Nurtured First

Robot Unicorn

Kids EN ↓ 117 episodes

Join me, Jess VanderWier, a registered psychotherapist, mom of three, and founder of Nurtured First, along with my husband Scott, as we dive deep into the stories of our friends, favourite celebrities, and influential figures. In each episode, we skip the small talk and dive into vulnerable and honest conversations about topics like cycle breaking, trauma, race, mental health, parenting, sex, religion, postpartum, healing, and loss. We are glad you are here. PS: The name Robot Unicorn comes from our daughter. When we asked her what we should name the podcast, she confidently came up with this...

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Nurtured First

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Kids

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nurturedfirst.com

Latest episode

Jul 6, 2026

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Episodes

Friendship Struggles 27.01.2025

In this episode, Jess and Scott discuss common friendship struggles, bullying, and how to help kids solve problems in their friendships. They also discuss their own experiences with friends growing up. Listeners will get practical takeaways to help them cultivate healthy friendships with their kids.  Want more? Check out this episode on kids’ friendships.  Or, grab the Friendship Toolkit for 10% O...

How Do You Stop Yourself From Yelling At Your Kids? 20.01.2025

In this episode, Jess and Scott dive deep into the complexities of parental anger and yelling sparked by a controversial social media post . They explore cycle-breaking, emotional regulation, and practical strategies for staying calm with kids. They share their personal experiences - Scott as someone who broke generational trauma patterns and Jess as a parent working through postpartum struggles. ...

How Can I Help My Worried Child? 13.01.2025

In this episode, Jess and Scott discuss how to support anxious or worried kids. Jess, a psychotherapist, shares the "Mind Table" concept - a powerful tool for helping children manage anxiety and difficult emotions. She shares the story of her own daughter's fears and explains how visualizing different emotions as characters sitting around a table can help kids externalize and cope with their worri...

Is Screen Time Terrible? 06.01.2025

Jess and Scott break down the nuanced reality of giving your kids screen time through personal experiences and research-backed insights about gaming, social media, and device use, offering practical guidance for parents. Key takeaways include the importance of being present during screen time, understanding age-appropriate limits, and protecting children through clear boundaries rather than expect...

How To Set Realistic Parenting Goals For 2025 30.12.2024

Scott and Jess have a candid discussion about New Year's resolutions and goal-setting, particularly through the lens of parenting and personal growth. They share their plans to prioritize family dinners, create more one-on-one time with each of their three children, and discuss how to teach their kids about resilience and nuanced thinking in an increasingly polarized world. Jess opens up about her...

Grieving Over The Holidays With Libby Ward 23.12.2024

CW: Death, suicide, miscarriage Grieving over the holidays can feel all-consuming and complex. Today, Jess and Scott are joined by returning guest Libby for a raw and honest conversation about navigating grief during the holiday season. They discuss various forms of grief, from the loss of loved ones to mourning relationships with living family members who are estranged or there is a complex relat...

Are You Raising An Entitled Kid? 16.12.2024

In this episode, Scott and Jess discuss raising resilient children who are not entitled, a common concern they hear from people who are skeptical about the style of parenting Jess teaches. They explore how allowing children to experience natural disappointments and frustrations - while providing emotional support - actually helps develop crucial coping skills. Through practical examples like sayin...

Should We Tell Kids Santa Is Real? 09.12.2024

In this episode, Jess and Scott tackle the polarizing topic of Santa Claus and holiday traditions as they answer the question: "Should we tell kids Santa is real?” They explore different approaches to discussing Santa with children - from treating him as a real person to presenting him as an imaginative character - all while emphasizing the importance of maintaining trust and connection with our k...

The Hidden Cost Of Keeping Kids Busy 02.12.2024

In this episode, Scott and Jess explore the importance of creativity and play - both for children and adults. From strategies for protecting children’s creative spirits to understanding how play helps kids process their experiences to how they are beginning to rekindle their own sense of playfulness as busy parents, this episode is full of practical strategies and insights into the importance of p...

How To Talk To Kids About Food And Body Image 25.11.2024

In this heartfelt and thought-provoking episode, hosts Scott and Jess explore the complex relationship between food, parenting, and childhood development. Inspired by a viral social media post about body image and food messaging, they explore how parents can foster healthy relationships with food by focusing on family rituals, mindful eating, and meaningful connection rather than restriction. Jess...

Is Teaching Your Partner About Parenting Exhausting You? 18.11.2024

In this episode, Jess and Scott answer a listener's question about sharing the mental load of parenting. Jess talks about times when she felt like she carried most of the mental load and how Scott and her now split the work of parenting. They discuss the challenges of balancing roles, especially when one parent feels like the default decision-maker, educator, and emotional support. Key takeaways f...

Is It Ok To Tease Your Kids? 11.11.2024

In this laughter-filled episode, Scott and Jess dive into the delicate balance of teasing and playfulness with kids. They discuss how to be playful without going too far, share hilarious stories about their family's creative characters like "Sean" the hand puppet, and provide practical tips for connecting with children through humour. Some important topics discussed in the episode include: Recogni...

Do Parents Really Love All Their Kids The Same? 04.11.2024

In this episode, Jess and Scott dive into the challenges of parenting multiple children and giving each child the love and attention they need. Inspired by a viral social media post, they explore topics like balancing attention between babies and older kids, feelings of guilt and defensiveness as parents, and how children crave connection at all ages. They provide helpful tips for recognizing chil...

How Can I Protect My Kids From Sexual Abuse? 28.10.2024

CW: Sexual abuse, grooming, sex-related topics After hearing news about a case of sexual abuse in their community, Jess and Scott are sitting down and answering listener questions about how to talk to kids about body safety and consent in a way that won’t scare kids and will protect them. They provide practical advice for parents on how to have age-appropriate conversations about consent, private...

The #1 Reason Men Are Silently Struggling With Mental Health with Samir Mourani 21.10.2024

In this powerful episode, Scott and Jess are joined by Samir Mourani to have an open and vulnerable conversation about men's mental health. They discuss their personal experiences with anxiety, depression, and emotional breakdowns, sharing how they've worked to overcome societal pressures that discourage men from expressing emotions. A few important topics covered in the episode include: The impor...

Q&A: Jess And Scott Get Real About Anxiety, Disagreements, And Personal Struggles 14.10.2024

In this fun and casual Q&A episode, Jess and Scott answer listener questions and give you a peek behind the curtain of their lives and relationship. Discover Scott's favourite quality about Jess, hear about their most rewarding parenting moments and learn how they handle disagreements. They share vulnerable insights about managing social anxiety as public figures and discuss mindset shifts tha...

How Much Do Friendships Matter For Our Kids? 07.10.2024

Jess and Scott discuss the delicate balance between nurturing children's friendships and maintaining strong parent-child bonds. They discuss the concept of peer orientation, share personal experiences, and offer practical advice for parents navigating their children's social worlds. Key insights include: 1. The importance of modelling healthy relationships at home 2. How to recognize signs of unhe...

Is It Ok To Say 'No' To Your Kids? 30.09.2024

In this solo episode, Jess shares her reflections on a recent conversation she had. The conversation was about whether or not children should hear the word “no” and how parents who follow “this new wave of gentle parenting” are no longer the leaders in their homes. In the episode, Jess shares her thoughts on this view and tackles a common misconception about gentle parenting - that it's too permis...

What Do I Do When My Child Hits? 23.09.2024

In this solo episode, Jess answers a listener's question. She explores how to become curious about and respond to children’s challenging behaviours like hitting. She breaks down four key reasons why children may hit and provides practical strategies for addressing each root cause. In the episode, Jess covers: How to get curious about why your child is hitting (or engaging in other challenging beha...

"As A Skeptic Husband, I Couldn't See The Value In Gentle Parenting." A Conversation With Our Friend 16.09.2024

In this episode, Jess and Scott sit down with their good friend Josh to discuss the changes he’s made in his parenting style over the last six years. Josh candidly shares his experience raising his highly sensitive son. He talks about how a more traditional approach to discipline wasn’t working and his original skepticism around gentle parenting. This episode is packed with insights for fathers (a...

The #1 Reason Kids (And Adults) Cling, Whine and Act Out 09.09.2024

In this important episode, Jess and Scott dive deep into the root cause of challenging behaviours in both children and adults: separation. Jess explains how our core need for closeness drives many of our reactions, from clingy children to angry adults. Jess shares some eye-opening insights on: Why behaviours like clinging, whining, and crying happen Why kids are so angry all the time Why common pa...

Why Does Childhood Trauma Impact Your Parenting? With Dr. Cotler 02.09.2024

In this insightful episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Tanya Cotler joins Jess and Scott to explore the complexities of intergenerational trauma and cycle-breaking in parenting. Dr. Cotler shares her expertise on how childhood experiences shape our parenting, the importance of curiosity and compassion in understanding our triggers, and practical ways to build self-awareness and cope with parenting...

"Why Does Mess Trigger Me So Much!?" 26.08.2024

In this revealing episode, Jess and Scott dive deep into why a messy house is a major trigger for Jess. They explore how their different upbringings shaped their attitudes towards cleanliness, with Jess craving order while Scott is more relaxed about clutter. Jess opens up about feeling overwhelmed by visual chaos and struggling to be present with her kids when the house is messy. They share pract...

The Daycare Debate: Does Sending A Child to Daycare Ruin Attachment? 19.08.2024

In this controversial episode, Jess and Scott dive into the heated debate around sending kids to daycare. They explore the "mommy wars" between stay-at-home and working parents - unpacking the guilt, judgement, and insecurities on both sides. Jess offers a nuanced perspective, explaining how quality childcare providers can be an important part of a family’s "village” and how a strong parent-child...

Why Are Some Kids So Strong-Willed And Stubborn!? 12.08.2024

Listen to our most recent version of this episode with new commentary and discussions here: Apple Podcasts Spotify In this eye-opening episode, Jess delves deep into the concept of "strong-willed children" and challenges common assumptions about defiant behaviour. Listeners will gain fresh insights on: Why the "strong-willed" label can be problematic and miss underlying needs. How sensitivity, pow...

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