Safe to Hope

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible. Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              ...

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible. Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              ...

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible. Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              ...

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible. Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              ...

In this episode of Safe to Hope , Ann Maree and Julia sit down with Dr. Steve Tracy, President of Mending the Soul Ministries, to explore the reality of spiritual abuse within the Church. Through theological insight and real-life application, Dr. Tracy helps unpack how misuse of authority, emotional neglect, and distorted interpretations of Scripture can deeply impact survivors. Grounded in Helen’...

Safe To Hope is one of the resources offered through the ministry of Help[H]er, a 501C3 that provides advocacy for women in crisis in the church, and training and resources for those ministering in one-another care. Your donations make it possible for Help[H]er to serve as they navigate crises. All donations are tax-deductible. Help[H]er website                          Give     Shop              ...

In this episode of Safe to Hope, Dr. Lisa Oakley, a professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Chester explains her 20-year journey in defining and addressing spiritual abuse, highlighting its emotional and psychological impacts. She emphasizes the importance of creating healthy church cultures and responding well to disclosures. Dr. Oakley will discuss the subtlety of spiritua...

In this episode of Safe to Hope , guest host Lynna Sutherland from Advocacy from the Presbyterian Pew sits down with Ann Maree to discuss how spiritual abuse can unfold inside church structures—and why a woman’s “perspective” is often dismissed when authority is treated as ultimate. Ann Maree shares her journey from long-term service and trust in her church to becoming the one who was silenced, di...

In this first episode of Safe to Hope, Season 7 Wade Mullen joins Ann Maree and Julia to unpack how spiritual abuse operates within churches and Christian organizations. Drawing from his research and lived experience, Wade exposes the image-protecting tactics—silencing, justification, denial, and confusion—that often harm victims and protect systems. This conversation offers language, clarity, and...

This bonus and final episode of the Safe to Hope podcast brings together Dr. Dan Allender and our storyteller, Carya, in a conversation that is both tender and profound. Dr. Allender—known for his pioneering work in trauma and abuse recovery—invites Carya to reflect on her healing journey through the lens of God’s image, goodness, and gentleness. Together, they explore the paradox of holding both...

In her final story episode, Carya reflects on what it means for God to be with her—not only through rescue, but in the long, quiet ache that follows. Through Scripture, images, and honest wrestling, she shares how comfort can coexist with agony, and how the Word that once felt distant has become both balm and challenge. Explore what healing looks like when it isn’t finished yet—when faith must hol...

Dr. Dan Allender joins Ann Maree to discuss trauma, faith, and the work of story. Together they wrestle with how believers can live in the tension between death and resurrection—where hope and heartache coexist. SHOW NOTES: Episode 4 Self-Care Episode 6 Dr Heather Evans Dr Allender’s Resources: The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse The Healing Path: How the Hurts in Y...

Carya’s rescue didn’t begin with a manual—it began with love, prayer, and a community willing to bear witness. In this conversation, “Lynn,” the trusted friend who helped orchestrate Carya’s exit from harm, shares how faith, patience, wise counsel, and practical safeguards came together to make safety possible. This is not a how-to guide; it’s a testimony of God’s steady care through ordinary peop...

In this pivotal chapter of her story, Carya shares how her long nightmare began to shift—when the years of abuse finally gave way to rescue. Yet safety was not something she could walk into alone. This episode highlights the crucial role of people-helpers—those who step in, stand beside, and walk with survivors through the fear, uncertainty, and fragile beginnings of healing. Show Notes: Episode 4...

This week on Safe to Hope , Dr. Heather Davediuk Gingrich joins us for a conversation that blends deep clinical insight with years of walking alongside survivors of extreme abuse. From dissociative identity disorder (DID) to ritual abuse, she helps us understand how evil distorts, how the church can cause further harm—even unintentionally—and how to become truly safe people for those who are heali...

Through language rarely spoken in Christian spaces, Carya explains the difference between grooming and training, and how dissociation became the means of survival when life became unbearable. Carya invites listeners to see not only the trauma, but the mercy that allowed her to endure it. Her words call us, the Church to deeper understanding, and to become a place where stories like hers can be kno...

In this compelling expert segment, attorney and advocate Rachael Denhollander offers deep insight into the role of theology in abuse prevention and response. She helps us understand why survivors struggle to be believed and what it takes to build churches that are safe, discerning, and equipped to care well. SHOW NOTES: What Is A Girl Worth? By Rachael Denhollander Redeeming Power by Diane Langber...

This episode is one of the most sobering in our 2025 Safe to Hope season. As Carya transitions into life beyond her father’s household, she shares how a new circle of abusers—men in Christian leadership—took over her life with terrifying control. She exposes not only their cruelty, but also how they weaponized orthodoxy, hiding their evil behind sound doctrine and religious influence. In this stor...

What does healthy intimacy look like in Christian marriage? And what happens when biblical language gets tangled with cultural stereotypes? In this powerful and hope-filled episode, we welcome Sheila Wray Gregoire—author, researcher, and founder of BareMarriage.com—to discuss her latest book The Marriage You Want . With wisdom grounded in Scripture and backed by extensive research, Sheila offers a...

In Episode 2 of our Summer Reading Series, Julia and Ann Maree welcome Elyse Fitzpatrick to talk about her latest book, Unloved: The Rejected Saints God Calls Beloved . Together they explore how God's mercy meets us in the middle of shame, rejection, and misunderstanding—and why the church desperately needs prophetic voices willing to tell the truth. With deep personal insight and decades of...

In this powerful Summer Reading Series conversation, Safe to Hope host Julia Fillnow and Help[H]er Executive Director Ann Maree Goudzwaard sit down with therapist, author, and advocate Tabitha Westbrook to explore the sacred journey of healing after trauma. Drawing from her book, Body & Soul, Healed & Whole , Tabitha speaks candidly about sexuality, consent, coercive control, embodiment, a...

With gentle clarity, Dr. Jim Wilder unpacks the logic of evil, the power of gratitude, and the vital role of community in healing. This conversation offers profound insight for anyone seeking to walk with others through unspeakable trauma—without losing sight of who God created us to be. SHOW NOTES: Episode 4 Self-Care Episode 6 Dr Heather Evans Armies of Enablers by Amos N. Guiora Dr Jim Wilder:...

In one of the most difficult episodes of the season, Carya shares how ritual abuse and satanic worship were not only part of her story—but were carried out under the cover of Christian institutions. With clarity and courage, she invites listeners to reckon with the reality that evil can flourish where it should be most opposed. Her story confronts us with questions about spiritual deception, traum...

With insight, compassion, and conviction, Dr Evans reminds us that change begins not with a rescue, but with relationship—and that listening is an act of justice. Show Notes: Understanding Complex Trauma and Post-Traumatic Growth in Survivors of Sex Trafficking: Foregrounding Women’s Voices for Effective Care and Prevention (Routledge Research in Women’s Mental Health) by Heather Evans In Our Firs...

In this first part of her story, Carya offers a window into her childhood— the one outsiders saw, and the one they didn’t. Her narrative reveals how abuse and trafficking can be carefully concealed behind the mask of normalcy, community, and even “Christian” culture. As you hear her story, we urge you to listen slowly and carefully, not just with your ears, but with your heart. We begin here to ch...