Self Care and Chill With Maui

This episode I talk about what inspired me to name my upcoming tour “For The Lovers” heartbreak and love was the inspiration. To experience love is a blessing but to be able to experience heartbreak and learn something is a blessing too. To walk out of heartbreak and not have allowed it to make you cold or change your heart is a blessing. So many of us have been hurt to our core yet we still decid...

Can you believe this podcast is almost 6 years old? I’m grateful. On this episode I talk about exactly what the title says, how life be lifing! Trying to balance motherhood and show up for myself. Not always getting it right but staying committed to taking things one day at a time. It takes a real desire and commitment to make sure that you’re intentional about showing up for yourself and giving y...

Happy New Year everyone. On this episode I touch on a few things that would be beneficial to work on in the new year. Locking in with yourself and tapping into discipline. Giving yourself grace and sticking with you boundaries. Being honest about how you really feel and not waiting until you can no longer take something to finally explode with your true emotions. I have also included a free ebook...

This episode is about growing apart and needing space. Not allowing your ego to get in the way of maintaining relationships or friendships that are meaningful to you. It’s really hard when you love someone or you want to make it work with them but it’s just not happening. If you can relate this episode is for you. Tickets to my upcoming shows Philly https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/93060025/maui-the-...

So many things have happened to me and here is an update of what’s been going on. Just some girl talk and of course some advice. Just reflecting on friendship and love; there is so much that I have learned from my journey . And I’m so grateful that, you all have been growing with me and watching all of this happen is real time. Make sure you check out my website for my new book and show tickets. h...

On this episode I talk about a blog that I wrote on my Substack about what friendships have taught me in this season of my life of being on tour. How curiosity can give us the clarity that we need all by just asking our friends questions and not avoiding uncomfortable conversations. Clarity gives us space to be vulnerable and get closer. But your friends don’t deserve to be treated like they are d...

On this episode I talk about being in a situation with a person who provides the bare minimum to you spiritually but enjoys the benefits of your company and enjoying you sexually. Knowing and understanding that, people are doing what we allow them to do, because we are not properly communicating our standards or expectations. How do we get to a point that someone is coming over our houses all the...

On this episode I talk about how it pays for you to take things slow and really get to know someone. Dating for a week and then it turning into sex and then hanging out at your place or their place is not dating. That’s just laying up. I give my opinion on what I feel like dating should look like, how to be intentional with the questions you’re asking and how to not waste your time or have someone...

On this episode I talk about so many different things. Settling, knowing your worth, being exhausted trying to make a relationship work and spreading yourself thin. This was a really good episode. I’m also going on tour and would love to see yall there here are some links for what I have going on! Preorder my new book Still Unlearning https://www.mauithewriter.com/products/pre-order-still-unlearni...

Happy muvas day to every woman, mother or not. Todays episode I honor a few different dynamics of mothers, sisters and daughters and what it means to be a mother. Today is also my first show of the year on Mothers day and in NY how ironic for it to be today of all days? I am so excited, you can still get tickets to join us using the link below. Enjoy. https://citywinery.com/new-york-city/events/ma...

On this episode of who do you love I talk about nurturing other relationships outside of our romantic ones. I challenge you to prioritize the things that are important to you and that you enjoy doing with the same enthusiasm used to plan a date with your man. We neglect so many aspects of who we are to show up for other people, we stop spending time with friends and family or even self development...

This episode I talk about seeking validation from our friends and partners. Making our own decisions and being comfortable with the choices that we make. It is so easy to get caught up in how we think other people are viewing us or their perceptions of us. Making choices you are happy with unapologetically. I have a mother’s day poetry show coming up in New York and have also included the ticket l...

Are you entertaining transactional relationships by overextending yourself, people pleasing or associating your worth with being needed? Some people love of for what we do not who we are and what we can offer that benefits them . The quote goes “judge a man by his patience when he has nothing and his attitude when he has everything” People tolerate more when they need someone it’s not until they a...

The poem in the beginning is called “you ain’t never loved nothing”. This episode I talk about letting go, being uncomfortable, celebrating yourself and all that you have. I had a conversation yesterday where I mentioned this, but this has always been a theme in my life. Not celebrating myself or my journey just always focusing on what I need to do next or be better at. Look around, you so far fro...

Today I talk about Ramadan and fasting. Fasting from social media and people. Starting a 30 day self care challenge. Prioritizing your time so you can take care of yourself and not make excuses for all the stuff you need to be doing. How would you feel if you realized the biggest distractions In your life were the people you are around? Are you not able to juggle it all, are you being a follower o...

It’s been a while and I have missed all of you. I have still been going to therapy and now back to working on my psychology degree. Being a mom of 3 has been dragging me by the hair but I’m doing my best! On this episode I touch on a few topics Forgiveness Being mindful of who you take advice from and tell your business to Being mindful of when you are wasting your advice on people who are committ...

On this episode we talk about pacing yourself when dated to give yourself time to see exactly who someone is. It is no benefit to us to move fast when taking our time could not only lead to the same results but more than likely better results. Pacing your love because not everyone deserves it and sometimes we have so much of it to give too much of our love to people who are only there to use us up...

On this episode we talk about a few things and one of those things are the reason behind why it is easier for some of us women to give more grace to the men in our lives who have betrayed us but not to the women in our lives who we have built friendships with? Granted I do understand that there are complex situations, but in the scenarios where a conversation could have been had why did that not h...

If you’re tuned into this episode know that I miss you and am so happy and grateful that you all have been patient with me. But as I said, write down a few things that you do without blaming someone. Because there is always going to be someone who mishandled you, but I want you to focus on the emotions that you felt instead and how it has shaped you. Also when I say “Why do you do the things you d...

On this episode I talk about having the strength to leave a person that isn’t good for you | Giving yourself grace for not knowing better and the patience to do better. | I want people to write down a prayer for themselves that they can go back to, to remind them that they deserve better. Ask yourself why do I keep settling for this? Why do I keep going back? Why can I not be alone ? For tickets t...

On this episode we talk about standing firm on our boundaries when it comes to how we allow people to treat us and show up for us. Not being afraid to express exactly what it is that we want. Holding people accountable but also holding ourselves accountable also. And treating self care like it is a necessity, which it is in order to take care of yourself. If you haven’t check out my books on my we...

On this episode we have our special guest AJ McQueen. I ask him about growing up in St. Louis, mental health, relationships, his inner child, therapy and what does self care mean to him. The episode was really great and he dropped so many gems that people would be able to take away when it comes to how to show up for themselves, be confident and give themselves grace. Check out his music and tour...

On this episode we talk about what the people you have loved had in common and where they a REFLECTION OF YOU? What did certain people show you when it comes to your healing? What did you admire about them if anything? What are some things that your inner child really need as a child that you can supply them with right now to make them feel loved and safe ? You’re not on this journey alone, there...

On this episode I talk about all of the things that I have been learning in therapy and utilizing in my daily life. Boundaries, communicating, validating emotions and getting my needs met by my partner. This season of my life has felt so transformative and I feel like I’m becoming a different person emotionally, so of course I wanted to share this with all of you. Let me know some of the things yo...

This episode is mainly my birthing story and how Hos does so many things in our lives that show us how grateful we should be.