be...

It’s been a while since we’ve had a male perspective on the show. Zee is here to give us some insights on his journey to his own version of masculinity, in part due to David Deida’s The Way of the Superior Man. We discuss the lessons as well as the more controversial points to see what we can take away from the book. ----------Key points discussed in this episode: What are masculine and feminine e...

Low Libido, ED, or just a busy schedule. Getting in the mood isn’t always easy but Lee Jagger is here to rock your bedroom. Indirectly, of course. She is here to teach us easy ways to spice up your life. Join us for a fun episode but be warned, you will laugh out loud. No self-help book this week, but plenty of hands-on experience!----------Key points discussed in this episode: How tickling his pi...

When you have questions about jealousy, who better to ask than a polyamorous jealousy research psychologist, Dr. Joli Hamilton? She shares her parallel journey into a triad and her research. No self-help book this week, but plenty to learn!----------Key points discussed in this episode: The difference between envy and jealousy How to navigate jealousy What monogamists can learn from polyamorous re...

Emotional labor is the unseen, unnoticed, and unanticipated mental load of managing a household and it often falls on women. Should it? In this episode, we delve in with Regina Lark, author of the book "Emotional Labor: Why A Woman’s Work is Never Done and What To Do About It." Through thought-provoking discussions, we explore the impact of this labor imbalance on women's well-being and relationsh...

When you start a new job, you go over the role and responsibilities. Why wouldn't you do that with your partner? This week, I have my boyfriend on to go over our experience discussing the romantic details of our contractual obligations when we first started dating. Key points discussed in this episode: Thoughts and feelings during the conversation How we fight & apologize better Establishing H...

Are you a grown-ass woman ready to date like one? When you are in your 40's, 50's or 60's, you aren't here to play games and mess around. Well, unless you are. 😜 Martha Bodyfelt is here to talk about dating that feels good to you and prioritizing that throughout the dating process. We'll be basing our discussion around Attached, an essential in the world of romantic self-help but if you haven't r...

What do you look for in a man? The traits listed in internet articles have 9-35 traits you should look for. You know what is on all of those lists? EQ, a fairly new concept, only popularized in the 90's. We have on Katy Clark to discuss the difference in men and women and how that shapes the relationships we are in. Key points discussed in this episode: Finding the 20% (dating gems) The 3-3-3 Rule...

If you were out of the dating game for half a decade or more, you would have been coming back to a new world. That's what happened to our guest Jon Hwang, communication expert and dating success. To navigate dating profiles, situationships and ghosting, Jon read Modern Romance by Aziz Anasari to help him find love again. Key points discussed in this episode: Ghosting vs Integrity Online Dating Bur...

In this episode, we dive deep into the realm of relationships and finances, exploring how couples can navigate the often tricky waters of money management together. Our special guest, Melissa Leon, brings her expertise from her book, Efficiency Bitch , to shed light on practical strategies for achieving financial harmony with your partner. Key points discussed in this episode: Planning financially...

Sometime we want what is bad for us but is that so terrible? Existential Kink helps us delve into guilty pleasures and takeaway the guilt so we can enjoy every experience. Marianna has dedicated her life to helping others figure out what they want but that started with her own journey. Key points discussed in this episode: How to make a turnon of a turnoff How to take control of your perception Wh...

We've all been torn over a guy. Maybe he is really smart, funny and sweet but there is just no spark. Or he is sexy and turns you on but is totally a f*ck boy. Why do we say yes even though parts of us are saying no? I sit down with Magda Kay to discuss the ins and outs of our internal conflict and discuss her book, No More Faking It , to get to the bottom of it. Key points discussed in this episo...

Break ups, not the part of romance we think about but it certainly happens to all of us. We discuss how we can get through them better with Dorothy with 'You are a Badass' by Jen Sincero. Sort through the chaos and find power in making decisions that are right for you.

This week I'm on with Bex to hand over control and fully relax into surrender. We'll be discussing Tosha Silver's It's Not Your Money. Let go of anxiety and stress to embrace the idea of abundance. You will be okay if the bus is late, you will be okay if work is delayed. Entering a state of trust will allow you to see more opportunity and options. It's like taking blinder off. You'll be able to en...

If you want 9 years experience from a young couple, this is the episode for you! I'm joined by my good friend Imani and John to discuss Brene Brown's Gift of Imperfection. When you think of romance, you don't often think of shame being an obstacle for breakups but it is often the root of problems. Peel back all the layers of the onion and get ready to laugh and cry. 

This week, I'm alone in a room talk about a book that started me on my self-help journey, The 5 Languages of Love by Gary Chapman. While the book is not without its problems, I'm surprised that guests weren't clambering to discuss this book but it also gave me the opportunity to indulge and share my stories. If you've heard about the 5 Languages, I'd highly recommend you take a deeper dive to see...

This week, I'm talking to Yatin Mistry, a LGBT Mindset Coach about the grandfather to self-help books, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. The book centers around learning independence before being able to enter a healthy interdependent relationship. No matter where you are on the journey of life, this is a book to return to when you are feeling out of balance. Join us as we disc...

This week, I'm talking to Brett Bailey, a Men's Coach about the popular A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. Consciousness may sound hippy-dippy but it is much more grounded than you think. It has real-life effects on your well-being and your relationships. Join us as we discuss our continuous journey and battle it out as my logical brain wraps around such a flighty concept.

Life didn't give us a guide, so we're piecing it together one self-help book at a time. Join me, Erika Ng, a communication coach and less of a mess than last year.