Relationships Made Easy

I’m sure you’ve heard of the fight/flight/freeze response, but did you know that there’s also a fourth type of response called fawn, which is like people pleasing in hyper drive? Today I’m breaking down these 4 different conflict responses and then you’ll learn my 2-step process to start taking control of your emotional reactions today! Grab my FREE Mindfulness Starter Kit (scroll down): https://a...

When you hear the word "trauma" you might be thinking, “Well, that doesn’t apply to me. I’ve never been the victim of a violent crime or in a war.” But defining any psychological trauma can be hard because it’s such an individual experience. I’ve been working with people for over 35 years, and I can tell you that what traumatizes you, might not traumatize someone else. This is why you migh...

When you hear the word "trauma" you might be thinking, “Well, that doesn’t apply to me. I’ve never been the victim of a violent crime or in a war.” But defining any psychological trauma can be hard because it’s such an individual experience. I’ve been working with people for over 35 years, and I can tell you that what traumatizes you, might not traumatize someone else. This is why you migh...

Do you feel pressure from your partner to be happy or “get over it” when you’re struggling? Does your best friend dismiss or minimize your difficult feelings? When you’re hurt, does your mom say, “You should be grateful” or “Look on the bright side?” You might be dealing with toxic positivity that leaves you feeling resentful, guilty or even ashamed but I’m here to help with my not-so-secret secre...

Do you feel pressure from your partner to be happy or “get over it” when you’re struggling? Does your best friend dismiss or minimize your difficult feelings? When you’re hurt, does your mom say, “You should be grateful” or “Look on the bright side?” You might be dealing with toxic positivity that leaves you feeling resentful, guilty or even ashamed but I’m here to help with my not-so-secret secre...

Do you have a friend who you’re always there for but, when you’re in need, they ghost you or offer minimal energy or support? Basically, are you in a friendship where it’s always all about them? Maybe you’ve been friends for years and you just want things to be more equal. Or maybe you don’t want to be friends anymore but can’t figure out how to leave without all the drama. Either way, I’ve got yo...

Have you been wrestling over The Clash’s epic line, “Should I stay or should I go?” Yes, this indecision is bugging you! The waffling back and forth, the feeling of uncertainty is the worst. You don’t want to regret -- you want to be 100% confident that breaking up (or staying) is the right decision. In my over 30 years of working with couples, I’ve identified a 5-step process you should be thinki...

When you get a compliment do you say things like: “I just got lucky;” “We did so well on that project because Jane was running it;” “I’m not really a good mom -- I’ve got a lot of help.” Then you may have Imposter Syndrome. Today you’ll learn if you have it and the 5 ways it’s hurting all your relationships. Top Tips for Getting Over Your Imposter Syndrome (scroll down to the bottom and enter your...

Being a rescuer will keep you stuck, disconnected and dissatisfied in your relationships. Today you’ll learn my 4 simple steps to stop rescuing so you can start truly connecting and supporting the people in your life. Follow me on Instagram! Join me on Clubhouse: @abbymedcalfphd Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-stop-rescuing-and-start-supporting-2/ I Feel Statement Exercise (scroll d...

Owning your shit is the key to a happy life because if you don’t own your shit, it’ll own you. If you’re blaming anyone else for anything in your life, it’s keeping you stuck. If you’re focusing on what your partner, boss or dad is doing wrong, it’s keeping you stuck! Today I’m going to teach you the 3 ways you’re neglecting your own emotional needs and how to fix it! Full shownotes: https://abbym...

If you often feel worried about a loved one, disappointed or upset by their choices, or like your emotions revolve around whether they’re “doing well” or not, then detaching with love is the key to feeling grounded, guilt-free and at peace. Today I’m going to teach you my 3 steps to loving detachment so stay tuned! Please subscribe and leave a review! Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/3-step...

There you are in the problem. “I can’t pay these bills.” “My partner’s driving me crazy.” “I think my boss hates me.” “I need to lose weight.” “I’m lonely.” Because this is a big issue in your life, you think about it often. You speak to anyone who’ll listen. It keeps you up at night as you search for answers. You believe that the way to solve your issue is to fixate on it but that never gives you...

Talking to someone who’s not listening is like speaking to a drunk person. They can sort of hold a conversation with you, but they’re not really present or engaged, and they’re not going to remember a thing you said tomorrow. Today I’m going to teach you the 5 signs that they’re not listening (so you’re not communicating) and my super simple, amazingly effective tool to get the conversation back o...

“What the hell is counter-dependency?” That was literally my response when I was asked to cover this topic for the podcast. In my over 35 years in the field, I’d never heard the term but, once I started my deep dive into learning everything about it, I realized that I had to do this episode to explain what it is and how it relates to codependency and narcissism. So, get yourself a cup of coffee an...

Do you get anxious or envious when you hear about your colleague’s fabulous vacation? Are you constantly overcommitting? Or maybe you get off social media feeling depressed? You, my friend, are suffering from FOMO: the fear of missing out! Today I’m going to show you how it’s not your fault that you’re on the FOMO train (your brain made you do it) and my top ways to get off that train and start li...

It seems like the definition of friends and family would be “people who have your back, no matter what.” Sadly, that’s not often how it feels. Today you’ll learn the 4 reasons friends and family are unsupportive and my top 5 tips for handling them like a pro so you can walk away feeling calm and confident. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/unsupportive-friends-and-family-the-5-things-you-wan...

Are you dealing with negative self-talk? Is your inner voice an a-hole? Do you routinely say things to yourself like: “Why can’t you ever speak up for yourself?” “Yeah, the boss said I did a great job on that project, but she was just being nice” or “What’s wrong with me?” Today you’ll learn why you’ve got that jerk in your head and my top 3 ways to shut them up! AND I’ve got a free gift for you t...

An emotional affair can be even more damaging to a relationship than a physical one. There’s only so much emotional bandwidth each of us has every day and if your partner is expending that precious energy outside your relationship, that’s going to create disconnection and hurt. Today I’m teaching you the difference between an emotional affair and friendship, the 4 things you should definitely avoi...

What can or should you be doing if your partner is making threats and telling you they’re unhappy? Today I’m going to teach you the 4 things to look out for that might mean your partner is serious and not just making a threat. And then we’re diving deep into the 3 things you need to know, and the 3 things you can do, to turn your relationship around. I’ve also got one of my amazing gifts for you t...

Self-sabotage can show up in any relationship: with our partner, boss, friend or, the one that hurts the most, in our relationship with ourselves! When you self-sabotage you’re holding yourself back from the person you want to be. Today I’m going to teach you why you self-sabotage, the surprising ways it can show up that you didn’t even realize and my 4-step process for stopping the sabotage and c...

Superman did it, but you can’t. The past is unchangeable. Period. End of story. The could’ve and should’ve clearly doesn’t help, but we do it anyway. What’s up with this destructive pattern and how do we change it? Today, I’m going to walk you through my 3-step process to stop regretting an unhappy past and start living in a happy now. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/regret-sucks-the-3-ste...

Today I’m going to take you through the 5 most common ways caring too much about what other people think shows up in your life and my top 5 strategies for dealing with each type of situation. By the end of this podcast you’ll have real ways to move from caring so much what others think, to caring first and foremost what you think! Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-stop-caring-so-much-...

Grief and loss aren’t just about someone dying. Sometimes you’ll experience these feelings due to something out of your control like being fired or someone breaking up with you. Other times, you’ll experience these feelings even when you were the one in control. You might have voluntarily moved from your home or state, been the one doing the breaking up, decided to stop drinking and you can still...

You can’t stop thinking about him. She’s on your mind day and night. You’re trying to distract yourself, but all you can think about is them! Trying to move on after a divorce or break up can leave you feeling anxious, frustrated, and even ashamed of yourself. Today I’m going to tell you the surprising real reason it’s so tough to move on (so you can stop being so hard on yourself) and then (as al...

If I could boil down everything I’ve learned in the last 30 years to have great communication in both your business and personal life, it would be what I’m teaching you today. These 3 things are the reason you’ve tried communication tools before and they haven’t worked. It’s because you’ve got to establish these 3 pillars first, and then you can create connection and understanding in all your rela...