Sam And Gen Got Divorced

⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses addiction, childhood abuse, trauma, and the impact these experiences can have on marriage and relationships. (Note that Sam goes more deeply into the exact nature of addiction and the specific effects it had on his marriage in the episodes that follow. ) This was a difficult episode for Sam to record. In this one-on-one conversation, Shereen sits down wit...

In this episode, Sam and Gen sit down for a candid conversation about what people are really looking for when they say they do not have capacity for full commitment. Gen shares why a situationship can make sense in a season where long term investment is not possible, but the desire for connection, affirmation, romance, and companionship is still very real. Sam reflects on his own version of that d...

Our funniest episode yet... Join Sam, Gen, and guest host Kwesi as they share their perspectives on situationships and the value (or harm) they bring, as well as their own situationship experiences post-divorce.

In this episode, Sam and Gen are joined by guest host Shereen for Part 2 of their conversation on grieving divorce. Sam reflects openly on his regrets surrounding children, legacy, and the future he once imagined. Gen shares how her parents’ marriage and divorce shaped her expectations of commitment, conflict, and what love was supposed to look like. Together, they explore how early narratives inf...

In a deeply relatable episode for anyone who has been touched by divorce, whether their own or that of a loved one , Sam and Gen outline how their respective grieving processes started before the marriage ended, and share the aspects of grief that are still with them today.

In Part 2 of this conversation, Sam and Gen turn their attention to the stories we tell after a relationship ends, and who those stories are really for. They explore whether Sam has shared the full story of their separation in a way that feels authentic to Gen, and what it means to tell the truth publicly while still honoring personal boundaries. The discussion moves into when full disclosure is h...

In this episode, Sam and Gen are joined by guest host Simone Smithson for a candid conversation about memory and meaning, and why two people can experience the same relationship and remember it completely differently. Through specific moments from their marriage, including how their relationship began, a honeymoon memory that carried opposite emotions, and a gift that was deeply meaningful to one...

This episode continues our conversation on conflict—this time focusing on boundaries. With Cheddy back in the guest host seat, we get into how we learned to set limits with each other, the difference between protecting yourself and shutting down, and why men and women often process trauma and seek support differently. We also talk: When to trust your body vs. when to question if it's a trauma...

What happens when fights are totally one-sided? In this episode, Sam and Gen open up about their fighting styles, how conflict shifted after the honeymoon phase, and the surprising arguments that actually brought them closer together. Returning fan favorite Cheddy joins to push the conversation deeper into boundaries, reflection, and what communication looks like post-divorce. Timestamps: 0:00 Int...

This one starts calm. It doesn’t stay that way. In what quickly became our most fiery episode yet, Sam and Gen open up about dating in the present tense - what it looks like now, how “situationships” complicate everything, and why modern dating feels like survival of the fittest. From background checks and “Tinder Swindler” fears to why so many men end up looking like frauds, the conversation spir...

Dating before you’re ready isn’t brave. It’s reckless. In this episode, Sam and Gen strip away the excuses and tell the truth about how they used dating as a distraction - even before the ink on their divorce was dry. The fallout wasn’t abstract. It left scars - on themselves, and on the people they pulled in along the way. Gen admits her pattern of checking out of relationships long before they w...

We’re back with the second half of our conversation on attraction—this time, Sam and Gen dive deeper into what attraction really means: is it about looks, energy, or something more? Together with guest host Karen Jewels, the trio wrestle with whether different types of attraction matter, how attraction connects to forgiveness, and what “being attractive” looks like long after the spark fades. Ther...

Attraction brought us together. Or did it? In this episode, we dig into what drew us to each other in the first place—our “types,” our first trip together, and those early moments when curiosity turned into commitment. Spoiler: the answers aren’t what you’d expect. With recording artist Karen Jewels guest hosting, things get even messier (and more honest) as we talk about how attraction fades, how...

The debate continues.. In part two, Sam and Gen go further into the intellectual dynamics of their marriage. Gen shares the sacrifices she made to create space for Sam’s ideas, and alongside guest hosts Jeff and Joel, Sam and Gen wrestle with whether formal education is really a marker of intellectual strength - or just a piece of paper. The conversation moves beyond surface-level definitions into...

What happens when you mix love, intellect, and four people who aren’t afraid to call each other out? Sam and Gen welcome back Jeff and Joel for a spirited debate on what it really means to “carry” a relationship intellectually. Is it about having the higher IQ? Or is it about using your brainpower to keep things healthy, functional, and moving forward? Between playful jabs and unexpected tangents,...

In a special bonus episode, Jeff recounts a funny phone call mishap involving Samuel, leading to a lighthearted discussion about Samuel's unique way of saying Genevieve's name. The conversation takes a deeper turn as they explore a pre-marital disagreement about which church to attend, revealing underlying issues involving authority, gender roles, and support systems. 00:25 A Funny Miscomm...

It's late. We're tired. And somehow... that made this conversation even more honest. In this second installment, Sam and Gen return with Timo to unpack what really defines financial leadership in a relationship. Is it just about who paid the bills? Or is there more to carrying the load than cash flow? They divorced couple explore whether financial mismanagement disqualifies someone from be...

In the final installment of this three-part series, Gen gets real about what it’s like to podcast with her ex—and what still gets under her skin. Guest host Shereen doesn’t hold back, asking directly if Gen would ever consider getting back with Sam. Gen answers in full detail, unpacking her reasons, her boundaries, and the growth it took to get to that answer. She also offers her take on the deepe...

*Trigger Warning* - Discussion of ab*se In Part Two of this deeply personal conversation, Gen continues to unpack the emotional and psychological weight of her marriage to Sam. She revisits the choice to marry him—what influenced it, what she ignored, and what it’s like to relive those decisions in hindsight. Gen also opens up about her personal journey through therapy, what led her to become a th...

“I didn’t feel emotionally safe anymore.” In this episode, Gen opens up about when things actually started feeling off, what made her say yes in the first place, and how she ignored the red flags. A woman-to-woman conversation on boundaries, alignment, and what happens when the vibe changes after “I do.” Support the show by subscribing or sharing! Keywords for the algo: divorce podcast, relationsh...

Money talks. And in this episode, Sam and Gen talk back. In this conversation, the formerly married pair unpack who actually carried the financial weight in their marriage—and what that even means. Was it 50/50? What about the planning, the execution, the stress? They dive into how gender roles, cultural expectations, and unspoken assumptions all shaped their approach to money as a couple. Topics...

The debate continues... In this follow-up episode, Sam and Gen are joined once again by guest hosts Timo and Valeria to dig even deeper into the emotional dynamics that shaped their past relationship. Picking up right where they left off, the group explores how emotional responsibility was—or wasn’t—shared, how it felt at the time, and what each person has come to realize in hindsight. Expect cand...

Sam and Gen, like you've never seen them before... In this podcast episode, hosts Sam and Gen welcome guest hosts Timo and Valeria for a lively debate about who was more of an emotional "pillar" in their marriage. The former couple delves into the emotional dynamics of their past relationship, exploring key pillars of emotional intelligence such as self-awareness, empathy, and emotional regulation...

In the second round of our "Who Carried The Relationship?" series, Sam and Gen continue their deep dive into the spiritual aspects of their relationship. Together with Joel, our hosts delve deeper into the complexities of spiritual leadership and discuss the burden of spiritual expectations, the impact of addiction, and the challenges of merging lives with differing spiritual priorities....

Exciting news! We're starting a new series called "Who Carried The Relationship?" In this batch of episodes, Sam and Gen will vote on, then debate, who they believe did a better job in their marriage at leading in various areas (finances, emotional intelligence, spirituality, and more).In today's episode, Sam and Gen discuss the significance of a spiritual connection in relations...