Results & Relationships

Take your positions – Who do you want to help and why? There is a reason why the instructions tell you to put on the air mask on yourself FIRST: Before helping your kid, friend or co-worker. Without Air, you will quickly forget the long-term priorities, and you can make things worse while you're unable … Continue reading Take your positions – Who do you want to help and why? →

Tension, Empathy & Sympathy – Responsibility from different perspectives Empathy. Seeing the perspective of others. Walking in someone else's shoes. Dare to face the unknown of the minds of those around you. Dare to embrace that they might think you're wrong. They might be right, and you're not. Embracing that you're having an impact on … Continue reading Tension, Empathy & Sympathy – Responsibili...

Exciting times – What's exciting for you might not be exciting for someone else We're living in exciting times. I'm sure every generation before me has said the same words, felt the same.  What I'm thinking on right now specifically is the instant auto feedback we've got available for becoming better. Live feedback in our … Continue reading Exciting times – What's exciting for you might not be exc...

Why are you doing this? Why High Standards help you – Why Commitment increase attention   Quite often I get the question "why do you do this?" Some talk about "why the commitment on consistency" others "why for free when you have people who are thankful for the opportunity to  pay you for your knowledge … Continue reading Why are you doing this? Why High Standards help you – Why Commitment increas...

Throughput thoughts Some thoughts on intention and results, and the passage required to archive it. This is high and low, tech and people. I guess some people would call it random ramblings. Some thoughts on email/phone/video/actual meeting Phone thumbs throughput and making replies easy and effective. Delegation, effect and not being superman. Or that if … Continue reading Throughput thoughts →

Full Contact play with your Anti-thesis Get the habit of embracing an anti-thesis to your belief every now and then to deepen your learning on your topic, or that it's time to leave while "on top" Perhaps get together over dinner with some mastermind friends on a yearly basis and ask everyone to bring a … Continue reading Full Contact play with your Anti-thesis →

Right now forces are gathering to make you a commodity. It already happened all around you. Uber, Spotify, Travel-agents etc. The middleman is cut out and a proxy service is censoring out everything that doesn't adapt. In the consultant nice, we have consultant brokers, offshore resources and a lot of things helping clients get their … Continue reading thoughts on becomming a commodity and choosin...

When presenting a week back I got the question by a person in the audience on any advice in becoming awarded by eWork just like I did. (ework awarded me Consultant of year 2013) My reply was a recommendation to not chase awards. Instead focus on working towards excellence at your chosen trade. Focus on … Continue reading Race don't chase – some thoughts on awards →

Mind your attitude – let go of labels I believe you, me and most of us need to constantly remind yourself before the mindset becomes the new normal for us, the new natural. When you start to take action your mind will resist, will encourage you in all sorts of ways to step aside, to … Continue reading Mind your attitude – let go of labels →

The Power of a Delta.txt file of how things should and could be When you're starting new, for example at a new site, new employer or anything you're in a golden situation to see the patterns in the workplace with a fresh eye. Perhaps you're noting that everyone is walking across the river to collect … Continue reading The Power of a Delta.txt file of how things should and could be →

Simple – not easy   Simple and Easy is not the same ting yet I find that over the years most people confuse the too, sometimes myself included. We want easy yet we already know the recipe for what we want is simple. Rarely is it as easy as an instant success because if that … Continue reading Simple – not easy →

Gratefulness & Respect – your choice of words matter Gratefulness serves you in so many ways beyond here and now. Let is invigor you with energy and joy that benefits others too. Let it give you a forward motion for what you have not yet accomplished but will be done with before today is done. … Continue reading Gratefulness & Respect – your choice of words matter →

You don't need a big chunk of time to start. Are you sure you're not waiting and wasting valuable time investments. In essence, are you stuck in the prelude to your own life? Its easy that Works becomes the main chapters in our book, when in reality you CAN build something small steps by … Continue reading Your Life is not a prologue, don't wait, the time is now →

Digital Connections, and the power of the system and our emotions of feeling connected. Right now we're attention flooded. Many use systems to keep up with friends. We no longer use DIRECT-CONNECTION to most things we depend on today. Despite we know that face-to-face meeting delivers the most metadata in our discussion, with a loss … Continue reading Digital Connections, and the power of the syst...

There is a message for you everywhere. If you're looking for it you'll always find a lesson, anywhere, at all times, from everyone   If you're actively looking for it, I also believe people around you will bloom in areas unexpected. Helping both you and them connect better AND get more done. Are you listening?

You become the company you keep Another way of saying it is "you are the average of the X people you spend the most time with." I believe WHO you invest the most of your time with is the most important decision of your life. In the right company most things seem easy. Often you … Continue reading You become the company you keep →

Time is your most precious investment – become aware   Where you invest your time, and furthermore WHO you invest your time with is the most important decision in your life. It affects everything. The impact you will have on this world, your health and achievements just to name a few. Life if full of … Continue reading time is your most precious investment – become aware →

Listen for what is not said + John Lee Dumas Entrepreneurs on Fire second Kickstarter How often do you actively listen for what is NOT being said? Focus on what the data is saying, not the highest talker Focus on what the body is doing, instead of the head is saying Focus on your intended … Continue reading Listen for what is not said + John Lee Dumas Entrepreneurs on Fire second Kickstarter →

We're in an Age of Instant Access and Connection Analytics – food for thoughts Instant Access to so many things today, and yet more is coming every day. How does that affect relationship building and the power to help more people get what they want? Today most of us live in a connection economics economy. … Continue reading Age of Instant Access and Connection Analytics →

Meta-Memory, Meta-Me – Self-confusion and Clarity,  Psychosynthesis & Imagery Exercises   Some say our Memory is "us", that we are the core of what we remember. Your achievements, friends who has always been there for you and the people, activities and things you love. Study after study prove we can't trust our memory. Yet most … Continue reading Meta-Memory, Meta-Me – Self-confusion and Clarity,...

It's wonderful living in the world of Instant Access like we're doing right now. And Virtual Reality can really help build a connection to the individuals around us , but we also have to remember to build live connections around us. If we don't really "need" anyone since we get everything delivered tailored to us … Continue reading Age of Access, Virtual Reality and Digital_Twins →

Nobody owes you is a mindset that often helps us build better relationships. Owning how we respond and act to feelings that emerge within us will change your life trajectory more than anything. Complaining about someone else getting a promotion that you long for won't make your own results any better. Ask yourself instead if … Continue reading Nobody owes you is a mindset that often helps us build...

Connection is a feeling – Christmas and other Rare activities   Most often its thru feeling we connect to people. And what we connect to in a story is most often individually. I've had people come up to me after a talk saying they appreciated my show of vulnerability, others from the exact same words … Continue reading Connection is a feeling – Christmas and other Rare activities →

Talking about performance to make behaviours more effective with authenticity and without acting   Performance, when we're taking on an act we are really distancing ourselves from people. It's the total opposite from connecting with people. Yet, during the 20+ years I've attended leadership classes there's always some that wants the quick-check list as if … Continue reading Talking about performan...

Gratitude for others no? Benefits of making it easy for others to say no. Embracing reality for a new, more effective way   I deeply believe in focusing on the one thing until success (quote from my friend John Lee Dumas) and I've had multiple casts about the power of saying no. Say no, guarding … Continue reading Gratitude for others no? Benefits of making it easy for others to say no. →