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Send us Fan Mail Ok, yes, you’re entitled to your opinions, but where do you draw the line when it comes to sharing them or demanding your own preferences at the expense of someone else’s purpose. We are each responsible for our own personal healing journeys and the development processes that we should submit to if we desire to grow. But it’s harder to grow when someone keeps pressing you down. An...

Send us Fan Mail There’s something comforting about hearing the words “me too.” As humans, we love assimilation, sameness, fitting in, having things in common… but challenges rise when we inevitably discover how different we are. We’re really good at comparison. This or that? Shrimp fried rice or chicken tacos? Red or blue? Action movies or rom-coms? There is such a thing as a healthy comparison,...

Send us Fan Mail If you wrestle with insecurity on any level what you’re really experiencing is an identity crisis. The root of insecurity is not extreme humility as some people suppose. It’s actually pride — self-centered self-talk that leads to low self-esteem. If the enemy can make you feel badly about what you’ve done, where you’ve been, or what you lack, then he can come closer to convincing...

Send us Fan Mail We’ve all been caught asking ourselves the question, “What will they think of me?” Whoever your “they” is, you perceive them to have some level of power that presents a challenge in your personal decision-making process. In this see-it-to-believe-it world where we live, people are far too often governed by their own perceptions. A person’s perception is their ultimate reality. And...

Send us Fan Mail If you wanna land the lead role, you need to look the part. If you wanna get the job, dress for the interview. If you want people to listen to you, they have to see you first. Our society thrives on looks, so that means being perceived as “attractive” drives our physical appearance regimens. That also means a truckload of insecurities. Desperately trying to keep up, we become mast...

Send us Fan Mail They say, “Never meet your idols.” Even the most well-known people aren’t actually known by all their fans, though. So how do well-known people become well-known anyway? Someone has to give people who aren’t famous a chance, but usually the most celebrated humans are the ones who get the most opportunities.  It’s perfectly fine to look up to, admire, or praise someone for somethin...

Send us Fan Mail Human beings are the most out of control species on the planet. Yet, we are the ones who desire control the most! We have a tendency to try to control things that we simply can’t.  We are inherently quick to freak out and crash out if we feel like we’re in a situation we cannot control, yet we’ll take any excuse to binge, obsess, overeat, or satisfy our pleasures, cravings, and ad...

Send us Fan Mail As a church kid, and now church adult, I’ve heard a LOT about how important it is to be generous, but I have a new perspective on it I’d like to share.  Yes, God loves a cheerful giver and when you give, it’ll be given to you…but what’s your motive? Are you giving just to get? Giving implies letting go, and letting go of anything can cause insecurities to surface. In this episode,...

Send us Fan Mail As people made in the image of the same God who kicked Satan and all his jealous buddies out of Heaven, we are in a constant war with that sworn enemy. The problem is, we’re doing so much self-sabotage and friendly fire, he hasn’t had to do much to try and defeat us. In this episode, we’re going to confront the hard truth that our insecurity is helping the enemy win the battle aga...

Send us Fan Mail Grief is proof of love. It’s also an expression of gratitude.  It’s saying, I’m grateful for the impact this person’s life had on mine….and I also feel the deficit left by the impact they made when they’re no longer here to fill it. I’m grateful that they gave from what had been given to them.  In this episode, we’re gonna talk about the connection and the collateral beauty of giv...

Send us Fan Mail What do the words value, evaluate, valor, validate and valedictorian all have in common? Yup, you guessed it. The Latin prefix “val-” means strength, worth, or health. No wonder people spend their lives chasing validation and proving their value.  Whether we deserve it or not, we all really want the same thing: to be loved, approved of, respected, seen… And whether we deserve it o...

Send us Fan Mail When insecurity builds the framework for your primary way of thinking, you are constantly in survival mode without even realizing it. You look for rejection that hasn’t even happened yet. You assume that people will assume the worst about you before they even meet you or get to know you.  You jump to the conclusion that it is necessary for you to perform in order to earn approval,...

Send us Fan Mail They say, “It’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Love is a beautiful exchange and it doesn’t leave just because a person does.” Grief is proof of that love.  Grief allows you to process the pain and find the peace of God that surpasses your emotions in situations you could never understand. Jesus is the Prince of Peace, the Holy Spirit is the best com...

Send us Fan Mail What do you have in your hand? No, seriously what are you holding onto right now? Ok, maybe not literally but think for a moment.  What gifts and talents and skills do you have? What business idea have you been sitting on? What is that thing that you diminished to being just a hobby that might actually be a whole ministry outreach in seed form?  God didn’t create houses and furnit...

Send us Fan Mail They say, “Know your worth.” What if I feel unworthy?   “Don’t settle for less!” Well, what if less than I deserve is all I have right now?  “You deserve all the best things in life.” But what if I’ve done something bad…like real bad—Michael Jackson bad? “Be confident in yourself. Believe in yourself. What if I’m not confident in myself because I realize I don’t have what I believ...

Send us Fan Mail Human beings are fluid creatures. We were designed to process and release whatever we take in. Holding anything in is dangerously bad for your health. Still there are so many people who think they are good at holding things in.  Well, in this episode, we’re going to talk about why it’s important to let it go and let it flow.  Music: “Safe” by Naomi Raine  

Send us Fan Mail The roots of a tree are beneath the surface, but they supply life-sustaining power to the entire plant. The part that everyone sees and celebrates would be nothing without the part they often overlook.  This leads me to believe that being in a season of obscurity or working behind the scenes doesn’t necessarily diminish your value.  So, in this episode, we’re gonna take a deep div...

Send us Fan Mail Isn’t it crazy that humans are the most out of control species, yet we are also the ones who desire control most of all?  The world‘s smartest know-it-alls are often praised but also feared by the less intelligent. “Knowing is half the battle” — this colloquial phrase basically means that understanding a problem is the key step to solving it. After all, knowledge is power…right? ...

Send us Fan Mail People are the most complex of all God’s creations, and if we’re honest, people be peoplin’! If they’re not careful, they will allow their past trauma to repeat itself in future scenarios and affect negative outcomes in their relationships. And you know the saying, “Hurt people hurt people.” But do you think it’s possible that people could also be a source of healing for you? In t...

Send us Fan Mail It’s an epidemic bigger than the pandemic we all lived through.  All around the world for generations, people are wrestling with insecurity instead of resting in Security — the type of security that only trusting God provides.  You can’t confront insecurity without vulnerability, and many see vulnerability as a weakness which makes them feel even more insecure.  This podcast is a...