Room For Us

Compulsory heterosexuality, who's she? On this episode, we learn about the Lesbian Google Doc: a 30-page guide called "Am I a Lesbian?". Originally posted by an anonymous Tumblr user, the doc earned a cult following for its comprehensive and relatable descriptions of compulsory heterosexuality. AKA: the societal pressure to be straight. Pers tells us about how it all applies to her jou...

Ya girls went from Fefe one week to Keke the next. On this episode, we sit down with the ultra-lovable Keauno Perez from Netflix's Twentysomethings: Austin! Moving into a house with 8 strangers for a reality TV show, Keke had to come out to not only his roommates — but the entire world. Up until that point, only a handful of people knew Keke was gay. We ask him about that process and how it fe...

It's Fefe Fckn Dobson. On this episode, we sit down with the pop punk icon herself. From her unforgettable 2003 debut to her epic Joy era in 2010, Fefe has been a generational staple in pop rock music. Along the way, her and her music have been embraced by the queer community — especially in drag. We ask her about all of it! Her experience as a Black woman in a majority white male genre, how i...

Why is it so hard for us to admit when someone just *isn't* that into us? On this ep, your girls gossip about that strange, fun, but wildly confusing time when you first start seeing someone. It can be so hard to know if someone is into you — and so EASY to make excuses for why they're being distant. We dive into all our theories for why that is. Plus, the added layers of confusion for que...

Friends, this might be our most vulnerable episode yet. We sit down with Dawna Noble, an LGTBQIA+ relationship expert and coach, to dive DEEP into dating. P talks about the patterns that keep coming up in her love life and asks Dawna how she can break them. S gets real about everything she has been learning and unlearning from past relationships. Dawna explains the differences between queer and st...

On this very special episode, we're joined by Queer Eye's Angel Flores! As a powerhouse trans woman, athlete, and activist, Angel stole the spotlight in Season 6 of everyone's favourite Netflix show. We gossip with Angel about her experience on the show, including her favourite behind-the-scenes moments with the Fab 5. We talk about the moment Angel realized she was a woman and how she...

Below Her Mouth is a controversial movie in the queer community. Some hate it, some love it, and some hate to love it. On this episode, we watch the film together LIVE and then talk about it. We dive into the INTENSE sex scenes (they don't hold *anything* back in this movie) and the chemistry between the lead actors, Erika Linder and Natalie Krill. Pers explains why she thinks the lesbian sex...

Are you the ghosted, ghoster, or a little bit of both? This episode is for you. We did a lil research to find out why ghosting hurts so god damn much. Turns out there are legitimate neurological reasons. Plus a whole bunch of reasons we just made up. Either way, ya girls explore the impact of ghosting, why people ghost in the first place, and how to deal with getting ghosted. Time to get vulnerabl...

New year, same gay sh*t. We're kicking off 2022 with a topic we've been wanting to slice into for a while now (pun intended): scissoring. For far too long, scissoring has been the punch line of a million not-funny jokes. So, is it even a thing? Do all lesbians scissor? Do lesbians *only* scissor? We break it all down, plus other gay sex myths that need to be debunked, like yesterday. Come...

Last episode of the year? Pardon me??? We cap off a whirlwind year with a little reflection + prediction, and a lot of love. Since launching the podcast this year, we've been so grateful to build a small community of pals from around the world. We talk about what this pod and that community has taught us. Plus, what we're most proud of this year both personally and professionally. Then, we...

On this ep, we hang out with Brianna Musco — indie pop artist, songwriter, and proud queer femme — to talk about making music that speaks to all the gay girl sh*t she didn't see growing up. Even better? We're also joined by the hilarious Amanda Lance, a queer content creator and all-around lesbian icon, who plays Brianna's love interest in the new video for her song "Paradise"!...

Whether you're straight, queer, or somewhere in between, you can be an ally for the queer community. How? We're breaking it all down on this episode! S talks about her role as a straight ally and what she does to try and be better every day. P explains what she, as a gay woman, thinks an ally should look like — plus, what she does to be an ally for her community. We discuss how exposure, r...

Girl crush? Bromance? What does it all mean? And why can't people who identify as the same gender just be affectionate with each other...because they want to be? On this episode, we break down the age-old adage "all girls are a little gay." We talk about the differences between how women and men show each other love, and how female relationships (friendships or romantic) are rarely tak...

The gals were in the mood for a good old fashioned heart-to-heart. On this ep, we sit down with some wine (of course) and play We're Not Really Strangers — a card game designed to skip the BS and cut right to learning who we really are. S talks about a dream she let go of. P explains how she feels different internally than how others perceive her. We both get real about our friendship and bein...

Today, we're joined by the incredibly inspiring and beautifully spoken Owen Unruh! Owen is a Two-Spirit, Nêhiyaw man who is currently recovering from a 10-year addiction. About 6 months ago, Owen started showing up as his most authentic, vulnerable self on social media. Safe to say, people took notice and his following skyrocketed. We chat with Owen about growing up as an adopted queer kid in...

Fun fact: over half of all queer people in the US identify as bisexual. So why is the B in LGBTQIA+ still such a hard thing for people to grasp — for straight and queer people? On this episode, we were inspired by an AMAZING mailbag from a bi listener in Indonesia! After years of exploring her sexuality and proudly identifying as a bisexual woman, she's now in the process of navigating her rel...

Queer mental health is something we talk about on almost every episode, but this time we're diving in deep. First, we read a mailbag from a brave listener who shares their struggle with mental health and how it directly related to their sexuality. We explore some upsetting (but important) stats about the state of mental health across the LGBTQIA+ community. Then, Pers gets real about the most...

FINALLY! The episode we've been wanting to do since day one. Today, we invite Persis' hot cousin Jacob Joseph to dive into the reality (and beauty) of being queer and Indian! Jacob tells us his entire story — from acknowledging his uniqueness as a kid to coming out as a teen. He gets candid about the disapproval of his parents, even going so far as to send him away to a religious camp that...

Ever struggled to move on from a relationship? You aren't the only one. On this episode, we talk about what it means to each of us to truly move on. We give amateur advice (and tips from the pro's) about how to keep moving on when you feel stuck on pause — from having a good cry to doing a social media detox. Then, we both get personal about our own moving on experiences, including a debat...

That's right, friends. Today is Coming Out Day AND it just so happens to be our 30th episode! Today, we're celebrating coming out and how it can mean so many different things to different people. We learn about the history of Coming Out Day and where it was first celebrated. Pers shares her coming out stories — yes, plural — and why it was so important for her to come out on the internet....

On this very special ep, we're joined by our friends at Big Queer Book Club Podcast! As the experts in all things queer lit, we thought it was only fitting to gossip with Kendra + Amanda about our favourite movie adaptations of queer books. From Disobedience to Fried Green Tomatoes, K + A give us the low-down on how the books compare to the films. Sar reveals her weird disdain for Rachel Weisz...

What's internalized homophobia and have you ever had it? Chances are, you have. On this episode, Sar & Pers discuss where internalized homophobia stems from and where it might show up in your life. P talks about her experience overcoming internalized homophobia to come out as bi, and then as gay. We explore why internalized homophobia is so prevalent in the queer community and what we can...

Are soulmates real? On this episode, Sar & Pers gossip about soul connections — what they are, how they happen, and how they're different from the traditional idea of "soulmates". We get real about the soul connections we've felt in our pasts, and how believing someone is your soulmate can actually be damaging for the relationship. P explains how queer people can fall deep into...

What is it like to be queer and religious? On this episode, we're joined by Virgin Radio host and queer icon Shannon Burns to find out! We talk to Shannon about growing up in an extremely religious community and discovering her sexuality along the way. She tells us about her decision to leave her church and the backlash she received because of it, even as she maintained her personal relationsh...

Why are long distance relationships (LDRs) so common in the queer community? And what's the secret to making them work? On this ep, we sit down with best friend and total cutie Tine Ford! As someone who identifies as open, Tine has experienced LDRs first-hand — the good, the bad, and everything in between. We ask her about the benefits and drawbacks of an LDR, plus her top advice for a healthy...