Seeing Other People

I'm joined by Rebecca Marcus, LCSW, to discuss why we find ourselves in unhealthy dating patterns and how to stop. We chat about the importance of putting in the work, taking accountability, and recognizing when something isn't working for you. We answer listener questions about what to do if someone isn't making time for you and keeps rescheduling, how much couples should challenge each other, an...

Jake and I sit down for a dramatic game of Where Do You Draw The Line to figure out what our relationship dealbreakers are. We debate topics like sharing locations, talking about exes, cheating, finances, prenups and more. Play Where Do You Draw The Line on your next date, with your bffs, or during family dinner! Grab your box at wdydtl.com/buy and use code ILANA for 20% off! This episode is spons...

Dr. Morgan Anderson , relationship coach, attachment theory expert, and host of Let's Get Vulnerable joins us today to discuss going from an unhealthy or traumatic relationship to a healthy relationship. We discuss where our attachment styles can come from, what steps we need to take to heal them, and how the research around attachment theory has changed over time. We open up about our past trauma...

On this Unfiltered, I’m joined by a woman in her early-mid 30s who opens up about her therapy journey and how it transformed the way she approaches dating. We hear about what led to the breakup of her four year long relationship, how she approached her healing process, and what she did differently when she got back out there. Finally, we discuss dating as an expat, what it’s like being so far away...

I'm joined by Natasha and Justine, cohosts of 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose, to hear what they've learned about modern dating, love and relationships from our favorite tv shows. We discuss which shows are most accurately portraying modern dating, what shows have started important conversations that we need to be having, and which shows we should be watching if we want to actually learn and grow. We voice...

On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by a woman who opens up about ending an eight-year relationship, during which, she felt like nothing was wrong but she wasn't truly happy. We discuss what finally led her to end the relationship and what it was like being single for the first time at 27. We discuss navigating career changes, solo traveling, and how she came to the realization that the traditional set...

I'm joined by Stella Stephanopolous , host of Everyday Endorphins , to talk about embracing singlehood, developing an abundance mindset, and not needing someone else to complete you. We discuss how we spent years accepting less than we deserved, how we've learend to speak up for ourselves, why we no longer put up with the bare minimum, why the high highs are never worth the low lows, how to commun...

I'm joined by Keren Longo AKA @mama.in.the.burbs to hear about her fertility journey. She opens up about her struggles to get pregnant, her experiences with IVF and IUI, the complications that arose along the way, her recent miscarriage, and more. She shares how she overcame all of these challenges, what she wishes she knew when she started trying to get pregnant, and what has kept her going throu...

I’m joined by Carrie Berk, TikTok star, journalist, and author of My Real-Life Rom-Com to discuss how important it is to learn from each relationship and situationship (no matter how short-lived it is). We chat about how social media has impacted dating, why we need banish the phrase "moving on" from our vocabulary, how you can’t lose someone who was never there for you to begin with, and more. Fo...

On this solo episode, I open up about the biggest dating anxieties I faced when I was single, and more importantly, how I overcame them. I reflect on where they came from, how they impacted me, and what steps I had to take and lessons I had to learn in order to feel more comfortable and confident in my dating life.  Enter your chef era with me! Go to  hellofresh.com/50sop  and use code 50sop for 5...

I'm joined by  Joe Feminella , Founder & CEO of  First Rounds On Me . Joe and I chat about the biggest challenges our generation is facing on dating apps and what we can do to fix it. We discuss all things first dates including: how to take the pressure off, conversations you should and shouldn't have, how to make the most of a date when you know in the first five minutes that you're not inter...

Anonymous from the episode "It's Not Always Your Fault, Even If They Say It Is" is back on the podcast to talk about her experiences dating for the first time as a 30-year-old divorced single mom of three kids. We hear what she thought dating would be like vs. how it turned out, lessons the hard way, and what she wish she knew when getting out there for the first time. She opens up about the highs...

I'm joined by Tonya Carter, Marriage/Relationship Exit Strategist , host of  Purposely Thriving , and author of  Divorce Your Story , to talk about how to effectively heal from a breakup. We discuss why your ex is a non-factor in your healing, the importance of acknowledging that the "what ifs" did not happen, and how to make peace with the closure you received. We answer listener questions about...

On this solo episode, I'm answering your questions about when to give someone another chance, how to save your friendship with your best friend of your desired sex who you hooked up with, what to do when someone keeps talking but never wants to meet up, how to navigate never having been in a relationship before, and more. Enter your chef era with me! Go to hellofresh.com/50sop and use code 50sop f...

Talia Bombola  is a Psychoanalytic LMFT, Professor, Speaker, and the host of Heal Through Humor, and theco-host of  The Couple’s Guide Podcast  as well as  Between Two Clinicians . Talia and I chat about where our own self-worth stems from and how important it is to learn about who you are in order to set yourself up for relationship success. We talk about how to notice and break unhealthy dating...

Erica Shea  is back on the pod to catch up with us about taking time off from dating and finding the strength to end her most recent situationship. We talk about how it's normal (and sometimes beneficial) to be in a dating drought, how she knew it was time to end the situationship instead of continuing in discomfort, as many of us do. Later we discuss mindset shifts and laugh off some hilarious ba...

I’m joined by  Iris Jardiel  to chat about why she broke off her engagement to her longtime partner, Luke, who proposed on Temptation Island Season 4. We hear why they decided to go on the show, what it was like having their relationship tested, and how she felt when he proposed. She shares how she caught him cheating and wanted to believe he could change, but after repeatedly being proven wrong,...

I’m joined by an anonymous 27-year-old woman who opens up about starting to date someone and suddenly not hearing from him for days. She shares how she thought she was getting ghosted and assumed he blocked her, only to find out via Instagram that he was hit by a car and was in a coma. We hear how she processed this news, how she was not in a position to get updates on his condition because of how...

I’m joined by  Evan Marc Katz , the world’s first dating coach (2003!), four-time author, and host of the Love U Podcast. Evan and I chat about where women are going wrong in dating when it comes to taking breaks from dating, going on dates, and getting into relationships. We learn which dealbreakers matter, ways to figure out if a relationship is right and how to know if it’s time to leave. Evan...

I’m joined by Liz Mina to talk about approaching dating from a place of security and curiosity rather than the fear of being alone. We chat about dating as an adult after never having romantic interests in high school, why society should stop putting pressure on people to find partners at a certain age, how being an only child has impacted her dating life, and the importance of having vulnerable c...

In honor of my 29th birthday, I spent time reflecting on some of the most meaningful moments, the biggest turning points, and the hardest lessons learned in my 28 years. I put together a list and I'm so excited to share them with you in this special episode. We cover life, love, friendship, career, family, and everything in between. Thanks for being on this journey with me and cheers to 29!  Learn...

I'm joined by Rachel Schwab, AKA @justbecauseitspretty, to discuss what her dating life was like before meeting her person and how she ended up getting engaged to her first ever Hinge date. She shares how she felt going into her first date with her now-fiancé, whether or not she was anxious after it, why she's glad they talked about exes on their third date, and when/how they DTRd. We hear how the...

TW: Eating disorders & body image struggles. Julie Griggs and Danielle Dietzek, my friends and the cofounders of  Fourplay Social , are back on Seeing Other People. We discuss why the question "Why are you still single?" is so problematic and how society perpetuates the belief that we aren't complete until we find our partner. Danielle opens up about her struggle with body image and weight gai...

I'm joined by a 36-year-old woman who opens up about the relationship she found herself in shortly after getting divorced from her ex-husband of 11 years (and the father of her two children). We hear how she and this man met, what their relationship started out like, and how they soon developed a dominant/submissive relationship. She shares how she later found out he was still married and that she...

I'm joined by Laura Belgray, author of the book " Tough Titties: On Living Your Best Life When You’re the F-ing Worst" to discuss how to let go of what other people and society expect of you. We chat about embracing your flaws, owning your timeline, not comparing yourself to others, how your worth doesn't need to be attached to someone else liking you, and more. Laura shares her dating mishaps and...