Release Control

After a breakup, your mind won’t stop asking the same questions:  Does your ex come back? Do they miss you? Do they ever think about you the way you think about them? In this episode, we get real about what actually goes on after a relationship ends. I break down the emotions, the silence, and the truth behind whether your ex is coming back—or if you’re holding onto something that’s already gone....

Why did they leave? What did I do wrong? Was it fixable… or was it always going to end? In this raw and vulnerable episode, I dive into the  questions that haunt you after a breakup —the ones you replay late at night when everything feels too quiet. This isn’t surface-level advice… this is the real internal dialogue people don’t talk about. I break down the most common  post-breakup questions  we...

After 24 years in the Army, I’m standing at the edge of a life I’ve known for more than half of my existence… and walking into the unknown. In this episode, I open up about  retiring from the Army , the emotions that come with leaving a brotherhood, and what it feels like to pack up my life and head  back to Texas  to start over. But the truth is, the uniform isn’t the only thing I’m letting go of...

Struggling in love? Wondering if your relationship is healthy, or how to move on after a painful breakup? In this episode, I answer the five most asked questions about relationships, dating, and love: How to know if your relationship is truly healthy How to recover and move on after a breakup Red flags you’re ignoring because you hope it will work out Balancing your identity while being in a relat...

In today’s episode of Release Control , we delve into a topic that few people want to admit: many dating experiences today are not driven by love , but rather by a desire to fill a void. After a breakup or heartbreak, it’s natural to seek something new to escape loneliness, boredom, or rejection. However, when we date solely to avoid pain rather than healing from it, we find happiness, not emptine...

In Episode 33 of  The Release Control Podcast , we’re diving into one of the most frustrating parts of modern dating— ghosting . If you’ve ever been left on read, suddenly ignored, or had someone disappear without a word, this episode is for you. We break down exactly  what ghosting is, why it happens, and how to deal with it  emotionally and mentally. From dating apps to emotionally unavailable p...

In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers on one of the most misunderstood dynamics out there — the real emotional, societal, and psychological differences between men and women. We're not just skimming the surface; we're diving deep into  how we're conditioned from childhood  to handle (or avoid) emotions, why that plays a major role in communication breakdowns later in life, and what it rea...

In this powerful episode, we explore how making yourself a priority is the first step toward personal growth and self-love. Discover the importance of self-care, setting healthy boundaries, and how prioritizing yourself leads to a more fulfilling life. Learn actionable strategies to practice self-love, boost your self-esteem, and achieve a healthy work-life balance. By putting yourself first, you’...

Dating with purpose isn’t about rushing into a relationship—it’s about clarity, alignment, and making sure you and your partner want the same things. In this episode, we dive into what it really means to date with intention, how to define what you’re looking for, and how to recognize if someone is truly on the same page as you. We’ll break down key topics like: ✅ The difference between intentiona...

Ever felt emotionally distant from your partner but couldn’t figure out why? 🤔 Resentment is a slow-building, relationship-damaging force that often goes unnoticed—until it’s too late. In this episode of RELEASE CONTROL , we dive deep into how resentment forms, the damage it causes, and how to break free before it ruins your relationship. 🚨 🔥 What You’ll Learn: ✔️ What resentment really is and...

Is it really okay to leave a good man just because you’re not happy? In today’s episode, we dive into the viral trend that’s encouraging women to walk away from solid relationships in search of happiness. But here’s the truth— happiness is an inside job , not your partner’s responsibility. I break down why this mindset is dangerous, how unrealistic expectations are hurting modern relationships, an...

Life is too short to let pride, misunderstandings, or past conflicts keep us from the people who matter most. In this episode, we dive into the wake-up calls that make us realize how fleeting time really is and why fixing relationships with family and friends should be a priority. Holding grudges comes at a cost—emotionally, mentally, and even physically—so why do we let them linger? Making the fi...

Fear—it’s the one thing that holds so many of us back from the life we truly want. Fear of failure, fear of judgment, fear of change. But what if you stopped letting fear make your decisions? In this episode of Release Control , we dive deep into how fear keeps you stuck in relationships, career, and personal growth—and more importantly, how to break free from it. I’ll share personal stories, mind...

Why do some relationships last a lifetime while others fall apart? In this episode of Release Control , we break down the secrets of long-lasting love and the habits that keep couples strong through every stage of life. We’ll dive into the core foundations of a successful relationship—trust, emotional safety, communication, and shared values—and reveal the biggest reasons relationships fail , incl...

Ever feel like your relationship has lost its excitement? You love your partner, but things just don’t feel as passionate as they used to. Over time, many couples slip into routine and stop putting in the effort that once kept the connection alive. But here’s the truth—passion isn’t something that just happens; it’s something you create. In this episode, we’re diving into: 🔥 Why the spark fades o...

Dating today isn’t what it used to be. Gone are the days of slow courtships and intentional relationships—modern dating is fast-paced, digital, and more complicated than ever. In this episode, we’re breaking down how dating has evolved, the biggest struggles people face, and what it takes to build meaningful connections in today’s world. 🚀 What We Cover: 💡 Modern Dating vs. the Past – How dating...

Discover the transformative power of secure attachment in relationships and personal growth in Episode 22 of Release Control! Dive deep into the characteristics of securely attached individuals, explore its childhood roots, and learn how this attachment style creates fulfilling and emotionally safe relationships. This episode covers: What is Secure Attachment? Characteristics that define this styl...

In this episode of RELEASE CONTROL, we're diving deep into avoidant attachment—a common but often misunderstood attachment style. We’ll explore how avoidant tendencies develop, often stemming from childhood experiences, and how they show up in adult relationships. From a fear of vulnerability to a need for independence, we'll break down the inner world of avoidants and why they struggle with emoti...

In this episode, we dive deep into anxious attachment style—what it is, how it forms, and its profound impact on relationships. Learn how inconsistent caregiving during childhood creates a fear of abandonment and a need for reassurance that often carries into adulthood. We’ll explore the common traits of anxiously attached individuals, such as overthinking, constant worry, and difficulty trusting...

In this episode of RELEASE CONTROL , we dive into a heartfelt exploration of love, family, and personal growth. With the holiday season in full swing, we reflect on the importance of cherishing time with family and balancing life as a single parent. We discuss the impact of social media on dating and how it’s reshaping modern relationships, offering actionable insights into navigating the digital...

As the year comes to an end, Episode 18 takes a heartfelt look back at the highs and lows of 2024. I open up about how the year started strong but brought challenges like a tough breakup, battling depression, and navigating my retirement from the Army. Through it all, I’ve been on a journey of self-love—finding myself, working on my growth, and learning to prioritize my well-being without numbing...

In Episode 17, we take a deep dive into the conversations you have with the most important person in your life: yourself. How do you speak to yourself when no one is listening? Is your inner voice helping you grow or holding you back? We’ll explore the power of self-talk and how it shapes your mindset, relationships, and overall happiness. From silencing your inner critic to building a more positi...

What if you only had one year to live—what would you change, start, or do differently? In this thought-provoking episode, we dive into the urgency of living authentically and making intentional choices in relationships and personal growth. We’ll explore the world of dating apps—are people truly showing their authentic selves, or just a curated version? Plus, we tackle the question of healing: how...

In this episode of RELEASE CONTROL , I dive into my Thanksgiving vacation, a mix of highs and lows. From traveling to Texas and reuniting with my daughters and family to battling an unexpected bout of food poisoning, it was a trip to remember. I reflect on the joy of being with loved ones during the holidays and the bittersweet thoughts of my ex that surfaced along the way. Amid these moments, I c...

Have you ever wondered how your past relationships shape the way you approach new ones? In this episode of Release Control , we explore the profound ways emotional baggage, trust issues, and repeating patterns from previous relationships can influence your future connections. Learn how to identify and address unresolved feelings, rebuild trust after betrayal, and break cycles of unhealthy behavior...