Results & Relationships

VR – Virtual Reality means business of Generosity, might even help move away from Self-centredness I believe the most common way to major success is helping others. Letting go of that self-centredness that envelop us all when we are in deep stress for example. And I'm sure you feel that it's not distributed equally around … Continue reading Virtual Reality means business of Generosity, might even...

Virtual Reality effects on Business and relationship building Corporations invests enormous amounts of "could have been results" into meetings, and most of those are over the phone, web conferences and other semi-virtual ways to connect. Globalisations have increased this way of working even more. At the same time, most of us are aware of the … Continue reading Virtual Reality effects on Business...

Help-Others and Self-Help I often think about how come the amount of teachings around "Helping Others" is not anything near the amount of exposure of people, method and processes to "Self-Help". When I looked at Categories in two different Quote-Sites I found 300 "Helping Others" Quotes and 4000 for "Self-Help". Likewise when I shopped digital … Continue reading Help-Others and Self-Help →

Your way is understandable   Sometimes it feels hard to accept the method of path taken by someone else. Accept their way, their reasoning. Doesn't mean you have to accept the results OR hurts or thinks you see in your perspective along their way, along their path, along your projection of their path. That's the … Continue reading Your way is understandable →

Attention Waste – Is Your Time Investments and efforts making a difference for the better? The most brilliant minds of our era invests their time and attention in creating better and better clickbait to get everyone else to invest time and attention "ON" their clickbait and the tracking trail it generates in pursue of revenue. … Continue reading Attention Waste – Is Your Time Investments and effor...

Information wants to be free That is one of the "Alternatives" to the info, status or just Social talk you are having right now.   Another way of seeing it is, consider this the "alternative cost" in what you COULD have compared to what you might be getting right now.   Notice the difference when … Continue reading Information wants to be free →

Relationship Power and other Powers Relationship Power. Role Power. Authority Power. Situational powers. Accidental powers. Temporary powers. Don't let unawareness put other in powerful situations for you. Don't forget that there is most often a COST for you when using a power. For example if you forget that it's your responsibility to ensure you have … Continue reading Relationship Power and othe...

Speed determines the value of almost EVERYTHING value, and every connection Everything has a game window, everyone you talk or don't talk to. Everything you do or don't do. Time to Market. Start backwards from when its needed, not from when its "possible" to start. Learning to speak before or after a visiting a country … Continue reading Speed determines the value of almost EVERYTHING value, and e...

Turning Visible – creating trust A small talk on how sometimes trying to hide something makes a crater for all to see, making it harder to see who we really are beyond it. sometimes helping too much or too little makes us less visible, Making it harder to connect to the work that matters. Making … Continue reading Turning Visible – creating trust →

Seek to invest most of your time with Grateful Action takers   You're really the average of the five people you spend the most time. Who you spend your time with is one of the most important decisions to keep up with in your life. Your time is the only resouce you cant get more … Continue reading Seek to invest most of your time with Grateful Action takers →

Embraceing your Potential consists of a lot of things, below is just a few of them. I personally dont think it matters where you start though, as long as you start thinking about it, start acting to become it. This cast is dedicated to exploring your potential from these angles.   Imagination is often the … Continue reading Embraceing your Potential →

Own your results – own your communication Manager-tools.com often talk about "communication is what the listener does". So what does this mean for you? For me it means that if I dont get the behaviour or effect I want there is NO point in ever saying "I've told you before". If I'm not getting what … Continue reading Own your results – own your communication →

Refueling others Where does your fuel and generator of energy align with those around you? What does those around you get fuel from and how can you help them get more of it without it costing others? is that energy constantly renewing or does it drain out for you or those around you?

What fuels you? What fuels those around you? Most often we do things, without really thinking, about what gives us fuel. Where in this activity does my energy really come from? If it comes at all? It's easy to think we get energy from an activity when we're really just appreciating the feeling after compliments, … Continue reading What fuels you? What fuels those around you? →

Delayed Reward, Alternative Costs – Build your relationships for the long run if you seek to maximize what you get out of someone thats rarely relationship-building. thats transactions and might work in the short run but rarely in the long run. (this isnt in the cast but when I'm writing this I'm thinking of "why … Continue reading Delayed Reward, Alternative Costs – Build your relationships for t...

Listen to people but trust the numbers – Ensure you measure the right thing for others, not just whats easy to measure or makes you look good. Continous measurement makes you look trustworthy. Its easier to trust a currently bad number when you know you can trust the good ones too. Than seeing a good … Continue reading Listen to people but trust the numbers →

Recruiting – when to say no, NO and when to say yes.   A quick cast about three thoughts on recruiting. I personally find this worth thinking about for recruiters AND anyone that wants more out of work. And I'm not talking just about more results out of work. Just my ideas – the important … Continue reading Recruiting – when to say no, NO and when to say yes →

it's not about you Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that everything isn't about me. Sometimes people around you behave in ways that makes things difficult for you. Making it hard for you to "imagine positive intent" when you see the effect if has on your results. People didn't start their activity aiming to ruin … Continue reading it's not about you – focus on the behaviour you can change not...

Credentials Decay, Results last longer. Change is the only constant In todays modern world credentials isn't what it used to be so its more important than ever to show your results. To quickly help others see what results you can help them archive by listing your accomplishments AND your ability to listen hard and change … Continue reading Credentials Decay, Results last longer. Change is the only...

Give first individually, Listen first  – Relationship power comes later Schedule five minutes every day to just get to know the people around you. Listen hard to what they value and make a note of sharing anything you think might help them, might help them archive their dreams, their family.  Small or big.

Listening beyond what isn't being said The most important thing in communication is listening for what isn't being said according to Peter Drucker. Listen for the silence We all carry invisible baggage into our meetings. Those can both make it harder and easier to connect to someone. Words in the present conversations can take a … Continue reading Listening beyond what isn't being said →

Commitment , Control &  Contribution and the speed of Trust Most of us was trained in compliance as a kid for countless of hours. Hours that could have been invested into training us to instead in seeking ways to contribute in our own unique way to help others and ourselves. Many of us has also … Continue reading Commitment , Control & Contribution and the speed of Trust →

Envy and gratitude Envy is a human emotion that is easy to fall prey to. It can be harnessed to make you do  more, make you archive move but my experience it's one of the more common paths to the dark side (sounds like I'm quoting Start Wars doesnt it?) Envy can easily cause splinters … Continue reading Envy and gratitude →

What work really matters when you strip everything else away? What will live beyond you? This cast is about your inner question of what what is important to you beyond all that urgency, all that noise? its a powerful question and only you hold the answer

Grit and Generosity I really believe Generosity is a great compass towards your success. Ask yourself where in your life, where you invest hard work in creating things, You still don't you mind others carbon copy your work and using it to help other people. Of course we have to set boundaries to our time … Continue reading Grit and Generosity →