Relationships Made Easy

It doesn’t matter if it’s your partner, friend or a work colleague -- it’s so easy to get defensive and butt-hurt when they’re coming at you with something they’re upset about. When you get into a fear-based emotion yourself, you end up with a conversation that spirals down and you both walk away feeling misunderstood, unhappy and disconnected. What’s the answer? You can listen without getting hur...

Self-care is, above all else, paying attention to how you feel! You can exercise all day and get a mani/pedi every week but if you’re not feeling happier or calmer overall, what’s the point? All the physical self-care in the world won’t get you where you’re trying to go if you ignore your emotional self-care. If you’ve been struggling with figuring out how to create effective self-care, today'...

Do you know someone who prioritizes their own needs over yours, with no apology? Maybe you feel like you can’t get their attention or feel like a priority? Do you often walk on eggshells around this person because they’re easily offended, and God forbid you give them feedback or criticism because they blow up? Or maybe you know someone who is always acting like the victim and blaming you when thin...

When you fall in love with someone you get more than just that person because they come with a whole community of friends and family. If you’re lucky, you find that these are all your people too. However, in many cases, you find yourself surrounded by people you don’t like and wouldn’t choose to spend time with if it weren’t for your partner. Today I’m coming at you with the top 6 things you want...

I get asked a lot how to deal with judgmental and critical people. This is an issue for just about everyone, so today I’m coming at you with the 2 reasons people act this way and then my top 4 strategies for finding peace and calm, no matter what they say. Get my book on Audible: Be Happily Married: Even if Your Partner Won't Do a Thing: https://www.audible.com/pd/Be-Happily-Married-Audiobook/...

Join me and NY Times Best Selling author, BJ Fogg, who talks about his amazing book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. Today you're going to learn the simple but effective tools to change some small things and get huge results. You won't need to make any New Years' resolutions because you'll already by already practicing great new habits by the time you ring in...

The holidays are a time when many people throw their rules aside and end up with lots of overdoing: too much food, too much booze or drugs, putting money on credit cards for gifts and travel and trying to cram more into your days than the space-time continuum allows. Layer on top of that all the COVID hell and you’ve easily got a recipe for feeling like crap come January 2nd. I’m here to be your c...

Figuring out how to deal with someone who’s struggling with drugs and alcohol is a topic for any time of year, but if someone you know seems to have a problem, the upcoming holidays are often a time when it’s going to really be highlighted. As a recovering drug addict myself, this is a topic near and dear to my heart. Today I’m giving you everything you need to know to approach any person who’s st...

Today I’m talking about the five ways your family is likely going to drive you crazy this holiday season along with my top five tips for battling back so you can have a joyful, sane and connecting holiday season. And the best news? I’m not going to tell you you have to be grateful or appreciate anyone! Full shownotes (plus "I Feel Exercise"): https://abbymedcalf.com/family-driving-you-craz...

Feeling lonely sucks! If you’re listening, it means you’ve likely experienced the pain of feeling lonely or isolated at some point in your life. Social connection is imperative for humans. It improves our mental well-being and our physical health. Studies have even shown that a lack of social connection can be more detrimental to your health than smoking or obesity! Well, today is all about answer...

Here we are in our last week of Goodbye Negative Thinking Month! For the last 2 weeks, I’ve been laying out the pillars of the Goodbye Negative Thinking Trinity: First, we discussed the importance of starting each day with positive momentum. Then last week I taught you the second pillar which was all about calibrating and being the dominant vibration in the room. Today, we’re going to discuss the...

When it comes to positive thinking you’ve likely got two big problems that I’m going to help you solve today: 1) You’re in a negative space too often and that’s affecting your relationships. Maybe your negative thinking has you feeling depressed, anxious, impatient or easily frustrated. This, of course, impacts everything from your communication to your connection in all your relationships. 2) You...

Do you have negative thoughts that you just can’t seem to stop thinking? If you’ve tried tools to stop negative thoughts and you haven’t been successful, then this episode is for you. The issue is that you’ve been going about stopping negative thoughts the wrong way. Namely, you wait until you have them, and then you try to stop them. There’s something I call the Goodbye Negative Thinking Trinity...

I’m devoting this whole month to how to be happy now. I'll talk about how to stop negative thinking, how to start positive thinking, how to avoid the mistakes you’ve likely made in the past when you’ve tried affirmations and thinking positive thoughts, what the steps are for living happily in your now and how to make these changes and keep them for the long haul (and, of course, showing you al...

Last week I talked about what to do if your partner is jealous and this week I’m focusing on you! Today I’m covering everything you ever wanted to know about why you’re jealous but were too jealous to ask. Then I’m going to, as always, give you actionable tips to move away from jealousy and resentment and towards confidence, clarity and joy. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/110-2/   Relatio...

Having a jealous partner sucks. And I don’t just mean a partner who thinks you’re cheating. I’m also talking about a partner who isn’t supportive of your wins or who tries to diminish your accomplishments. Get ready for a two-part series on jealousy. This week I’m going to give you my 5-step process for what to do if your partner is jealous so you can move from fear and resentment to connection an...

Do you notice that you’re feeling more tired or fatigued these days? Maybe you’re having difficulty concentrating or find yourself more impatient than usual? It might be that you just flat out feel more depressed or anxious. Whether you’re noticing symptoms or not, you are likely suffering from what’s now known as coronavirus fatigue or pandemic burnout. Today I’m going to teach you how to identif...

Does your partner want different things in the bedroom than you? Today I'm coming at you with my 3-step process for getting on the same page in the bedroom, and beyond. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/ask-dr-abby-what-to-do-if-you-and-your-partner-want-different-things-in-bed/ For the 15 Questions to Ask for a Better Sex Life, click on the link above, scroll down to the bottom, and ent...

Depression is more common than you may think! According to the World Health Organization, more than 264 million people worldwide experience depression. There are many different types of depression and the symptoms can vary among people. But the big question is, how do you know if someone is depressed or just having a hard time? And, once you know, what should you do? Full shownotes: https://abbyme...

What to do when that honeymoon phase ends in your relationship? I’ve got your answer: Be happy because it means you’ve moved on to better things! The honeymoon phase, where everything feels amazing, is due to a biochemical process called limerence and this is like the best push-up bra in the world: It looks great in the beginning but, eventually, everyone’s going to figure out what’s real. Find th...

Today I’m going to teach you how to have a fair fight with anyone, whether it’s a partner, coworker or friend. I'll share the reason why tools have failed in the past (there’s a secret here that’s not going to be a secret after today), and then I’m coming at you with my top 3 rules for having a fair, effective fight AND an awesome, easy tool you’ll be able to download to stop a fight in its tr...

Does someone complain to you about something and then, when you give them ideas and solutions, do they shoot you down? Today I’m going to tell you why that happens and the simple but super effective tool to make it stop. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/ask-dr-abby-my-partner-doesnt-listen-to-me-2/   ---------- Subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMe...

Your day doesn’t start when you turn off your alarm in the morning. Your day starts when you set the alarm the night before. Getting your butt to bed at a reasonable hour and then getting shut eye is key to having a good day. With good sleep you’ll feel closer to your partner, be more productive and creative at work, be a more patient parent and even lose weight and be more satisfied in your life...

I have long believed that the tools I teach apply to any and all relationships. It’s time to simplify your life and focus on a few tools that you’ll use everywhere. No more worrying, “How do I talk to my boss?,” “Is there any way to get through to my mother-in-law?,” “Am I a lousy parent?!” Today's episode will cover the secret to making tools work in every relationship including my top 3 tips...

Today you'll learn one of the foundations of not only a happy, connected relationship, but of a happy, fulfilled life: resilience! The good news is that resilience is a skill you can learn. People in resilient relationships report more ease, satisfaction, & better health. So join me as I break down what resilience really is, why you need it to be happy and my top tips for making it happen!...