ResponseABLE Parenting

In this episode I share more about that really frustrating cycle of trying something to break a negative cycle, it not going well, and then how we can often compare our journey to others - which creates more shame, self judgement, and tends to further solidify the negative pattern we're trying to get rid of in the first place.  But don't worry, I don't leave you in that :) I also share how to chan...

In this episode I share a negative parenting pattern I discovered about myself while going through Fast Way To Regulate. As I was tracking my triggers and getting clear about why things were upsetting me the way they were I realized this one pattern was happening all the time and I hadn't even noticed it.  This is the power of this challenge. It takes the hard parts that are hiding in the shadows,...

In this episode I tackle 3 sneaky reasons why it might be hard for you to hold a boundary. On top of that, I share a boundary protocol routine. In this protocol I share how to set a value based boundary system, engage your children in the process, and have a clear protocol for when the boundary is crossed.  Don't forget to join the Fast Way To Regulate challenge with the dozens of other amazing pa...

This podcast has been a wonderful journey and I am just beyond touched that you've been with me through 100 freaking episodes!!! In this celebration episode I share things I've learned, how my parenting has shifted, the fundamentals I teach and practice and so much more.  Thank you again for being here for 100 episodes! It truly means the world to me! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAS...

There is SO much talk about what constitutes a punishment or a consequence - what works, when do boundaries come into play etc. I share a real time story of what we did, how I distinguish punishments from consequences and more! I hope this is a helpful episode! There were so many interruptions from dogs barking to visitors, deliveries and more. My hope is that the message is clear and helpful!! GE...

I saw a dad at the baseball field tell their child to stop crying because they were overreacting that their push pop had fallen on the floor. It hit me like a gut punch. And that moment got me thinking hard about "over reacting." Was that little boy over reacting? I can't wait to hear what you think about this discussion! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will unc...

Oh I am so excited to share this with you! SHIFT HAPPENS was a little baby of mine for a minute. I listen to so much personal growth content and I'm constantly writing down short bits of it that inspire me and shift my perspective. In SHIFT HAPPENS I took what I heard and put it through the lens of parenting. This is one of those episodes. Enjoy!! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WA...

This episode I share a new strategy I've been using when the boys are stuck in fight mode. The past week our kids have been extra super spicy and with the extra spice, my go-to strategies just weren't cutting it. I share what I did instead and how that shifted everything for both kids!! JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their interna...

I don't know about you, but Mother's Day can feel like a bust. I don't know if I've truly ever had a Mother's Day that WOWed me. *Sorry Charlie* But honestly, I've also never spoken up about what my expectations are and what specific needs I want met. In this episode I share my hot take on revamping Mother's Day for next year! FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior...

I'm not sure why it took me so long to think of parenting like this 😂but when I was in my workout class today it struck me. We have such a positive association with the pain and growth of a workout, but we have such a negative association with the pain and growth in parenting. Why? Well a huge part of that is the neural programming around each area. And I talk all about that in this week's episod...

In this episode I share the $h!t storm that was my spring break. Not to excuse the behavior that resulted, but to share that you are absolutely not alone in the challenge that comes with parenting a strong-willed ADHD child.  Today we talk about guilt and how guilt can keep us stuck in a never ending loop of self deprecation, loathing, disappointment, and reactivity. AND how we can move away from...

In this episode I specifically address the challenges that PLAY can bring to parents of strong-willed kids (SWK) or our neurodivergent kids. I share the differences I experience with my children and a "hack" that is allowing me to dial in and be more strategic with my ADHD / strong-willed kid. This has been helping us so much and I really hope you use it too! Don't forget to grab my PLAY WEBINAR (...

Unconsciously we are setting ourselves up for failure over and over again with our kids. We head into each and every interaction with stored emotions in our bodies telling us whether or not we should be guarded or open.  In this episode I share the foundational step to shift this pattern in our bodies. How you can instantly increase your tolerance level and support yourself to a better outcome.  A...

In this episode I address whether or not I believe empathy is a sign of weakness. Or "weak parenting."  Elon Musk has been in the news saying "the fundamental weakness of western civilization is Empathy." However I think it's one of the biggest strengths for humanity. When we can SEE each other, when we can seek to understand each other we are in fact stronger. Both personally and as a nation.  I...

In this episode I share the 5 reasons I see that gentle parenting isn't working for you. These are what I'm seeing across comments, questions I get asked weekly, my client's perspectives and community members.  And I want to acknowledge that it's hard to transition from one parenting style to another. Especially one that forces us to look at our own stuff vs. focus on our children's behavior.  I h...

This episode is a wonderful conversation discussing how we as parents can shift our focus, our reactivity and the lens in which we view our children with brain-based differences. You get to hear from expert Eileen Devine on how she approaches parenting frustrating behaviors from a skill deficiency lens vs an intentional defiant lens. I hope you enjoy this conversation and feel hopeful in how we ca...

This episode answers a question I got over on Instagram. If you don't follow me there please connect at @ ResponseABLEparenting  This parent was really struggling with their toddler falling on the ground and using their weight against them in the middle of a tantrum. We've all been there, when we say no to something and our toddler all the sudden goes completely dead weight and falls to the ground...

In this episode I share the 3D's to ensure your best possible outcome for your child to listen to you! Listening (or lack there of) can be one of the most triggering scenarios for us as parents. This episode will help you see the big picture and give you some tools to help develop the skill of listening. Also don't miss out on my FREE Webinar where I teach you how to use PLAY to solve recurring ba...

This is a very special episode! I am taking part in the Podcasthon Non-Profit Initiative where over 1500 podcasters are bringing awareness to a charity and organization that means something to them.  I am honoring the Madd Ox Foundation. It's a foundation to bring awareness to stillbirths as well as provide resources to families (especially mothers) who have recently experienced a stillbirth.  htt...

Ever been there when things are going pretty smoothly and then one thing derails you and all the sudden you find yourself reacting as if all hell broke loose? Do you beat yourself up over your reaction? Spend the rest of the day ruminating on how you failed and why you can't seem to just stay calm?  I've been there. I really have. So so many times. In this episode I share some tools to really supp...

It's easy to think that everyone else has it figured out as a parent. That you are the only one failing and have totally messed up your kid. That every time you yell or threaten you have to go back to the drawing board and start completely over.  In this episode I share a rough moment with my son. I share how I fell back into old patterns and how I totally forgot to use every skill at my fingertip...

In this week's episode I share a subtle thing I've noticed across all the parents I work with. A little hiccup that keeps us stuck, that keeps us in a frustrated power loop and draws us back into conflict with our kids.  It's this longing and almost expectation that our kids are going to validate our hard work as parents. We've done so much work, we're putting in a tremendous amount of effort and...

I get a lot of haters in my comments. And while that comes with the territory and seems to be the cultural norm these days, I have to believe we can speak to each other differently. And while I'm not a saint, and clap back at times, I do try to practice what I preach. And that is to get curious as to why the person is saying what they're saying. You'll see me write "I'm curious…" to start many of...

First off, shout out to you mama for tackling cycle breaking and doing the work. This is NOT easy stuff and I am here to cheer you on.  I think it's very easy to point the finger to our parents (especially our moms) and say "because of the way she modeled things I am 'x'" or "the way she did this messed me up." YES all of that is your experience and 100% valid. I am not taking that away from you....

You are right to notice that there are a million scary things flying at you at all times right now. And you are right to want to fix these immediately in order to not feel so uncomfortable and in order to keep you and your family safe.  But we cannot be effective if we are reacting every minute to fear.  In this episode I share how we can create a safe place internally so we can be effective exter...