Seeing Other People

Brandon, from the episode “How to Not Lose Hope That Your Person Is Still Out There,” is back today to share what’s shifted since we last spoke. We talk about dating in your late 30s after divorce, dating app burnout, asking someone out in real life, and the quiet pressure of timelines around marriage and kids. Brandon opens up about holding hope while preparing for different futures, redefining s...

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Chris Moore, psychology professor and author of The Power of Guilt , to unpack why guilt shows up so intensely in dating, friendships, and relationships, and why it’s not always a bad thing. We talk about the difference between guilt and shame, why women tend to feel guilt more deeply, how guilt can keep us stuck in dating situations longer than we should, and wh...

 Jake and I talk through our 20-week challenges, from ambitious reading goals to posting trial reels and what consistency actually looks like in real life. I open up about my ongoing social media identity questions, the pressure to “pick a lane.” Plus, we answer listener questions, including mixed signals after a first date, getting ghosted, deciding if you’re ready for a dog while single, an...

Blair West joins me to talk about timing, chemistry, and what actually makes a relationship last. We get into slow burns, dating someone who isn’t “ready,” and how to protect your heart without closing it off. Blair shares her real-life love story—from college crush to marriage—and what partnership looks like beyond the honeymoon phase. This one’s about choosing someone who shows up when life gets...

In this episode, I’m joined by Liz Woods to talk about love, long-term relationships, and what it’s really like to grow up with your partner instead of dating around. We get into meeting your person young, navigating years of long distance, and how friendships shift when you’re the only one not in the dating trenches. Liz shares what she’s learned watching her single friends date, why being “chose...

On this week's Cohosts For Life ep, we’re sharing a recent conversation about mental load, showing up differently in a relationship, and what it actually means to “step up.” Jake takes the lead on the mic as we talk about unlearning old patterns, sharing the doing, and why small, intentional actions matter more than big promises. We also introduce our new 20-week challenge: one hard thing each wee...

It’s the first episode of 2026 and we’re starting with a real conversation about dating, happiness, and letting go of the timeline we thought we were on. Stella Stephanopoulos joins me to talk about being single without spiraling, why wanting a relationship isn’t the same as needing one, and what dating actually looks like when you stop chasing validation. We get into red flags, confidence, approa...

In our annual end-of-year episode, Camila Vola turns the mic on me for an honest reflection on a year defined by slowing down. We talk about career pressure, burnout, marathon setbacks, marriage, and the tension between real impact and chasing numbers. I share what I learned about boundaries, growth, and choosing meaning over metrics, plus the dating advice I’d give my single self going into 2026....

On this iconic Cohosts episode, we’re sharing your parents’ unreal meet-cute stories — from subway run-ins and blind dates to bars, churches, dorms, and everything in between. We also prep you for the biggest dating app day of 2026 with practical, low-pressure tips to help you show up intentionally without burning yourself out. Finally, we recap the first few days of our Florida visit with our par...

Jen Lauren is back for an honest conversation about what really happens after the wedding hype fades. Jen opens up about the emotional side of wedding planning, navigating family dynamics, money, and boundaries, and why the process can feel more traumatic than anyone prepares you for. We also talk running, wellness trends that are overrated, and what actually matters when you’re searching for your...

I’m joined by Lena Sisco , former military interrogator and author of The 13 Power Moves of Dark Psychology , to break down how to spot lies, manipulation, and red flags early—especially in dating. We talk about why confidence can be misleading, how manipulators control conversations, and the subtle signs someone is lying or withholding information. Lena shares practical tools for dating apps, fir...

This Cohosts for Life episode turns into Jake’s year in review, a Jets fandom therapy session, and a brainstorming spiral about the podcasts we’d start next year if motivation magically appeared. We cover the highs and lows of the year, the busiest week we’ve had in months, and just how bad we are at small talk. ALL links  here  (submit a question, dating coaching & more)  Rula...

I’m joined by my friend Emily Griminger to talk about dating in your 30s when your life doesn’t look the way you thought it would. Emily shares how leaving the corporate world to start her own company changed the way she dates, what it’s been like navigating weddings and big milestones without a partner, and why being on a different timeline than her friends has forced her to get more honest about...

I’m joined by Dr. Courtney Alexander , OB-GYN and women’s health expert, to break down what women actually need to know about fertility, birth control, and reproductive health in their 20s and 30s. We talk about the biggest myths fueling anxiety around age, timelines, and “falling behind,” and why so much of the information online is doing more harm than good. Dr. Alexander explains what fertility...

Jake and I kick things off with life updates, including his big winnings at the casino, an influencer event I actually enjoyed, a running injury update, and a Taylor Swift debate. Then we get into listener questions about dating when conversations feel one-sided, wondering if you’re being too picky on early dates, and what to do when you end things with a genuinely nice guy and immediately regret...

Maddy, friend and former SOP intern, joins the pod to talk about surviving a break-in, navigating trauma in your early 20s, and how EMDR therapy helped her finally feel safe again. Maddy opens up about the night a man broke into her bedroom, why healing wasn’t as simple as “moving on,” and how hypervigilance shaped her day-to-day life, dating, and friendships. We get into how how meeting someone w...

I’m joined by Emily Durham , recruiter, creator, and host of Clock In , to talk about the surprising overlap between careers and dating in your 20s and 30s. Emily shares how leaving corporate shifted the way she dates, why confidence at work affects confidence in relationships, and the patterns she sees in both job searches and love lives. We get into the pressure of wanting to be chosen, the fear...

Jake and I catch up on life and our ongoing messiness at home before getting into a really honest conversation. I talk about seeing other podcasts share huge numbers and noticing my own growth has slowed, and how hard it has been not to compare myself. I also share what success feels like to me right now and how I am trying to build a career that still feels good even when the numbers get in my he...

I’m joined by my friend Jude Cohen to talk about dating in your 30s and rebuilding your life after everything falls apart at once. Jude shares how losing her job and leaving the corporate world completely shifted the way she dates and sees herself. We get into her best and worst dating stories, from Third Date Club to a friends-with-benefits situation that actually worked to the first-date disaste...

I’m joined by Alyssa Tucker, teacher, creator of @livefromsnacktime , and mom of two, to share her unexpected journey through infertility. After years of loss and failed IVF transfers, Alyssa and her husband pursued surrogacy, only for her to discover she was pregnant at the same time. We talk about IVF misconceptions, how surrogacy actually works, and what it was like to welcome two babies just s...

We're recording from Westchester while recovering from days of Thanksgiving meals and leftovers. We talk about having both of our families together for the first time and how grateful we are that everyone gets along so well. Jake shares an update on his injury, and we chat about supporting each other’s plans and giving each other space. We answer listener questions about mixed signals, married men...

In this Unfiltered, Harry comes back to talk about what dating, healing, and growing in your mid thirties has actually looked like for him this past year. We get into how friendships shift as everyone around you moves into new phases of life, what it feels like to be the single one in the group, and how he has learned to sit with discomfort instead of running from it. He shares how hobbies and com...

I’m joined by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, couples therapist, author of You, Your Husband, and Your Mother-in-Law, and host of Dear Dr. Tracy, to dive into the messy and emotional dynamics of merging families. You don’t have to be married for this to resonate; these patterns show up in every relationship, and every couple can benefit from understanding them. We break down the biggest myths about in-laws,...

We’re on week 3 of lockdown after Jake’s surgery and shockingly, we’re thriving. This week marks five years since we both got let go, so we’re diving into what those last few months looked like, what we felt in the moment, and how getting fired ended up being the turning point we didn’t know we needed. For the first time, I open up about why I was crying everyday during my last few months at Hinge...

In this Unfiltered, a returning guest shares how she finally got over her ex and why getting under someone else wasn’t the whole story. After leaving a five-year relationship, she had to rebuild her confidence, rethink her standards, and figure out who she was without him. She opens up about dating again in her 30s, friendship shifts, loneliness, and the moment she realized she no longer cared wha...