Ruled by Magpies

We’ve all heard the saying “everything happens for a reason.” But what if it doesn’t? What if some things are just downright unfair, painful, and senseless? In this episode, I’m talking about why we don’t have to find meaning in every bit of suffering, and why it’s okay to sit with the mess, without trying to polish it into a life lesson. Abuse, grief, heartbreak, they don’t need to be turned into...

Eyup! Tune in for this straight-talking reflection on trusting your gut, spotting red flags, and why I no longer hand out all access passes to people wearing masks. My ovaries may be chaotic, but my instincts aren’t. Don't forget, if you're enjoying Ruled by Magpies, leave a comment, click download, and rate us 5 star! Thanks, ciai ciao!

Don't forget to leave a review, a comment and subscribe so you never miss a future download. Want to follow us on Instagram? @ruledbymagpies Creativity isn't just about having an outlet or a skill, it canbe a way of being. A way of remembering, surviving, grounding, and creating our present and future selves. This episode explores how creativity and embodiment are powerful tools for escapi...

Following last weeks episode which was a guided goal setting, we explore the concept of aligned action. If you've ever found yourself stuck in patterns of self-sabotage, avoidance, or perfectionism, this conversation is for you. We dive in to an exploration of the values and behaviours that once kept you safe, but may now be holding you back. Whether it's money habits rooted in scarcity, p...

Eyup gang. Thanks for tuning back in to another RBM instalment. This is a gorgeous gorgeous episode featuring a guided goal setting. Pluto stations retrograde on 4th May, which initiates a new cycle of introspection and transformation. Whether you feel aligned to the cyclical nature of the planets or not, this is an episode you can visit any time for some reflection on where you are vs where you w...

This one’s a deep one. A raw one. But you're used to that from me by now, surely? I'm getting properly honest about what it means, as a woman today, to even think about motherhood, especially when you’ve had to fight bloody hard for your own freedom, your future, and your fire. I’m talking about coercive control. About how abusers use pets and kids as weapons. About my own experience of ho...

Hi team, reality check in week at RBM this week. I’m talking about the sneaky little voice in our heads that tells us we can’t, shouldn’t, or aren’t good enough, and giving it the boot. Expect to hear more about the realities of running my business, from lost contracts to unexpected wins, I’m reflecting on how far I’ve come despite believing I wasn’t “cut out” for any of it. We're talking abou...

We are back with Part 2 on Adolescence, and wow, people have had thoughts. Thanks to those that have shared them with me! After so many discussions (in training sessions, online, with my sister, my brother, my best friends), a real frustration I’ve heard? That the show focused on the perpetrator and not the victim. And honestly, I get it. It makes you want to scream, “WHAT ABOUT KATIE?!” In fact,...

I’ve been holding back on talking about Adolescence, not wanting to add to the noise for noise's sake. But after watching the discourse unfold, the victim blaming, the misinformation, the lack of real action, I can’t stay silent. This episode dives deep into the normalised ways we excuse male violence while holding girls to impossible standards. From the online response to Adolescence to the e...

Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, it means choosing yourself even when it’s the hardest thing to do. In this episode, I’m talking about the courage it takes to step back from causes and commitments that once fueled passion, especially when they start to drain your spirit and hold back healing. As a victim- survivor of domestic abuse, I know how it feels to be conditioned into giving endlessly, sa...

This is not a story about love. It is a story about my valentine's day encounter with a rather bizarre flasher. In this episode, we explore the evasive and flawed reaction to this odd behaviour by the people apparently 'trained' to keep public spaces safe and harmonious. We talk about the escalation of violence where acts of voyeurism and/ or indecent exposure happen, highlighting high...

HELLO! RBM is back. I know, I know, I've been MIA for a ridiculous amount of time. But I am here now, and I am spilling the tea Over the last 23 weeks whilst I've been MIA, I've been entering and exploring a new era of healing. In this episode, we explore the process of learning to trust your gut again after abuse. From how my life was derailed 9 months ago, to taking a trip right back to the morn...

In this episode, I take you through my hilarious and disastrous disco ceiling DIY adventures. From here we talk about my mad, bonkers, hormonal brain, and I share personal stories, like the time I was compared to a distressed lion in the jungle by my GP. This episode prompts thinking in to how doctors hyperfocus on reproduction, and ignore real issues when it comes to women's health. I talk br...

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, I take listeners on an intense journey through my experience with coercive control and the traumatic impact of suicide threats used as a tool of manipulation by a domestic abuser. Learn about the eight-stage domestic homicide timeline developed by Dr. Jane Monckton Smith, focusing specifically on the final stage where threats escalate to potential suic...

It's been a shitshow of a few weeks when it comes to VAWG, and I am not in the mindset to regurgitate more of what everyone else in the field has been saying right now. So in lieu of rage filled feminist rants, here is the long awaited episode of the chaotic pigeon rescue saga. A wild rescue operation, grand plans of a pigeon palace, and a down stairs bathroom full of bird shit. I hope this ep...

In this episode of RBM, I take you on a light-hearted journey of a misplaced egg custard and a series of mishaps in trying to retrieve it! But the heart of the discussion takes a serious turn as I delve into the prevalent issue of non-fatal strangulation (NFS) in the context of violence against women and girls. We explore the distinctions between consensual and non-consensual acts, the influence o...

In last weeks episode, I implored listeners to ditch their fears of failure and try new things, but that's easier said than done right. It's a misconception that confidence is something that some of us have naturally, and some of us don't. This isn't Loreal, you're not born with it, but you are worth it! You can cultivate confidence to try new things and achieve goals beyond yo...

We've all heard people say, 'no question is a stupid question', but what if we really meant it when we said that? How differently would we all be able to show up in so many spaces for ourselves if we could let go of the fear and shame of being the least knowledgeable or experienced in the room? This episode is a short insight in to the different environments I have been in, as the &#39...

Hello and welcome for tuning back in for another RBM instalment. In this episode, I explain how trauma from domestic abuse can surprise us at any point in time- whether that's 3 weeks, 3 months, or even 3 years after leaving a perpetrator. We get talking about difficult decisions, and how choosing self-compassion in the face of our trauma responses to regain control is bad ass as fuck. I did a...

Strap in for another episode of RBM, where I bring you the tea, the truth, and as always, challenge common misconceptions and patriarchal structures head-on. I discuss how patriarchal and heteronormative attitudes often embodied by straight male partners, manifests unique challenges faced by bisexual women in a society that often misunderstands and misrepresents their experiences. Tune in for a th...

It's a dear diary, digital download of the inner workings of my brain kind of week. Tune in to find out why there's leather jackets all over my garden, and how a bombay bad boy took me on a very icky trip down memory lane. I'm interested to know - what was your first ick? You can message me on instagram @ruledbymagpies

Inspired by the first half of Dr Jessica Taylor's new memoir 'Underclass', I ruminate and reflect on my own experiences. Born and raised in an ex-mining community in the 90's, and spending my teenage years in the most deprived area in Wales, neglect, poverty and trauma have followed me in to adulthood. This podcast is a live recording of me verbally journaling my thoughts as I slow...

This week I have a proud feminist mommy moment, and reflect on how accessible and welcoming feminism really is. Come with me for a solo weekend in London, I deep dive in to my own trauma responses - being a workaholic, hyper-independent, and what it feels like to feel fleeting moments of recovery growing. It wouldn't be an RBM instalment without a few laughs, so you might wanna tune in for my...

Something has got me listening to Rage Against the Machine on repeat this week. Could it be the patriarchy Chloe? I hear you ask. Most probably, but you'll have to come and listen to find out. This episode is a quick ranty rant about the zero-sum game we play as women in the corporate jungle at work. Is there really room for all of us to be our best, and what is our best anyway?

Ok, this episode is so eclectic in themes I couldn't even title it well. If you don't like lots of swearing, you should skip! I'm recording pretty much live before posting as life has been bizzzzy! Join me for a morning brew, we talk British weather, the worst things I've put in my mouth, and the worst words that come out of our mouth (the C word)! Who is to really blame for the di...