Seeing What's Here

Send us Fan Mail What do you really value? Not what you say matters to you, but what your everyday choices reveal. In this episode of Seeing What’s Here , Vanessa and Pablo start with something as simple as expensive coffee and buying flowers for no reason, then follow the conversation somewhere much deeper. Money is only one way we assign value. We also spend our time, attention, and energy and s...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when life seems to be speaking directly to us? In this episode, Vanessa and Pablo explore synchronicity, the coincidences that feel too timely, personal, or meaningful to dismiss. Vanessa and Pablo share several experiences from their own lives, from the strange foreshadowing and retrospective echoes surrounding Panther’s death, to finding their new homes. We consider...

Send us Fan Mail Why is setting a boundary often harder than continuing to tolerate something that isn’t working? In Episode 20, Vanessa and Pablo explore what boundaries really are, why we need them, and why saying “this no longer works for me” can bring guilt, discomfort, and second-guessing. Vanessa shares how these questions have surfaced in her own life through relationships and her recent de...

Send us Fan Mail This is a deeply personal and emotional episode for Vanessa as she begins processing the tragic loss of her beloved cat, Panther. We don’t choose every loss, limitation, or circumstance that enters our lives, but within the life we’re given, some freedom remains.  Join us for a raw and occasionally choppy conversation, sprinkled with trauma, tenderness, and unexpected laughter, as...

Send us Fan Mail What do we do with the parts of ourselves we would rather deny? The anger, envy, selfishness, or desires that could hurt others? In Episode 18, Vanessa and Pablo explore the difference between Jung’s shadow and Judaism’s evil inclination ( yetzer hara) , and ask whether integrating our darkness means accepting it, acting on it, or transforming the energy hidden within it. This con...

Send us Fan Mail How well do we really know ourselves beyond our roles, relationships, and responsibilities? In Episode 17, Vanessa and Pablo explore what it means to know yourself authentically and why “I don’t know who I am” can sometimes mean, “I know more than I’m willing to admit.” They examine the tension between desire, social conditioning, and personal values. Is every desire an expression...

Send us Fan Mail We all say we want honesty, but do we really? When Pablo and I brought a whiteboard to our local farmers market with one simple question, "What's something you wish people talked about more honestly?" the very first response surprised us. An older woman looked at the question, shook her head, and quietly replied, "That would be bad. Very bad." Her answer w...

Send us Fan Mail We live in a world full of books, podcasts, therapy, coaching, and endless promises of the next breakthrough. But what if none of those things can do the one thing we're hoping they'll do? In this episode, Vanessa and Pablo explore the difference between gathering information and experiencing transformation. They discuss the temptation to keep searching for the "rig...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever looked back on something you once believed with complete certainty and wondered, How did I ever see it that way? In this episode of Seeing What's Here , we explore the invisible "frames" through which we interpret the world. From relationships and work to faith, conflict, and identity, our experiences are shaped not only by what happens, but by the mea...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when you're forced to slow down? This week, Pablo shares what it's been like navigating a painful hip injury that has kept him from doing work he loves. Vanessa reflects on why being questioned about her own productivity struck such a deep nerve, and why she finds herself judging both herself and others through the lens of "getting things done." Is...

Send us Fan Mail Why are we so drawn to stories of heroes and villains? And what happens when we begin casting real people into those same roles? In this episode of Seeing What's Here , Vanessa and Pablo explore our fascination with heroes, from blockbuster movies to everyday life, and how our minds naturally simplify complex people into "good guys" and "bad guys." Togethe...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever found yourself cast as the bad guy in someone else's story? In this episode of Seeing What's Here , Vanessa and Pablo explore why being misunderstood can feel so uncomfortable and why most of us work so hard to avoid the role of "villain." Together, they unpack the tension between caring about others and taking responsibility for emotions that are...

Send us Fan Mail Grief touches every one of us, yet most of us are never taught how to be with it. In this episode, we explore what grief really is, why loss can feel so disorienting, and what happens when we stop trying to rush past our pain. Through personal reflections on the death of a dear friend, we discuss love, absence, memory, and the challenge of staying present with what is here. If you...

Send us Fan Mail Life doesn't always unfold the way we hoped, planned, or expected. A relationship changes, an opportunity falls through, someone disappoints us, or reality simply refuses to cooperate. So why does it hurt so much? In this episode of Seeing What's Here , Vanessa and Pablo explore the tension between desire and attachment, why disappointment can feel so overwhelming, and w...

Send us Fan Mail Is life meant to be a playground or a battleground? In this episode of Seeing What’s Here, Pablo and Vanessa explore the tension between freedom and responsibility, play and discipline, desire and self-mastery. Pablo argues that life is meant to be experienced fully and joyfully, while Vanessa wrestles with the idea that not every impulse should be followed simply because it exist...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of Seeing What’s Here, Pablo and Vanessa explore what happens when spiritual ideas collide with real life. They discuss alignment, authenticity, grief, slander, boundaries, and the challenge of staying open when people hurt us. What does “oneness” actually mean when you feel angry, betrayed, or misunderstood? How do we listen to another person’s perspective without...

Send us Fan Mail This week we’re talking about intention and the uncomfortable reality that people can cause harm while sincerely believing they are acting from care, fairness, or righteousness. How much does intention actually matter if the impact still wounds? And if we can never fully know another person’s motives, what do we anchor to instead? A raw conversation about self-deception, accountab...

Send us Fan Mail Pablo and Vanessa discuss the tension between compassion and accountability, and what happens when “understanding someone” becomes an excuse to avoid truth. Inspired by the quote given over in a recent talk by Lee Harris, “We give people an excuse for bad behavior when we don’t trust their capacity to grow,” this episode explores the stories we tell about others, the patterns we e...

Send us Fan Mail Pablo and Vanessa are discussing today what it really means to have personal sovereignty when life isn't going your way. Not as a concept but in the exact moments where something triggers you, pulls you out of yourself, and you realize how quickly your state becomes dependent on what's happening around you.   This episode explores the tension between acceptance and contr...

Send us Fan Mail Most people spend their lives trying to fix what's outside of them - other people, circumstances, outcomes, and wonder why nothing really changes. "Seeing What's Here" is a conversation that cuts straight through that pattern. Each episode explores what's actually happening beneath your reactions, your frustrations, and your repeated life loops, bringing t...

Send us Fan Mail Pablo and Vanessa discuss what happens when the beliefs you inherited no longer fully fit and how quickly we turn a personal moment into an intellectual conversation to avoid what it's actually stirring inside us. This episode slows down the moment where faith, identity, and truth collide, and invites you to notice what you feel before you rush to defend, reject, or explain. ...

Send us Fan Mail Pablo and Vanessa are discussing what happens when the world stops feeling solid and the answers you used to rely on don't hold the same weight anymore. From questioning belief systems to uncertainty about the future and the quiet disconnection that can come with success, this conversation explores what it's like when the "maps" no longer work. Instead of rushi...