Savage Lovecast

This week, Dan's guest is epidemiologist Daniel Westreich, who spells out the concept of physical distancing, and why sexual intimacy is going to be pretty difficult to attain for many of us. Some of the conversation is on the Micro, and all of it is on the Magnum. A man asks if virtual reality porn makes sense to help "spice up your sex life." Why yes, it makes  A LOT of sense right now. A woman...

Here at Savage Lovecast world headquarters, in the heart of the epicenter of the Big Sick, we are keeping calm and carrying on, baby! Dan chats with Dr. Jen Gunter, who had to practice social distancing for ONE YEAR, so quit griping. She offers some strategies for how to deal with your new isolation. And, Dr. Debby Herbenick explains that although the corona virus is not sexually transmitted, you...

Sometimes people call us when they're drunk. Sometimes they call us about their dogs. Welcome to the center of this Venn diagram.  A woman has been invited to a "costume wedding." She will be required to dress up like a character in a movie. Is this asking too much? On the Magnum version of the show, it's a super-weird "What You Got?" with an evolutionary reproductive biologist who mulls over the...

A gay man was hooking up at a bathhouse. His brand new lover wanted to bring a little romance into the encounter by saying the caller's name and complimenting him. The caller was horrified. Isn't bathhouse sex supposed to be anonymous? Meanwhile, in another corner of our universe, a woman is appalled that her boyfriend closes his eyes when they're having sex. How can she get him to gaze deeply int...

A straight man was dating a woman, and it felt great. Until she gave him the "I'm not ready for a relationship" line. Is this always a lie? What does it mean? Dan spells it out, with no sugar on top. A man is worried about his new girlfriend. You see, she has never had penetrative sex. Is he special enough to be her first? On the Micro and more on the Magnum, Dan chats with weed journalist (now th...

A man is going through a divorce from his wife of 7 years. Although their breakup was peaceful, now her communication is curt and unfriendly. Is he entitled to feel angry about her unwarranted coldness? A man kindly lent a friend some money. Now she keeps asking him for more and more every month! Should he just set her up with a regular payment, or cut off the friendship? On the Micro and the Magn...

A young man has been dating a woman for a short time. She seems great...except. Except she is anti-abortion, and anti-gay in a lazy, not very heartfelt sort of way. Can he use his sex powers to change her feeble mind? Meanwhile, a woman is dating a guy also for a short time. He told her that if he got her pregnant, he would insist that she keep the child instead of have an abortion. Should she, ma...

A woman is hoping to find a monogamous partner who is also kinky. But when she puts the word "kinky" in her profile she gets flooded with ridiculous pervs. How can she filter out the clueless horndogs? Hear the very unpleasant tale of a gay couple who venture to an older man's apartment for a hook-up, only to find there were many more men there than promised. Why was this gentleman so dishonest? A...

Have you ever experienced conflict during a family vacation? The first call on this show might put it all in perspective for you. A protective big sister can't stand that her 17 year-old sis is dating a 21 year-old man. Their parents don't mind. Should big sister give the guy a chance, or is the age difference unacceptable? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr. Elizabeth Sheff from Psychology Today ab...

Scootch closer, ya'll. It's Bible study with Dan Savage. On with the show: A happily single woman finally broke down after pressure from her friend to have some sex. Against her misgivings, he convinced her to pursue a relationship, promising that if it didn't work out, they could go back to being friends, easy-peasy. Guess what! Now that she wants to break it off, he can't deal with being just fr...

Hand-wringing women, am I right? First we have a lady who feels guilty about masturbating at night when her partner is snoring next to her. And another woman feels guilty about "objectifying" her new cross-dressing boyfriend. Is it wrong to be attracted to him in his female garb? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan chats with John Moe, from the Hilarious World of Depression podcast about being...

Why, oh why (bemoans this woman,) is it that the indie, cool, female-owned sex stores never carry dildos that are big enough for her? WHY?! A gay man has been invited to be the man of honor at his sister's wedding. But you know what's weird? The sister is marrying a racist, anti-gay creep who has convinced her that the caller (and all gay people) are degenerates. So. Should our caller carry out hi...

It's kind of the bad actors show. A biting biter bit her boyfriend and drew blood. He didn't like it, so she calls him a baby. A dude wonders if can catch a contact high from sleeping with someone who is on meth. A man is miffed because a couple who came to the wedding didn't sent them a gift. Dan sternly chastises them all. People! It's 2020! Behave yourselves! On the Magnum, Dan interviews journ...

A formerly repressed man is discovering his wild side. He and his wife like to do it in quasi-public in the mountains. He just got her a remote controlled vibrator, and wants to see if he can get her off in a restaurant. But is this ethical? Will people notice? Dan interviews the co-author of a study that finds that women tend to trust gay male shopkeepers over women shopkeepers. They theorize tha...

The show begins with an insecurity vampire. You know the kind. A person who sucks you dry with their endless need for praise and reassurance. This man is dating one, but is she entirely to blame? It's complicated. And, it's a wedding battle royale! In one corner we have our caller getting married to a man who has a child by a previous marriage- living out of town. In the other corner is the fiancé...

Hot tubs. Are they a safe, relaxing haven or a menacing vector of disease? Here's a poly peril. What do you do when you really, really don't like your boyfriend's other boyfriend? On the Magnum, all of your chastity cage questions are answered, including "Chastity cages? What are you even talking about?" Dr. Ashley Winter is a urologist, sexual medicine specialist and the co-host of "The Full Rele...

A man went on a date and he felt fireworks. But later that she told him that wasn't feeling it, but wants to be friends. He doesn't need friends. He already has friends. Should he bother? This question is pretty simple. Her new lover has a gargantuan penis that is shaped like a sweet potato. How on earth is she supposed to accommodate him? On the Magnum version of the show, meet the woman who read...

A man is getting re-married. Is it shoddy to use the same officiant as his first wedding? Dan talks to a woman who had a blurry encounter with another woman as a very sexually repressed Christian school. Her lover called it rape the next day. It's been ten years, and in this #MeToo era, the caller wonders if she should find the woman and apologize. On the Magnum, a biseuxal woman wonders how she c...

A woman is concerned about her friend. Why? Well, for one, she is in a 24/7 dom/sub relationship with an abusive ex-con. They have kids, and the friend is open with them about the nature of her marriage. Is it possible to explain in a healthy way that mommy is actually a slave? We've been getting a lot of calls just like this one lately: a woman has a crush on her bandmate. He's married and it wou...

A woman wants her boyfriend to pee inside of her. Cool, cool. But he is pee shy! How can he get over it? A woman and her man love threesomes with women. But they don't want kids. Should they warn their unicorn that if she happens to get knocked up they will have no part in the parenting of her kids? Sssssexy! On the Magnum, Dan chats with worker's rights advocate Elle Stanger about the ongoing dis...

A young woman slept with her pal's ex about a year ago in one drunken evening. Now she is wracked with guilt. Should she tell her? A gay proofreader lives in a repressive country. He is tasked with fixing grammatical and spelling errors. One of his clients has written a novel riddled with homophobic tropes and forehead-slapping inaccuracies about gay people. Should he bring this to the writer's at...

A tale of two subs: What to do when both people in a couple are subs? Find one dom to rule them all? Take turns? A woman is super-duper annoyed that her Trump-lovin' brother is throwing a gender reveal party. Are they inherently unacceptable? On the Magnum version of the show, Dan casts about for a straight man to help him answer questions, and finds actor/comedian/author Michael Ian Black to disc...

A woman was apparently dating Genghis Khan. He told her he had had a vasectomy, but she got pregnant anyway. And so had a bunch of other women he dated. Her lawyer says she has a battery case. Her friends tell her to chill out. What do you think? A married woman has a very dear gay male friend. She wants to go on vacation with him. But is this too much? Too close? Too weird?  On the Magnum, are we...

A woman has vowed to never date a Trump voter. But she lives in a small conservative town, and she's getting lonely... A woman did some sex work a couple years ago. She's dating someone new and wonders if, when or how to tell him. On the Magnum, Dan chats with Joan Price, author of "Naked at Our Age" about how to combat the effects of early menopause. Poor unicorn! Her couple broke up! Should she...

An open-minded but shy woman has a gaggle of friends who all talk about sticking their fingers in their boyfriends butts- to everyone's delight. But the caller isn't into it. Is she depriving her boyfriend of this singular pleasure? A woman got a tattoo and felt turned on by the experience. Her husband reaped the benefits of this lust later that night. But is it wrong to secretly perv on her tatto...