Self-Coaching

Understanding and eliminating relationship struggle, apathy, and conflict isn’t rocket science, not once you know what to do and how to do it. You’ll learn about relationship trust, partner and self awareness, fidelity, relationship maturity, and most importantly taking the leap and risking love.   If I had one wish, it would be for every couple to realize just how simple and effortless true lovin...

“We have met the enemy and he is us.” (Pogo, 1970) Life doesn’t stop us from reaching our goals, we stop us. Self-distrust, pessimism, negativity, fear–whatever the circumstances that frustrate you, there’s a way. If not through the front door, then the side door, the back door…there’s always a way! Whatever your goals, in this episode you'll learn the three components necessary for guaranteeing s...

Ever wonder, “What’s the meaning of life?” Of course you have. How did you answer? Did you solve this age-old riddle? In this episode, I’d like to present a Self-Coaching solution that will allow you to cultivate a better, more intimate understanding of how to live a more meaningful life.

Want to feel better about yourself? This episode of Self-Coaching will teach you how to embrace who and what you are. It’s time to recognize that in order to be your best self, you need to learn to 1.) understand your uniqueness, 2.) stop comparing yourself to others, and 3.) update your adolescent perceptions of self and life. Whether it’s your lack of self-confidence, a sense of inferiority, or...

In the episode you're going to learn that fear is an unavoidable part of being human. You may not be able to eliminate all fear from you life, but you can definitely learn to manage these skirmishes. It may sound like emotional sleight of hand, but fear is nothing more than speculation. Not a neutral form of speculation, like anticipating when things will improve, but more of a worrisome anticipat...

Do you ever find yourself repeatedly let down by your so-called friends? The problem may not be with your friends—not exactly—but with your expectations instead. If you find yourself disappointed or confused by your relationships, perhaps it’s time to learn about what I call Relationship Orbits. In this Self-Coaching episode, you’ll find that once your relationships are assigned to their proper or...

In this episode, you’ll see that worrying is a form of psychological friction, an anticipation of future chaos—things going wrong (we don't worry about things going right). Whether you try to control your life by worrying, over-thinking, ruminating, being too cautious, fearful or doubtful; worrying is never the answer and if you’re stumbling emotionally, it’s always at the root of the problem. Rat...

There’s no question that understanding the historical reasons for your emotional struggles can offer some valuable perspective. But from a Self-Coaching perspective, understanding the “why” you suffer, as enlightening and helpful as it may be, isn’t as important as the “what” you’re going to do about it. If, for example, you’re trying to quit smoking cigarettes, do you think it matters why you too...

In this episode, I discuss why your attitude affects not only how you see the world, but also how the world sees you. Did you know that people with positive attitudes are seen as being physically more attractive than people with negative attitudes? It’s a fact! It’s also a fact that attitudes are learned and attitudes can be “unlearned.” Understand that neither the optimist nor the pessimist knows...