Salt and Light Marriages

Why are we doing this? Why put our business and lives out in the open? Because it matters- it matters more than we will ever know. It matters more than you may know. We believe vulnerability and authenticity are the key to amazing relationships and we want to create the space for that to happen. Not just in your marriage, but for men to have comrades to lean on when things suck. For women to have...

In this episode we talk about the expectations of what doing a podcast about our personal life would mean and how shocked Ian is at the feedback. We also talk about how easy it is to open yourself up to sticky situations in your marriage with the opposite sex- especially if you aren’t in a great place. And how sometimes the best thing you can do with a negative person is Bless their heart and move...

75 Hard- a mental toughness challenge meant to bring out the best in you… or does it? We both committed to this challenge at different times for different reasons and learned so much about ourselves in the process- good and bad. It also created the space for conversations around topics or situations we had never discussed.

The holidays are supposed to be the most wonderful time of year. However, sometimes we fill up our calendars, rush around, eat and drink too much, all the things we’ve just always done. Which often means we forget to even check in with who matters most- our spouse. Not to mention if you are in a place of healing where memories can trigger you out of the blue. Or in a place of disconnect, dislike,...

What roles you play in your marriage don’t necessarily add up to a great relationship. Sometimes it’s just the unsaid, unmet expectations. Join us we dive into what it looks like when you can’t show up in the energy that makes marriage not only thrive but fun!

Actions speaks louder than words especially after betrayal. God is in every story, but so is free will. You always have a choice and so does your spouse.

Everyone knows the biggest marriage vow, the one that says forsake all others. But, we tend to gloss over all the other vows that go along with that one. Not many people get married and say their vows with the intentions of one day breaking them, yet it happens all the time. Join us we dive into all the broken vows and what we have learned from it.

In this episode we dive deeper into why we think trips and getaways together are so important in a marriage. We discuss what has changed from our past trips to now and why they used to be an area of disconnect and expectations. We also talk about the planner and the non planner and how that plays a role in resentment.

In this episode we talk about the importance of getting away. Short and sweet, just like a getaway weekend should be… or a night not at home! It gives you chance to forget about household responsibilities and just be husband and wife.

Keep your friends close, your enemies closer… or not. The 5 people you are around the most is who you become most like. How you act is what you attract… We have all heard these sayings but rarely do we really think about them. In the process of rebuilding our marriage, we revamped our entire lives. We found out how important it is to have good people at your table. To have people that call you on...

You often hear the phrase “happy wife, happy life,” basically do what she says and all is well. But we found that was the exact opposite. We dive into how not speaking up about your true feelings, on both sides, for the greater good actually make things not good at all, build resentment, and break trust. Join us we dive into this saying and how making assumptions leads down a path you never though...

We will forever preach how important date nights are to us and our marriage. But they weren’t always fun or easy. Now they are our favorite day of the week! We get into all of that this week and how we didn’t even date much before we got married!

Have you ever thought about how happy your marriage or life would be if only your spouse would do this one thing? Or maybe many things? Did you ever consider it’s not them, but you? In this episode we share our experiences that not only helped us find our way back to a better marriage, but as better people.

It is often said that”trust is gained in drops, but lost in buckets.” That is never more true than when there is a betrayal in your marriage. In this episode we dive into the months following our separation as well as what not having boundaries did to contribute to us getting there.

Our marriage was over. We both were done. This episode is interview style to introduce you to who we were, how we got where we were, and the start living the life we always dreamed. We just had to hit rock bottom to get there. His side. Her side. Here we go!