Rethinking Manhood

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) What happens when a 45-year-old man experiences catcalling for the first time? For Dr. Jason Larocque, that uncomfortable moment on St. Patrick's Day provided a striking glimpse into what many women experience routinely – feeling unsafe, self-conscious, and vulnerable in public spaces. This revelation is just one of t...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode of Rethinking Manhood , I get to sit down with Ashley Paul ( @driedinkpen ), a brilliant content contributor with @FeministBookClub . About Ashley:   Ashley Paul is a traveler, runner, and baker. She is an Everlasting Bookworm and Culture Maven. She is passionate about supporting high school juniors and sen...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) It’s 4 a.m. I’m pacing around the house with my newborn daughter in my arms, AirPods in, and just reflecting—on fatherhood, partnership, and the quiet ways patriarchy shows up in our lives. In this intimate, unfiltered episode, I open up about becoming a dad, what labor and delivery taught me about gender roles, and why I’...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) About the Episode: Anger is often seen as a negative emotion, but what if it’s not? In this episode, Destyn sits down with therapist and author Lambers Fisher, LMFT, M.Div to unpack the complexities of anger—what it really is, how it’s tied to masculinity, and why it doesn’t have to be destructive. Together, they explore h...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode, I connect with Markus Flynn , Executive Director of Black Men Teach , a nonprofit dedicated to increasing Black male representation in Minnesota classrooms. Their mission is to recruit, prepare, place, and retain Black male elementary school teachers—shaping the next generation of educators and improving o...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) Welcome to #TheWarmUp! The Warm Up is unfiltered and uncut—not because it’s provocative or explicit, but because it’s real. It’s unedited, largely unplanned, and deeply vulnerable. A space to sit with authentic thoughts and process in real time. In this episode, Destyn talks about the challenge of sitting with our emotions...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode of Rethinking Manhood, I catch up with my great friend, Seth McManus (@prayingmcmantis). He opens up the episode describing himself as "a recovering White savior."  This leads us to a pathway of exploring how unlearning patriarchal masculinity, racism, and anything else, is indeed a life long jour...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) Welcome to #TheWarmUp, a solo episode of Rethinking Manhood with your host, Destyn Land. In this session, Destyn sips his coffee and unpacks the role of shame in different seasons of his life—how it’s surfaced, how he’s navigated it, and the lessons he’s learned along the way. Credits: 🎵 Music:     •    Intro: Who I Am, S...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) About this Episode: After a 2 week break, we're back again! This episode I am joined with one of my soul friends ( Johnny Cole ). Every conversation I've had with Johnny always hits beyond the surface, and feels filling and life-giving. In this episode I have the opportunity to interview Johnny and talk about how...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode I discuss The Construction of Black Masculinity and reflect on how my interest in exploring Black Masculinity led to the creation of this podcast, and the content that's created on Rethinking Manhood . Here are some of the sources that have helped shape this conversation! (And some additional articles...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode I have the opportunity to sit down with my great friends and fraternity brothers Josh ( @CobbUnplugged ) and Billy ( @Yozefu_Umubaji ) .  Friendships are already hard; but even harder when you mix it with patriarchal masculinity. Billy, Josh, and myself discuss the way in which patriarchal masculinity influ...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) "We are not resting to recharge so we can do more. We are simply resting because it is our  divine and human right." - Tricia Hersey ( @TheNapMinistry)   As some of you may have noticed there was no episode last week! I would love to be able to say that this was part of the plan and that this was intentional to m...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode I'm joined with Chris Joseph , a creative and community builder to discuss Gentleness and Black Masculinity . Often our society pushes boys, men, and masculine folks to reject any and everything associated with gentleness or softness; leaving many folks with having to mask themselves, or put themselves...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) *Content Warning: This episode is about men and masculine folks who are survivors of sexual assault. Please take care of yourself if you choose to listen to this episode. If you are personally impacted by sexual assault and need someone to talk to, please know that you can call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode,  I have the privilege of chatting with Selina ( @sexwith_sel ), a Queer relationship counselor, and sexologist based in Sydney, Australia. We spend some time talking about where people's beliefs about sex come from, the porn industry and it's impact on the sexual experiences of men and masculine...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) “When men embrace feminist thinking and practice, which emphasizes the value of mutual growth and self-actualization in all relationships, their emotional well-being will be enhanced. A genuine feminist politics always brings us from bondage to freedom, from lovelessness to loving.” -bell hooks This episode named after &qu...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode I step back from asking the questions, and allow a trusted friend to ask me questions for once. Join me and my guest host Kyle Thompson, LSW for a transparent and authentic episode about masculinity and manhood. Kyle and I worked at a local ice cream shop 10 years ago, and have still been able to stay conne...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode Samu (a great friend of Rethinking Manhood!) and I have a conversation about feminism, Masculinity in Europe,  gender, and sexuality.  The season finale of Rethinking Manhood premiers next Tuesday, May 10th! While I'm so sad that this season is coming to an end, I have so much gratitude for everyone wh...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) Content Warning : This episode will include topics that are sensitive, and triggering such as Sexual Assault, Domestic Violence, Power & Control, and other forms of Abuse and Violence. Please prioritize your well-being as you listen to this episode. In this reflection I take you all on a journey of what went through my...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode Johnny and I have a discussion around "Machismo" and the experiences within our personal lives that have shaped the way we live our lives/and see ourselves as men today. To stay updated on all things related to Rethinking Manhood follow our Instagram account (@RethinkingManhood). Join the conversa...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode Bobby Yang and I explore the relationship between our bodies and how much (or how less) of a man they make us, our society and cultures obsession with penis sizes, and Asian-American Masculinity and the way the media depicts it. To stay updated on all things related to Rethinking Manhood follow our Instagra...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode we explore the epidemic of silence. Many men (due to patriarchal masculinity) are suffering or struggling in silence. Many studies show that many men are experiencing depression and anxiety, but not seeking any support. Destyn shares his personal experiences with silence, bullying, and the overall impact th...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode I host a Zoom session with 6 important Black men in my life. This conversation features a licensed and ordained pastor in the Church of God in Christ, an educator, a seminary student, a Higher Education professional, graduate student, and a professional musician. I hope you enjoy this episode! Part 2 of the...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) In this episode I host a Zoom session with 6 important Black men in my life. This conversation features a licensed and ordained pastor in the Church of God in Christ, an educator, a seminary student, a Higher Education professional, graduate student, and a professional musician. I hope you enjoy this episode! Part one of t...

We want to hear from you! Send us a text with your thoughts or feedback! :) We often hear people talk about toxic-masculinity, or the "manbox." But what's patriarchal masculinity, and why should we care? This episode dives into the impact that patriarchy has on everyone, and how patriarchal masculinity is harmful (even to the men that it benefits). Join the conversation by following...