Secluded Thoughts

Sweetheart, how long will you allow yourself to feel miserable, dreading plans you agreed to when you knew you didn't want to do? Why say yes to go and then constantly hope that they'll cancel or something crazy will happen to ruin the plans? Must you suffer every day leading up to that dreadful thing you committed to or is it time to start saying no? People pleasing isn't suiting you...

I used to wait for others to validate me and when I didn't get it it literally reflected in my performance because I stopped caring because no one was clapping. It was a tough lesson to learn so young.  If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: 91. Revenge Success - Wanting success to prove a point to other people JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoug...

Stop explaining your non-negotiables and entertaining people who want you to compromise and accept the bare minimum. You give people the blueprint on how to treat you. Stop allowing people who don't care about you to make you explain yourself. If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: 99. Stop nagging and justifying your NON-NEGOTIABLES JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal: ...

Sis, how long are you going to keep these things on your checklist undone? How long are you going to have the same fears or the same goals? Don't you think it's time you get these things out of the way? Stop going into every new year with the same goals. LEAVE A COMMENT ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/cIdK4oiCKVI EPISODES MENTIONED: EP #86 - Don't settle for "what if.." JOURNALS S...

Sometimes when we get hurt after loving we close ourselves off to protect ourselves but that only lets you have shallow experiences with people. If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: 92. Honor your emotions and stop gaslighting yourself JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/self Relationship Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/relationships V...

We all have painful experiences in life but the real question is what are you going to do with it? Your pain actually isn't unique. You might think it is because you keep it to yourself but it will set someone free if you use it for good. So what are you going to do? If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: 97. What are you doing with your pain? JOURNALS Self Reflection...

You gain nothing from being mediocre and giving life the bare minimum. What you can expect from that is stagnation and having to put the same things on your vision board year of year. It's time to start holding yourself to a higher standard and holding yourself accountable for where you are in life. It's the only way to actually start living the life you desire. LEAVE A COMMENT ON YOUTUBE:...

Everything is connected. You can't hold yourself to a certain standard but be lenient with the people you don't. You can't focus on elevating but you also allow anyone to come into your life that isn't align with the lifestyle you're working towards. Let's get it together, sis. If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: 96. Do your relationships align...

Whatever it is you've been putting off, it's time to do it. If you're already miserable where you are right now what do you have to lose? You might be thinking, "well, what if I end up miserable?" but aren't you already? If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: 95. But what if it DOES work out? JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoug...

A lot of people stay in a job or career because the title or company is prestigious but they're actually miserable. There are different reasons people hide behind titles. This was mine. What's yours? LEAVE A COMMENT ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/aC0IEv92l-4 JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/self Relationship Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/relationships...

After a lot of self reflection I realized that my relationship with my parents forced me into this overly ambitious mode that I was stuck in for years. If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: 91. Revenge Success - Wanting success to prove a point to other people JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/self Relationship Journal:  https://secludedthou...

Stop gaslighting yourself into thinking you're being ungrateful or you have to run to positivity and optimism when you're hurt. It's okay to acknowledge your feelings before you go to the solution. If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: EP #92 - Honor your emotions and stop gaslighting yourself JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/se...

My introduction to God was through toxic christians and religion - so much so that it made me atheist when I was younger. But life led me to Him and I had to take a new approach to building a relationship with God and it has been the most rewarding thing I've ever done. I don't know where I would be without Him. This episode is sharing what I've learned when it comes to building a rela...

I used to be a self proclaimed strong independent woman that didn't need anybody but in reality I subconsciously wished I didn't have to be. If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: EP #91 - Revenge Success - Wanting success to prove a point to other people JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/self Relationship Journal:  https://secludedth...

Once you adopt this perspective you'll rarely be anxious and worried about things that are out of your control. If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: EP #85 - Worrying is a waste of your time JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/self Relationship Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/relationships Vision Journal:  https://secludedthoughts....

There's two sides of every person. There's the good side that wants to be the best version of you and there's that other side that you're working hard to not revert to but some people seem to want to be introduced to it. So what do you do? Do you let people you don't even think highly of take you out of character and undo all the work you've done on yourself or do you keep...

Don't make allowances for people who disrespect and constantly disappoint you and let them turn you into a cold nonchalant person. Change your environment and get people who make you feel safe enough to let your walls down. If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: EP #89 - Stop "hoping for the best but expecting the worst" JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  http...

Would you rather be right and alone or put your pride aside and keep your relationships? It's time to put your ego in check and grow up. If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: EP #68 - Are you being controlled by your ego? JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/self Relationship Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/relationships Vision Journ...

While you're focused on achieving your goals for the next 5 months make sure you also prioritize improving your life and investing in yourself. JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/self Relationship Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/relationships Vision Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/vision Healing Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/healing LET'S...

Instead of begging for crumbs, have some faith and ask God for what you REALLY want. It's not going to serve you to pray weak prayers and impose your limitations on God. Act like you know he's a WAY MAKER! If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: EP #90 - Ask BIG and stop living in mediocrity JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/self Relat...

Here are 3 things you can do INSTEAD OF worrying while you wait for what you prayed for. If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: EP #85 - Worrying is a waste of your time JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/self Relationship Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/relationships Vision Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/vision Healing Journal:...

Have you outgrown this current version of yourself? Do you feel like it's time to shift into the best version of yourself for the goals you want to achieve? Then this episode is for you. It's time to stop running from what God is calling you to do because you're hung up on the current version of you that has already expired. JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.c...

No one else is going to wake up in your shoes and live your life for you so they shouldn't be able to dictate it. Live your life for YOU and stop worrying about what other people think. If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: EP #86 - Don't settle for "what if..." JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/self Relationship Journal:  ht...

You're constantly disappointed because you lack boundaries and think that everyone is going to disappoint you. You don't have to accept that sis. It's time to get your boundaries in order. If you liked this clip make sure you check out the full episode: EP #89 - Stop "hoping for the best but expecting the worst" JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/se...

Your word is as valuable as you make it. If you keep making commitments (big or small) and not honoring them you'll lose your credibility. Honor your commitments because of what it says about YOU above everything else. JOURNALS Self Reflection Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/self Relationship Journal:  https://secludedthoughts.com/relationships Vision Journal:  https://secludedthoughts....