School of Self-Image

Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I'm actually living and thinking about. Today's confession is a celebration and an honest look back at 12 years of showing up. 500 episodes. I still can't believe it. My first podcast was published on August 8, 2014, and I have been showing up consistently – week after week – ever since. Over coff...

Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I'm actually living and thinking about. Last year, I felt a very particular kind of tiredness. Not physical. Emotional fatigue paired with restlessness, and I couldn't figure out why. Was it my hormones? The time of year? What I discovered was something else entirely: I was tired of performing. I...

Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I'm actually living and thinking about. Today's confession is something I've been sitting with for a while. I started thinking about the seasons of my life when anxiety showed up the loudest. Some of those seasons made sense from the outside – things were hard. But others were confusing. Things we...

Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I'm actually living and thinking about.  Today's episode is one I've been wanting to record for a while. People assume aging well is a formula. Find the right peptides. Count the right macros. Follow the right protocol.  I'm not here to tell you what to take or track. I'm here to tell you what I'v...

Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where we gather around the pool and I confess the things I've been thinking, feeling, and experiencing – in hopes of normalizing these conversations and helping you know you're not alone. Today's confession is one that almost every successful woman I've ever talked to has felt at some point. The fear of losing it all. When I first started my busine...

Style is your survival strategy. Come find yours: https://schoolofselfimage.com/june We're about to live through the most average decade in human history. AI is becoming really, really good at sounding like everyone. And it shows. But here's the thing that a machine can't do. It can't be a woman who knows exactly who she is. Lately, I'm hearing the same thing from women everywhere: "I feel invisib...

Ready to discover your personal Style Statement and walk into every season of your life knowing exactly WHO you're dressing? This is the work we're doing inside the membership in June. Join us at https://schoolofselfimage.com/go For most of my life, I hated shopping. Not because I didn't care about clothes – but because I had no idea who I was dressing. I was buying what the mannequin wore. What t...

Want to go deeper on your self-image – week by week, one shift at a time? Subscribe to The Edit at https://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Style isn't about clothes. It's your inner thoughts about yourself made visible – one of the most accurate self-portraits a woman paints. A daily, public answer to the question: Who do you think you are? In this episode, Tonya walks through her three biggest style m...

You've been writing about her for years. You know the way she carries herself. You know the outfits she'd wear, the dinners she'd attend, the way she says her opinion at the table without softening it first. You have written about her so many times you could find her blindfolded. And she is still standing on the wrong side of the page. Today I'm questioning something I love – and that I know you l...

Join me for The Spring Edit, a month-long experience inside the School of Self-Image that I'm doing right alongside you. One room, one honest look, and one woman deciding who she is now – and creating a space that says so. https://www.schoolofselfimage.com/go  There's a room in my house that I've called my studio for nearly two years. I've never once recorded a podcast in it. Two walls painted bla...

Your environment tells a story about who you are. Inside the School of Self-Image, we're editing it – one room at a time. Join us for The Spring Edit. https://schoolofselfimage.com/join I used to live in a cabin in the woods. Not a charming stone cottage with wildflowers by the mailbox –  a cabin off a dirt road where your social circle is basically whoever delivers your packages. I loved that cab...

If you see yourself in this story, the School of Self-Image is where this work lives. Step inside at https://www.schoolofselfimage.com/go I need to tell you something that I've never said on this podcast before. My home is beautiful. My closet is curated. My kitchen is organized to within an inch of its life.  But my bathroom cabinets? Chaos. Beautiful, expensive chaos. Standing in front of those...

If this episode stirred something in you, The Edit – my weekly newsletter – delivers more of these shifts straight to your inbox. Subscribe free at: schoolofselfimage.com/edit . What if the thing you've been avoiding isn't the problem… but the portal? In today's episode, I'm taking you inside a deeply personal story – one that started with a box in my garage but led somewhere I didn't expect. Beca...

If this conversation is speaking to something in you, April inside the School of Self-Image is devoted to The Vibrant Well-Being Framework – and there's no better time to step inside. https://schoolofselfimage.com/go What if the reason you don't feel as vibrant as you'd like isn't your schedule, your body, or your circumstances – but something far more subtle? In the second part of our conversatio...

If this conversation is calling to you, April inside the School of Self-Image is devoted to The Vibrant Well-Being Framework – and there's never been a better moment to join us. https://schoolofselfimage.com/go What if vibrant well-being has nothing to do with how you look – and everything to do with how you feel inside your life? In this conversation with Laura Hinton, we explore the subtle ways...

For a weekly dose of small but powerful shifts that elevate your self-image and your life, subscribe to my newsletter, The Edit. https://schoolofselfimage.com/edit Twenty years ago, in my former life as a critical care nurse, I was standing at the nurses' station at 5AM thinking, "Is this it? Is this what my life is going to feel like?" My life wasn't terrible. I had people I loved, a roof over my...

Discover your truest expression and learn how to live it daily with the Sweet Spot Playbook.   https://schoolofselfimage.com/pod-sweet I want you to think about the most vibrant woman you know. Not the most successful. Not the most beautiful. The most vibrant. She walks into a room and something shifts. Not because she's loud. Not because she's trying. She's just… alive. Most people assume she mus...

If you're ready to rewrite your story and become unrecognizable, join me in the School of Self-Image Membership. https://schoolofselfimage.com/join Think about the last time someone asked, "Tell me about yourself." Whatever you said next started with two words: "I am." And those two words? They're running your entire life. You've been programming yourself with "I am" statements since childhood – a...

If you're ready to stop just going through the motions and start actually living, join me in the School of Self-Image Membership. https://schoolofselfimage.com/join When was the last time you felt truly alive? Not productive. Not busy. Not "fine." But fully inside your own life. If you have to think about it… this episode is for you. For almost two decades, I've chosen a word of the year – a singl...

What era are you ready to step into? Take the Next Era quiz and find out: https://schoolofselfimage.com/quiz-pod If you've ever caught yourself fantasizing about retirement – the beach house, the Paris apartment, the day when you can finally exhale – this episode is for you.  So many women I know are living for "over there." Over there, when the money is handled. Over there, when the kids are grow...

Every confident decision starts with knowing when to say "no". Get the free guide: https://schoolofselfimage.com/pod-no That email you've rewritten four times. The opportunity you've been "thinking about" for weeks. The decision that keeps you up at night – not because it's hard, but because you're terrified of getting it wrong. Here's what I know: you're not indecisive. You're exhausted from runn...

If you're ready to live an undistracted life, join me in the School of Self-Image Membership. https://schoolofselfimage.com/join Can I tell you about something that happened to me recently? I developed a habit. It started innocently enough – just a little extra scrolling during a difficult time. But soon, I was reaching for my phone instead of a book. Checking the news before I'd even made my morn...

Create a life that actually energizes you with The Sweet Spot Playbook. https://schoolofselfimage.com/sweetspot If you crave more elegant days, you're in the right place.  Because – let's be honest, the world doesn't feel very elegant right now. People are at each other's throats. Anxiety seems to be the dominant global emotion. There's tension in the air, and so many women I talk to feel unmotiva...

Create an intentional thought wardrobe with me in the School of Self-Image membership: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join Have you ever slipped into a favorite outfit that doesn't quite fit anymore? Not because it's wrong – it just no longer feels like you. That's exactly what's happening with many of the thoughts you're carrying around. We're so careful about what we put on our bodies. We edit ou...

Curate a life that feels good as it looks in the School of Self-Image membership. Sign up here: https://schoolofselfimage.com/join What if everything we've been told about aging well is keeping us from actually living well? What if all the products, protocols, and rules for "aging gracefully" are actually doing the opposite? You've heard the typical hacks: eat healthy, exercise, maybe even Botox....