Relationship Truth: Unfiltered

Brief summary of episode: When a relationship ends, the problems don’t all go away, especially when you’re forced to co-parent. In this episode you’ll hear practical tips you can apply in dealing with your ex or soon-to-be ex. Whether it’s dealing with finances, fairness, or emotional wounds, you’ll find help here. Subscribe  Apple * Google * Spotify * Amazon * iHeart Three Takeaways It is in your...

Whether you're a trauma survivor or married to one, trauma has a profound impact on relationships. Heather Davediuk Gingrich, Ph. D. is passionate about helping complex trauma survivors as well as educating churches on how to be trauma informed.    In her 40 years as a professional counselor, she has lived, practiced, and taught in Canada, the Philippines, and the United States. She was Professor...

Karin and her husband of nearly 39 years were missionaries to Zambia for two decades. Everything looked good to the outside but, the truth was, Karin was a victim of an extremely controlling and manipulative husband. In this episode Karin explains how she came to accept the truth about her situation and learn that she did have choices, even if her husband didn’t want to change.    Resources Join W...

Everyone has an ingrained belief system…a sort of hard-wiring that we don’t even think about. Today Leslie is going to talk about ten of the most common - and dangerous beliefs. Dangerous because believing them could seriously damage your life.  Life Should Be Fair Hard is bad I should be able to have my cake and eat it too. It’s all my fault It’s never my fault I can control the outcome If I wait...

Dawn knew there were red flags before she even married but she thought she could "save him."  Instead, she spent more than two decades dealing with a husband who was addicted to alcohol and prescription pain medications. Hear how, as a Christian, she dealt with this destructive problem and what she learned in the process.

In this episode Pastor Brad Hambrick and Leslie will tackle some tough topics:   Why do you think the church is making the same mistakes over and over again?   Why is it so hard to believe the victim? “Innocent until proven guilty” is cultural, but, when applied to a person telling their story we too often look at it as “liar until proven truthful.”  Is it wrong to let the legal system, CPS and ot...

What is betrayal trauma? There can be financial, emotional, betrayal, sexual, etc. When betrayal happens the picture you had of your spouse is shattered and so is the picture you had of yourself. It can be a struggle to even trust yourself again … because you trusted this person who once betrayed you.    The priority, beyond any problem, is your self-care. When you’ve been betrayed, you must take...

You. Don't. Have. To.  Most women are stuck in the lie that, "I have to..." I have to stay married, I have to go to church, I have to go to work...there is a resignation to a life that is choice-less. But that's not true. You don't have to do any of those things.  With every choice we make there are consequences. But we DO have a choice.   God created Adam and Eve with choice. They could choose to...

Date: January 2, 2023 Name of podcast: What is a godly woman?   Many Christians have a certain image of what a godly woman looks like, how she behaves, and what her priorities are (her husband being at the top of the list).  In this episode Leslie takes a look at what the Bible really has to say about the virtues and priorities of a godly woman.    A godly woman is God-centered, not self-centered...

  What is forgiveness? What does forgiveness mean? If I forgive my husband for something, what does that look like, biblically? It may mean canceling a debt. Or, does it mean you don’t talk about it anymore and you continue like everything is fine? That isn’t biblical. It isn’t a “get out of jail card” where you still offer your relationship and trust to a person who habitually sins against you. ...

In this episode you'll meet Grace, a brave woman who shares her story of being a people pleaser and learning to set boundaries with a jealous husband who would rage and exert control over her. She spent years walking on eggshells and trying to manage his emotions.  Today she is living in truth and being a godly wife by not enabling his sinful and destructive behavior.  

In this episode of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered you’ll hear some of Leslie and Julie’s experiences with the emotion of fear and how it has, at times, been in the driver’s seat of their lives. Leslie will share how fear can be a good thing but also when it becomes detrimental to decision making and living the life God has called you to live.    Notes from this episode: Fear can be a good thing. O...

In this episode Laura shares how she navigated her missionary husband's alcohol addiction and how it almost destroyed their marriage. 

In this episode Leslie interview Darby Strickland, a faculty member and counselor with Christian counseling & educational foundation as well as the author of, “Is It Abuse? A Biblical Guide to Identifying Abuse and Helping Victims.” 3:10 - What has been the hardest part of getting people to understand? Oppressors don’t often look like oppressors to the outside world. Their public face is often...

In this episode Leslie shares seven fundamentals truths parents must teach their kids in order for them to be healthy and strong.   Chapter #1 1:45 It’s important that kids know they are loved unconditionally. Children need to know they matter and they are important. This gives them a secure base from which to flourish and grow. This is also their first taste of the love of God.  Admit and own whe...

Karen's marriage lasted nearly 30 years. She and her husband were financially successful and both loved the Lord. In fact, her husband is the one who led Karen to Christ. But there was a dark side of anger and control that challenged everything she believed about marriage and divorce. A word of warning: there is some disturbing content in this episode. Karen's story, while difficult, is one of bra...

In this episode of Relationship Truth, Unfiltered, Leslie discusses why conflict doesn’t have to be a negative part of relationships. She’ll address some of the hard parts of disagreements and how to fight fair.    Chapter 1 (2:10): How do you keep conflict from escalating?   Talk first about how you can talk about a topic and have both people feel safe. Talk about the way you deal with problems s...

Mary Ann Modesti is a long-time family law attorney who shares, from a Christian perspective, what women need to know when considering a divorce. 

Domestic Violence is rampant…even in the church. 1 in 4 Christian women report being in an emotionally destructive marriage.  In this episode you’ll discover when behavior crosses the line, how the church should handle these situations, and what women can do to get safe. Leslie will share biblical support for all of this crucial advice.    Chapter #1 :43 A definition of domestic violence.  Domesti...

Tami has been married for 32 years and has seven kids. Her relationship disappointing from the beginning but it eventually turned destructive. Tami's church was anything but helpful, leaving her feeling confused and alone.  In this episode Tami shares how she began to wake up to the abuse she was experiencing, her own destructive patterns, and how she is staying in her marriage and staying well. ...

This is a special audio version of a workshop Leslie conducted where she answers the questions, "How Long Do I Keep Trying?" and "How Do I Know if This Relationship is Dead?"  CLICK HERE for a free handout to take notes as you listen: leslievernick.com/webinarhandout You'll also get a roadmap to rebuilding broken safety and trust.  Conquer doors are open for new members...but just for a short time...

In this episode Leslie introduces you to a powerful member of her coaching team. Elise Berryhill shares, vulnerably, about her experience with grief and dealing with a family member entrenched in addiction. 

In this episode Leslie shares stories you haven’t heard before about her personal experience with emotional abuse and the impact it had on her, even into adulthood.  Hear how Leslie dealt with her destructive mother, even into adulthood. And, learn how she found healing and the real, practical steps you can implement in your own healing journey.  Healing from Emotional Abuse: Three Practical Steps...

In this episode you'll meet Suzanne, a woman who didn't even recognize many of her habits as being the result of her destructive marriage. The product of an abusive home, she found it easy to believe her husband's behavior was her fault.  Four children and several decades later an event happened that opened Suzanne's eyes and set her on a course of real healing. You'll hear specific things she did...

Today’s guest is Joy Forrest, founder and Executive Director of Called to Peace Ministries and author of, “Called to Peace: A Survivor's Guide to Finding Peace and Healing After Domestic Abuse.”    To become an advocate, request a church partnership liaison or find personal support, go to www.calledtopeace.org