Same D Different B

Is it true that a small group of men are dating the majority of women? If so, it's easy to imagine the impact this could have on single women trying to navigate today's dating scene. Could this be one of the reasons behind so many of the frustrations and challenges we're seeing in modern dating and relationships between the sexes? Is the answer to embrace open relationships or perha...

Can we help Aniya turn her situationship into a real relationship?  The term “Situationship” may be annoying and cheesy, but one thing it isn't is overused. In today's dating world, the lines between casual dating and committed relationships have never been blurrier. Here's a simple rule of thumb: If you've been seeing someone for two or three months and haven't had "...

In this episode, we revisit the topic behind my most popular episode yet: Can a woman succeed in dating without sexy app photos? Maybe the answer is more nuanced than I initially suggested. The solution may be a conditional approach that balances the need to attract with the need to filter. Join me as we explore the delicate balance between making a great first impression and attracting the right...

Alegria is 38, single, and wants to get married and have children. Her situation is increasingly common as more women spend their 30s focused on their careers, the rising cost of living makes starting a family more challenging, dating apps have changed how people meet and commit, and social expectations around relationships continue to evolve. So how does someone like Alegria navigate dating when...

Maybe it’s time to stop blaming the dating apps and start taking a little more accountability for how we use them. Is it possible to self govern our dating app behavior and actually get better results while experiencing less burnout? I believe the answer is a resounding yes! A big part of the problem may be that we’re simply trying to do too much. Too many conversations, too many matches, too many...

Would you go on three dates with three men who don’t fit your usual filters or standards if it could ultimately lead you to the right man? What if, instead of immediately swiping left, you challenged yourself to step outside your normal dating patterns and see what you might learn? Maybe you discover qualities you never realized you valued. Maybe you confirm exactly why certain things are nonnegot...

In this episode, we dispel the misconception that promoting healthy relationships means putting down the single life. Ira explores the male and female echo chambers that have formed on social media, where singledom is often glorified while the opposite sex is criticized and blamed. We discuss how repeated exposure to these mindsets can shape the way we view dating and relationships, and the challe...

Rachel is exhausted with dating. And the biggest culprit? The inconsistency and confusion of the men she’s matching with and talking to on dating apps. One minute they’re interested, the next they’re distant. It’s hot and cold, confusing, and frustrating, and it seems to keep happening over and over again. In this episode, we tackle this incredibly common dating struggle and share some key message...

Your dating profile is often the very first impression a potential match has of you, and it might be sending a message you never intended. Are the photos, prompts, and bio you've chosen actually reflecting who you are and what you're looking for? Or could they be working against you without you even realizing it? In this episode, Rob from Chicago joins us to give an unfiltered, no holds...

In this episode, we continue exploring some of the dating behaviors that could be influencing how a man views you and ultimately treats you. The objective of this episode, and the entire pod, is to help you filter out the men who won’t take you seriously and learn how to steer the ones who could in the right direction. We hear from Renee in Austin, who wonders where the line is when it comes to in...

In this episode, we begin to explore the behaviors that could be influencing whether men take you seriously or casually, potentially before you even meet. Could your pictures and social media be having a behind the scenes impact on your dating life? We’ll hear from Rebecca, who raises a very poignant question: “If my pictures are the reason men reach out to me on dating sites, won’t I lose all of...

In this episode, we explore the characteristics that may be blocking a man from pursuing a woman seriously. Which are true deal breakers, and which can be overcome? We also discuss whether thinking of dating as a "job" is simply a negative idea or can be an opportunity to approach dating with more intention.   Enjoyed the episode? Follow the podcast and join the conversation on Instagram...

Dating in today's environment has gotten messy. In this episode, I introduce the premise behind the show and explain the meaning of its title. Then, we step into Lauren's shoes as she navigates a situation we've all experienced, exploring how we might approach it and what we can learn from it.  Enjoyed the episode? Follow the podcast and join the conversation on Instagram and TikTok...

Why are some women placed in the "casual" category while others are considered serious relationship material in the eyes of the same man? In this episode, we begin to unpack the psychology behind that distinction and help Christina determine whether dating a younger man is a promising opportunity or a relationship that's unlikely to go the distance.  Enjoyed the episode? Follow the...

In the very first episode we will introduce the Same D Different B Podcast and explain the name and some of the foundational elements that guide my dating advice.  We will also hear from Lauren, who has found herself in an uncomfortably comfortable situation.