Seeing Other People

On today's episode I talk to a woman who reached out to me after listening to the unfiltered episode called "Married at 25, Divorced at 26, Dating at 27". She wanted to share her story of being on the other side of that situation, dating someone who was married at 25 and divorced at 27. She shares how their relationship unfolded, what her initial reaction was to him sharing that he was divorced an...

On this episode, I’m joined by Rikki Cloos (@anxiousheartsguide) to discuss the basics of attachment theory. We learn how our attachment styles are shaped, if we can change attachment styles, how our style shows up in our dating lives and our relationships, how to navigate your partner’s attachment style, and more.  Click here for your expedited Lox Club membership review or use code ILANA in the...

On this solo Q&A I answer listener questions about what makes a good date, rekindling an old situationship, being friends with an ex after ending on good terms, not hearing back from someone after telling them how you feel, what to do if you're always texting first, if they're still active on dating apps after telling you they like you, when to follow up, and how to know if you should stay or...

On this episode, I sit down with Kelly McKenna (@sitwithkelly), a therapist for anxious millennials. We discuss the difference between overthinking and anxiety, how dating rules and games can make you more anxious, boundaries you should be setting, identifying the source of your anxiety, and in-the-moment tools for dealing with your dating anxiety. Kelly shares tips for communicating your anxietie...

On today’s episode I sit down with Kayla Moran, host of the Let’s Get Candid podcast. Kayla opens up about relationship and intimacy trauma, her relationship with sex and her body, and how her childhood and her relationship with her mother impacted her dating life. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adc...

On this episode, I’m joined by @yourbreakupbestie Kendra Allen to discuss how to get through a breakup. Kendra walks us through the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup, if getting back together is ever a good idea, what to do if it’s been a while since the breakup but you still think about them, when and how to get back out there, if you should ever text your ex on their birthday, how to...

TW: Sexual assault. On this Unfiltered, I sit down with a woman who shares the story of the toxic relationship she didn’t realize she was in, despite all of the warning signs. We hear about gaslighting, manipulation, lying, and other unhealthy behaviors her partner brought to their relationship. We discuss why she was in denial of what was really happening, why she ignored the early red flags, wha...

On this episode, I sit down with Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT, owners and founders of the Therapy Group. We hear about early red flags you can look out for to identify if someone might be toxic, manipulative, or abusive, how to realize you’re in an unhealthy situation, and how you can get out of it. We discuss why we want what we can’t have and push away what we can have, dating...

On today’s episode, I sit down with a 27-year-old woman who recently went through a divorce from her high school sweetheart who she had been with for nine years. We hear about what her life was like before the divorce, why they got divorced, and what it’s been like getting out in the dating world for the first time as a 27-year-old divorcee. Feel better with O Positiv's Immunity and PMS gummies! o...

On this episode I sit down with Talia Goldstein, Founder and CEO of Three Day Rule Matchmaking. We discuss the biggest flaws in dating apps and modern dating, the most common mistakes daters are making, what questions you should be asking on dates, how to determine your dealbreakers vs. “nice to haves,” and whether or not you’re correct about your “type.” Talia shares how the matchmaking process w...

In this solo episode, I answer listener questions about ghosting, unfollowing, and taking things slow. At 15 minutes in, I open up about the constant pressure I feel to be at a certain place in my relationship and how social media leads us down a dangerous path of comparing ourselves to others, no matter what life stage we’re in. At 28 minutes I discuss the precautions you should take when conside...

In today’s episode, I’m joined by Elizabeth Earnshaw (aka @lizlistens), Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, owner of A Better Life Therapy, and author of “I Want This to Work.” We discuss the different types of couples therapy, the most common issues couples face, how to ask your partner to go to couples therapy, and early signs of relationship success or failure. Liz gives us tips for start...

On this Unfiltered episode, I sit down with a man whose infidelity and the guilt surrounding it led to him and his wife getting divorced. We hear what his life was like before he cheated, why he decided to do it, how the truth came out, and what happened next. He shares how this impacted his self-worth and his personal relationships, and whether or not he’s been able to forgive himself and move fo...

I kick off this Valentine’s Day special by sharing tips for making the most out of the holiday if you’re single. At 10 minutes, I’m joined by Fran Mariano from Barstool’s Chicks in the Office to chat celebrity couples, on-screen romances, and public breakups. We share our favorite tv, movie and music couples, celebrity couples we admire, and couples we wish lasted. We discuss the pressure and stre...

On today's episode, I sit down with Diana, a 37-year-old woman who is happily single. Diana opens up about growing up as a Jehovah’s Witness, how her views on marriage changed as she got older, and how she’s navigated different dating phases of her life. Diana shares how she’s learned to embrace singlehood, love herself, enjoy her timeline, and not let societal pressures force her to settle. Overc...

On this episode, I’m joined by Candice Horbacz aka Eva Lovia. We hear about Candice’s rise to fame in the adult film industry and what her career taught her about intimacy and relationships. Candice shares how she and her now-husband navigated their open relationship, worked through moments of jealousy and made it work despite the unique challenges they faced. We discuss what it takes to have a he...

In this episode, I'm joined by a 27-year-old woman who has never had sex before. We hear about why she’s never had sex, what it’s like to date as a virgin, how dates react when she tells them about it, how others judge her and how she judges her self because of it. She shares her fears around losing her virginity and how our sex-obsessed culture causes her to feel isolated. Mindset Wellness CBD's...

On this episode I’m joined by Jen Lauren, host of Dare to Self Care. We discuss the importance of balancing your relationship and friendships, maintaining your independence and sense of self throughout your relationship, and continuing to practice self-care when you're in a relationship. Jen shares how she and her boyfriend went from “high school sweethearts” to serious partners in the real world,...

On todays episode, I sit down with Aliana Michals who shares her story of how her happy and healthy relationship was directly affected by the national dialogue surrounding the pandemic, vaccine efficacy and hesitancy. Aliana’s upcoming poetry collection, In Defense of Science, is a direct reflection on her how despite how in love she and her partner were, they ultimately chose their values over ea...

On this episode, I’m joined by Jonny Lazarus and Justin Kapelmaster from The Latke Room . We discuss why your date or partner probably doesn’t know what you’re thinking, what an Instagram story view really means, how to slide into the DMs, why gender roles shouldn’t matter but social cues should, and why some people think they have to prioritize their career over their relationships. We answer lis...

On today's episode I'm joined by a 25 year old man who recently went through a breakup when his ex-girlfriend's parents found out that he has Aspergers Syndrome. He shares what having Aspergers is like, how it does and doesn’t impact his daily life and relationships, and what common misconceptions are of those with this disability. We hear about what his relationship was like, how the breakup unfo...

On today’s episode, I’m joined by Blaine Anderson, aka Dating by Blaine , who is a dating coach for men. We hear about the biggest challenges men face in modern dating, ways men are misunderstood in dating, and how Blaine ended up helping men with their dating lives. Blaine shares tips for dating apps profiles, approaching a woman IRL, sliding into her DMs, and texting etiquette. We answer listene...

On this episode of Unfiltered, I sit down with two individuals who recently took 'Date Smarter' – Logan Ury's six-week interactive bootcamp designed to transform your love life. We discuss the stigma surrounding "learning" how to date, even though dating is a relatively new concept. They share their hesitations about signing up for the class, what they thought the other students would be like vs....

On Today’s episode I’m joined by behavioral scientist, dating coach, author, and Hinge’s Director of Relationship Science, Logan Ury. We discuss how Logan helped me change my bad dating habits, how she initially friendzoned her now-husband for years until a dating coach helped her realize he was what she was looking for, why you need accountability partners to achieve your dating goals, the import...

On this Unfiltered episode, I sit down with Zoe Scurletis, host of the podcast Solace and the City, to talk about how our traumatic experiences impact who we are and how we date. Zoe walks us through what it was like developing an eating disorder, losing a friend to suicide,  and spiraling into depression.  We discuss if, when and how to communicate your past traumas when seeing someone new, if yo...