Seared

Don't worry - you won't find tears or maudlin goodbyes.  But what I do share is how it's important to stay committed to what you enjoy, to stand in purpose, and to not give up on trying new things.  Life is experienced throughout creative expression - what is yours to be? What will you lend your heart to? What will bring it joy and peace through turbulent times, and times of quiet?...

Ever wonder why we sometimes know what's best for us, but still struggle to do it?  In the latest (penultimate!) episode of Seared: Stories From the Stove, I'm exploring this as I reflect on my journey to 14 years of sobriety and the myth of the alcoholic chef. I used to look back with regret, wishing I'd changed sooner.  But I've learned that we often go where feels safe, even...

Ever wonder about the difference between a cook and a chef? It's not just about the kitchen, homie! While cooks excel at following recipes and executing tasks, chefs lead, create, and innovate. They do the cheffy things. This distinction goes beyond culinary skills; it's a mindset. A 'cook' mindset in daily life focuses on routine and consistency, while a 'chef' minds...

Ever been nervous to cook for a chef?  In this episode of Seared, I bust the myth of the food snob, revealing that most chefs actually love being cooked for, regardless of the cuisine. I share personal anecdotes and explores the difference between genuine food enthusiasm and judgmental food snobbery, highlighting how the latter often stems from deeper psychological needs related to status, insecur...

In this latest podcast episode, yours truly dives into the vital role immigrants play in the culinary, hospitality, and tourism industries.  I explore how the influx of diverse cultures enriches our own, challenging us to grow and learn through shared experiences and culinary innovation.   These industries are currently facing a critical staffing shortage, with many businesses struggling to stay a...

In this episode, I dive deep into the fascinating world of cognitive biases, specifically the Halo and Horns Effects.   I share a personal story about how the Halo Effect led me to make some poor hiring decisions in my kitchens. By unconsciously seeking out younger versions of myself, I set unrealistic expectations for my recruits, ultimately leading to their failure. We'll explore how the Ha...

In this episode, I delve into the profound impact of social media on the culinary world. I discuss how platforms like TikTok and YouTube have democratized cooking, making it more accessible and engaging for everyone.  From showcasing diverse cuisines and techniques to providing a platform for aspiring chefs, social media has undoubtedly enriched our understanding and appreciation of food.  While s...

In this episode, I dive deep into the power of facing your fears.  As per usual, I share a few personal examples of overcoming my own anxieties and the surprising rewards that followed. I also explore how facing your fears impacts our minds, bodies, and spirits. You'll learn how facing your fears can increase resilience, boost self-confidence, and unlock hidden potential.  But why do we so re...

In this episode, we explore the importance of embracing change and stepping outside our comfort zones to achieve new and exciting results. Just as a chef must alter their recipe to create a new dish, we must adapt our approaches to life to break free from repetitive outcomes. We discuss the significance of trying new things, pursuing passions, and embracing a spirit of adventure.  The episode emph...

In this episode, we delve into the often-overlooked mental health struggles within the hospitality industry. Drawing from personal experiences and those shared by others, I explore the unique pressures and challenges that contribute to mental health issues in this demanding field. From long and irregular hours to the constant pressure of customer service, we dissect the factors that can take a tol...

Where my multi-passionate homies at?? In this episode of Seared, we dive into the fascinating world of multi-potentialites.  We explore the unique experiences and challenges of those who possess a wide range of interests and passions. I share the common misconception of needing a single specialty, highlighting the freedom and creativity that comes from embracing multiple passions.  We discuss the...

In this episode of Seared, we dive into the nuanced difference between tolerance and acceptance.  They can look the same on the surface, but underneath - oof, what a difference! Tolerance, I would argue, is simply enduring a situation, while acceptance involves a deeper level of understanding and embracing.  To help you shift from tolerance to acceptance, we share practical tips that can transform...

In this episode, we dive deep into the sacred relationship between food and spirituality.  We explore how food nourishes not just our bodies but also our souls, connecting us to our communities, cultures, and the very land that sustains us. We delve into the rich traditions of Indigenous cultures, where food is seen as a sacred gift, a way to express gratitude, and a means of fostering strong comm...

Ever felt ignored? 💔 It hurts, right? Being ignored can be a painful experience. In this episode of Seared, we delve into the pain of being ignored, from subtle slights to outright shunning. We'll explore the different ways people ignore others, the emotional toll it takes, and historical context.  You'll also hear me share my own stories of being ignored...and me being the aggressor (y...

Have you ever dreaded having a difficult conversation?  Whether it's a tough talk with a coworker, a friend, or a family member, these conversations can be stressful and anxiety-inducing.  In this episode, we'll explore practical strategies for navigating these challenging situations with grace and effectiveness. From breaking up with a partner to addressing a sensitive issue with a coll...

The culinary world, often glamorized, can be a harsh reality. I'll share my experiences with the toxic culture, long hours, and demanding personalities that can wear down even the most passionate chefs. It's easy to get caught up in negativity and cynicism, but I've learned the importance of focusing on the positive. By seeking out inspiring individuals and staying true to our own v...

Many of us are told that we should be "passionate" about our jobs. But is that always realistic or even desirable? In this episode, I explore how passion isn't something that you HAVE to have in your job, and why it's okay to have a job that you simply like rather than love.  I discuss how your work can provide the resources and freedom to pursue your true passions outside of w...

Tired of feeling intimidated by technology? Join me for a candid conversation about the common fears people have about new tech, from feeling inadequate to worrying about job security. I'll share my personal journey as a traditionalist who embraced technology and discovered its incredible benefits. Discover how technology can be a powerful tool, not a threat, when used mindfully. Learn how to...

How much does character count?  In this episode of Seared, I discuss how we tend to measure someone's character, the importance of overcoming limiting beliefs, and the power of strong character in overcoming adversity. I share stories of some of my culinary students who triumphed over challenges thanks to their unwavering character. I also explore the difference between hiring someone with gr...

In this episode, I emphasize the importance of guarding your energy, particularly during times of global turmoil and natural disasters. Our sensitivity, while a superpower, can be easily overwhelmed by the negative energy surrounding us.  It's crucial to prioritize self-care and tend to our own needs.  By moving our bodies, engaging in activities that fill our cups, and managing our energy le...

In this episode of Seared, we dive into the dangers of perfectionism, using the example of a renowned chef Charlie Trotter, who pursued excellence at all costs. While striving for excellence can be beneficial, it's essential to balance it with humility, mental health awareness, and self-care. Perfectionism can lead to significant suffering, impacting relationships, health, and overall well-be...

In this episode of Seared, we delve into the complexities of celebrity perception and personal expectations. Drawing from my encounters with renowned chefs, I share how my initial judgments were clouded by preconceived notions. We explore the reality behind the public image, acknowledging that even our heroes face personal struggles and disappointments. It's also about understanding how expec...

In this episode of Seared, I discuss the risks of playing it safe and the importance of stepping outside your comfort zone. Using a restaurant I used to work at as an example, I illustrate how conformity can stifle creativity and uniqueness . The key to avoiding being humdrum is to take small, imperfect actions to attract unexpected opportunities. The universe often meets us halfway, so daring to...

Do you have a spicy vocabulary? Told that you swear too much? Does your speech sound like it comes from a Tarantino or Scorsese script? This first episode of Season 2 of Seared is a deep dive into the power of language, specifically swearing. We'll explore how to harness the power of words, including the controversial four-letter ones. While swearing can be a tool for emphasis or connection,...

It's a stereotype - the chef (and cooks) yelling at the poor servers as they come into the back of the house to do their job.  I used to be like that too, until I realized a few things: 1) I was being a jerk 2) They're doing they're job and deserve to be treated well 3) We're all on the same team It came down to CHOICE - how I decided to see the situation and how I wanted to co...