Secret Life

Is there anything wrong with having a type? Don't we all have a type? That's what makes us unique. No two people have the exact same things that they find attractive. But what if our type becomes an obsession? What if it limits your choices, and you find yourself repeating a cycle of bad decisions because of it? They say marrying for looks or money is never a good thing—so does it have to...

*TRIGGER WARNING - This episode contains topics of sexual assault, trauma, and abortion. Some people may find it disturbing. In another moment of "What the f@#% is wrong with some men," we have a brave survivor who shares her story of being sexually assaulted minutes after giving birth. Was this deep-seated secret fuel on the first for her addictions and suicidal thoughts? Listen to her he...

Dating apps are a $3 Billion industry with over 270 Million users worldwide. And for an addict of any variety—a dangerous place to swipe. April found herself falling for the first man she swiped right on. What ensued was a year-long “relationship” that consisted of the two recording their sexual encounters and little else. Shortly after, she heard our episode with Olivia Munn; she listened to Bria...

Why do women stay once they find out that the man of their dreams is married? Is the saying true; once a cheater, always a cheater? "But he's different... he says he loves me and will choose me." Cut to years later, and that isn't the case. He stays in the relationship he said he was leaving, with the woman he loathed and left you wanting those years of your life back. Lee has kept...

How many of us have fallen into the trap of seeking material things to fill that hole? Hoping and praying that if we just get this next big job or find the perfect mate, we’ll finally be happy? For Darren, his entire identity was defined by his success; his career, the women he dated and the cars he drove. With the help of a mentor/sponsor, he took a deep dive searching for his own truth, authenti...

What happens when the man you love cheats on you… again and again? Or when his chronic, narcissistic behavior of gaslighting you every time is pushing you farther and farther away from trusting your instincts and your inner voice? This week, Chloe shares the heartbreaking story of a decade-long relationship and her journey of letting go and learning to trust herself once again.  _________ If you o...

Matt blew up his relationship with his fiancé because he couldn't stop going to massage parlors for sex. While attending an in-patient program for sex addiction, he uncovered a pattern of behaviors that stemmed from sexual abuse at the hands of a trusted family friend and an older boy. Listen to Matt's journey as he peels back the layers of shame and dependency and learns to find his truth...

It doesn't matter how successful you are, how much money you make, or what you look like, Compare and Despair can and will bring you down. Jana and Brianne talk about how Compare and Despair thinking is pervasive and dangerous. It can contribute to anxiety, depression, shame, and envy, leading to self-criticism and a lack of self-worth. It rapidly undermines any confidence. ________ If you or...

Ever since she was little, Brianne Davis had the belief that she wasn’t smart because she struggled with standardized testing due to her dyslexia and ADHD. No matter how successful, abundant or happy she was, those negative voices of doubt and shame plagued her. As she peeled away the layers of the false self she created to protect her, the unique talent, voice, and purpose have come into the ligh...

Hollywood actress Olivia Munn struggled for years with chronic pain, fatigue, stress and fluctuating weight loss/gain until she discovered she had Fibromyalgia. With demanding shooting schedules and continually being in the public eye, Olivia suffered for years while trainers, doctors and nutritionists attempted to find solutions. It took a ton of research and a team of doctors at the UCLA medical...

Natasha was diagnosed with BPD at the age of 33 after years of being told she just had depression or she was too 'OVER THE TOP' her entire life - after entering treatment and learning how to adopt DBT skills into her life, her entire way of being shifted for the better and she knew she had to share the wisdom and help others. ______ What is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? BPD is a t...

We are not defined by others' opinions of us. But those opinions can be challenging to overcome. When we are young, those outside influences can shape our thinking about ourselves. The change we want to see in the world will require that we own our true authentic power. With a ton of courage, tenacity, and self-love, Jorge Ortiz is a shining example of claiming his heritage, celebrating the di...

Even the happiest, healthiest marriages require a certain amount of work to stay that way, but it is also common to want out. Some research has even said that not arguing is a bigger red flag than fighting. Arguing in a respectful, productive way can be a positive sign because it means both spouses still care. What lies underneath that argument can vary from person to person. From resentments, dep...

What's Sarah Goodson's secret? For 15 years she worked for other people/businesses even though she wished for something more. The "steady paycheck" kept her in corporate jobs that never fully fulfilled her. Then a life-changing event happened. The murder of one of her dearest friends prompted Sarah to ask the question: "If today were my last day, would I be okay with my life ri...

Is it possible that the thing we fear the most is precisely what we need to push through and expand our life? Our minds often create a future that is filled with disappointment and failure. Yet, most of us can look back and see that even when that situation happened, it was hardly as bad as it was in our heads. Or if it was, there was a silver lining on the other side. 2020 has been a challenging...

It doesn't have to be a holiday to make some's life a little better. Our anonymous guest shares how she's found a way out of depression by helping others. Covid-19 has affected so many people this year. Is there someone in your life that could use some help? Is it you? You are not alone. Reach out, risk being vulnerable, and ask for assistance. Wishing you and yours a Happy Holiday sea...

If you have binge eating disorder, please know that you’re not alone. Binge eating disorder (BED) is actually the most common eating disorder. It affects about 3.5 percent of women and 2 percent of men. According to the National Eating Disorders , BED is a severe, life-threatening, and treatable eating disorder characterized by recurrent episodes of eating large quantities of food, often very quic...

Acting can be a devastatingly competitive business, and actors can find themselves saying and doing things they never thought they would. In one of our lighter episodes, Brianne and Briana divulge hilarious secrets about their early careers and the shift needed to be your authentic self.  Actress and musician Briana Lane is best known for her recurring roles on NBC's The New Normal, Freeform&#...

Transform your past experiences into positive, life-affirming behaviors. Michelle Chalfant's Adult Chair model is an integrated approach that will help you recognize how all of your life experiences have shaped you and then use that awareness to regain control, discover your most authentic self and transform your life! — From time to time, we'll be releasing BONUS EPISODES that will either...

On the heels of the Secret Life podcast releasing its 27th episode and the 4-month mark, host Brianne Davis and husband/producer Mark Gantt express their deepest gratitude and reflect on their positive personal experiences they've had so far. Humbled by all the love and support, they also share feedback, messages, revelations, and inspiration from the hundreds of notes and reviews they've...

Debting and underearning were destroying Mark’s relationships, career, and ultimately his sanity. With 20 years of sobriety, he found himself at yet another bottom. Underearning wasn’t just about an inability to pay his bills; it was a more profound belief that he wasn’t ever going to get what he desired. As he uncovered, discovered, and discarded the shame he carried around his money issues, Mark...

Celebrating Transgender Awareness Week:  In 1993, DeeDee transitioned from a man to a woman at the age of 33. And though it was an overall positive experience, it was clear that it was much easier to be a man in the world. Driven by a passion for entertaining and educating, DeeDee's journey is both uplifting and inspiring. #TransAwarenessWeek   _______ The Trevor Project is the leading nationa...

Ep #23's Jennifer was struck with a powerful realization after listening to her episode and agreed to share more. HHaving had an even greater wave of guilt and shame, she can’t help but wonder if she willed her baby away. Shortly after the miscarriage and the break-up, she moves across the country, drinking and hooking up with men to numb the pain, and fell into a deep depression. She felt hop...

What do you do when you want a baby so bad you’re willing to stay in an abusive relationship to have one? But at 12 weeks, Jennifer began having complications with her pregnancy, and her world was turned upside down. ______ Brene Brown has said this about Guilt and Shame: Based on my research and the research of other shame researchers, I believe that there is a profound difference between shame a...

Society conditions us to strive to be perfect — be thin, toned, ripped, trimmed, waxed, peeled, tan, liked, followed, friended, and then... we will be loved. There's a misconception that only women put themselves under a microscope when it comes to their bodies and their looks, but men do too. A new study points to a surprising connection between rising perfectionism in our culture and rising...