Scott Kiloby’s Podcast - Natural Recovery from Suffering

Join Scott and Toshi, co-authors of Awake But Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding, as they explore the relationship between hyper-independence and the no-self concept in spirituality. In this insightful discussion, they delve into how these ideas are often linked to emotional repression and the unintended challenges that can arise on the spiritual p...

Listen to Scott take you behind the scenes of being a Nonduality teacher with emotional repression from the perfect stillness to the sex bathhouses. This episode marks the release of Scott’s new book, “Awake But Sick, the Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding.” Order the book now: https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.

In this episode, Scott delves into the case against solely focusing on awareness-based practices, such as non-dual pointing meditation and mindfulness, in one's transformative journey. He argues that integrating skillful emotional processing is essential for genuine transformation. Scott discusses his book “Awake But Sick" wherein he and co-author Toshi Matsunaga explore the historical context of...

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This episode delves into Scott's personal approach to living, as well as his insights on personal and business relationships, illustrating how the personal, impersonal, and interpersonal are interconnected through the shared root of suffering. Scott shares his journey on the spiritual path, emphasizing the importance of connecting with both the body and others from the start. He discusses how buri...

Scott’s new book on the myth of immediate freedom and the dangers of spiritual seeking and finding is out March 14th. Pre-order now: https://kiloby.com/awake-but-sick.

Scott goes into depth around how his previous shadow modalities and other such modalities do not get to the very root of the shadows, which is emotional repression. He breaks apart the entire process of how we miss it in our direct experience. We miss for example that we create the sense of separation for safety from the emotional repression, and that our resistance to doing skillful shadow work t...

In this episode of the podcast, host Scott delves into the duality of buried emotions and their role in creating surface-level suffering. Using the analogy of an iceberg, he illustrates how much of our emotional experience lies hidden beneath the surface—frozen feelings of anger, hurt, sadness, and fear that we often don't acknowledge. Above the waterline, we encounter familiar states like anxiety...

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In this episode, Scott delves into the complexities of emotional repression and its impact on our relationships. He explores how unmet needs for love, safety, and approval often lie beneath the surface, driving our behavior in unconscious ways. When we enter relationships, we may not even realize that we’re seeking to fulfill these unmet needs, leading to suffering and conflict. As individuals beg...

Scott gets really personal, explaining how being a teacher has been good for others including others very close to him, but it hasn’t always been good for him. Scott speaks candidly about his last relationship including post-breakup issues and what life—without disconnection from others and from emotions—looks like. This is less a teaching episode and more like an entry into Scott’s personal journ...

Scott Kiloby & Dan McLintock, the co-founders / developers of the KI, sit down for a podcast discussion about their experience of authentic recovery from addiction (aka resolving their emotional repression) vs what they experienced in 12 Step programs - and their critique of the latter. Come speak to Dan about working with him one on one: https://kiloby.com/dan

Scott answers the question of what life is like before and after anchor repression Inquiry in KI. He answers it in a very unique way by speaking to anger repressor in a way that he wished people would speak to him when he couldn’t see his own nice and peaceful ego coming from buried rage. Authenticity is a right of passage that is necessary for everyone who desires, true healing or liberation and...

In this episode, Scott explores the origins of relationship triggers and the complex interplay between buried emotions and various trauma responses—such as fight, flight, freeze, or fawn—or self-limiting beliefs that arise when we are triggered. These reactions are often protective mechanisms designed to keep us safe from the buried emotions we have yet to confront. However, these very buried emot...

In this episode, Scott explores the question: Is it safe to care and love deeply? He distinguishes between genuine care and the superficial empathy often confused with it. Genuine care is embodied, arising from the processing of buried emotions and unmet childhood needs. Scott emphasizes that true safety and love are achieved when we confront our trauma and emotional repression. Many struggle with...

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In this episode, Scott discusses layers of shame, inspired by the work of Bessel van der Kolk, Gabor Maté, and Peter Levine. He shares his personal experience, revealing how he spent over five years mistakenly viewing shame as the final layer of his emotional struggles. Through this journey, Scott discovered that this layer protected him from facing deeper issues, particularly repressed anger and...

Scott has an important announcement you won’t want to miss. Sign up for his KI Jumpstart Group here: https://kiloby.com/jumpstart.

Join Scott in this thought-provoking episode as he tackles the complex question: Are we responsible for the bad in others? Delving into emotional repression, Scott explores how buried anger made him fixate on the bad in others. While acknowledging the real issues and suffering present in the world, Scott aims to help listeners understand how emotional repression contributes to dualities of good an...

As I’ve stated publicly many times, I am not a woman trapped in a man’s body. My issues with sexuality and gender were connected to anger and femininity repression. I thought that I was going to transition, but that’s because I was afraid of my own femininity and my own anger. By owning both, I found authenticity and boundaries and I know what I am. If Maryam is working out gender or sexual orient...

Scott shares his vision for ‘freedom at all costs’ without the financial and health costs of spiritual bypassing and for his teaching overall in 2025 and beyond. See the free resources below. Save these resources in your own playlist because more are coming. Watch for new short videos on Scott’s social media channels showing you these 1D and 2D tools (explained in this episode) and how to use them...

In this podcast, Scott simplifies seemingly complex topics such as avoidant or anxious attachment styles, unmet needs, and other forms of suffering at the surface, connecting them to some very basic conditioning in the body that can be summed up as "I need your love, but I'm afraid of it." If you resonate with the topic of this episode and are interested in joining Scott's March Jumpstart group to...

In preparation for Scott's upcoming podcast with co-developer Dan McLintock on the critique of the 12-step program, Scott explains what authentic recovery means for him. He shares that his journey began only when he started processing the buried emotions that were creating his addictions. The K I Way of recovery is different from many forms of recovery or addiction treatment in the world, but it i...

In this exciting episode of the podcast, Scott is thrilled to welcome his co-author and fellow KI co-developer and trainer, Toshi Matsunaga. Scott and Toshi co-authored the book *Awake but Sick: The Myth of Immediate Freedom and the Dangers of Spiritual Seeking and Finding.* They've worked closely together for years developing and simplifying KI emotional repression inquiry. Together, they've expl...