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How Loving Relationships Become Angry Relationships And little itty bitty actions that make relationships better. This episode looks at what happens when we fall in love, actions we take that make love work, how to stay in love, and how to prevent divorce. In this episode we discuss: Caring days Relationship success What makes relationships work Why we fall in love How we stay in love How relation...

Why Partners Tune-out of Difficult Conversations 3 ways to keep them engaged One of the most common problems my clients in couples therapy tell me about their frustrations when their partner emotionally checks out of a conversation, or physically leaves. I’ve seen some couples who can quickly remedy this problem fixing it in a few sessions, where other couples see me for years with the same proble...

The communication mistake that is preventing you from being heard and how to fix it. What to do to finally be listened to. If you’re wanting to feel close, connected, listened to, respected, understood, and like you matter. This is the episode you have been waiting for. To really feel heard there ARE certain communication styles that put a dead halt on passion. In this episode we discuss the conce...

What makes the relationships survive different? Understand what makes a relationship succeed or fail after cheating from the privacy of your home. We discuss: Normal reactions to learning about an affair What not to talk about after an affair How to make amends for an affair How to know it’s time to have sex after an affair How to rebuild trust after an affair. This podcast is not meant to diagnos...

The Truth About Creating Emotional Intimacy 2 secrets behind getting him to open up. In this episode we discuss: What emotional intimacy is to him Differences in gender and connection Conditions for emotional intimacy This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure and any medical, relationship, or mental health problem, check with your health care provider or local couples therapist...

When you need soothing the most, it's when your partner turns their back. Understand the mystery about why it is so hard to stay and give comfort. In this podcast we discuss: Differences in what tears mean Fight/flight/freeze response to tears Softening emotions Compromise Repair statements See repair statements on Instagram @relationshippsych This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent...

Don’t let fighting become the root of evil in your relationship. Nasty fighting can turn even the best of relationships sour. In this relationship advice podcast we talk about: How to fight fair How to solve conflict with your partner How to take breaks Going to bed angry Differences in how men and women to conflict Coming to terms with taking breaks in a fight Remember the allure to talk about th...

If your sexual relationship is as stale as month-old bread this podcast will lay the steps to create a passionate and enjoyable sex life. In this relationship advice podcast episode, we are talking about the following: How to talk about sex with your partner How to initiate sex with your partner Sex idea to keep it interesting How to decline sex with your partner Talking about sex likes and dislik...

What does it mean about you if you and your partner are very different? In this podcast we discuss differences in relationships. Some topics include: Being different than your partner Arguments Feeling invisible and taken for granted The movie The Darkest Hour and lessons from Clementine. How to accept your partner’s negative qualities. This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure...

My Partner Pulls Away and it HURTS. Help. How to deal with a partner that pulls away when they are under pressure. In this episode we are going to be discussing some over-generalizations about how men and women typically do conflict and deal with emotions. Surely this is not the case of all women and all men, and in same sex couples it may look a little bit different, but some patterns will also b...

How to say simple words to make your partner blush. In Gary Chapman’s book, 5 love languages he talked about the language words of affirmation. You use words to encourage, affirm, and appreciate. While this comes naturally to some, I have watched many couples struggle to find the words that connect to their partners hearts and ears. The whisper of a sweet nothing is just a few words that expresses...

The secrets every woman wants to know. After doing couples therapy with hundreds of couples, I routinely encounter similar problems as I assess couples. It takes different forms, but sounds like this “I can’t get my partner to open up,” “I wish we were closer,” “we don’t have intimacy,” “my partner doesn’t talk,” and many more comments indicating that emotional connection is lacking. In this episo...

5 Conversations to remedy stay-at-home order fueled problems.  "I thought love would be my cure, but now it's my disease." – Alicia Keyes, "Love Is My Disease". Don’t let this quote speak the truth for you. Spending 24/7 with someone you adore can make even the greatest love turn to frustration. Learn how to transform irritations into productive conversations, so you can look at your partner...

Stop doing these now, if you want your relationship to last. John Gottman terms these four patterns in a relationship, the four horsemen of the apocalypse because they are so bad for relationships. Even the masters of relationships do them from time to time, but the key is catching it quickly and making relationship repairs. The 4 horsemen of the apocalypse are 1. Criticism 2. Defensiveness 3. Sto...

If self-isolation is hitting your partner's mood hard, here are some simple steps you can take.  From feeling useless to action you can take. Here are 6 things couples can do to fight the dark days of cabin fever together. This episode had been adapted from the Blog on Depression at the Canadian Centre for Psychology and Relationship Resources. You can check out the blog here https://www.ccpr...

Do conflict like your partner is someone you love. “Wishes are thorns, he told himself sharply. They do us no good, just stick into our skin and hurt us.” ―A Face Like Glass, Frances Hardinge Call them wishes or expectations, when they don’t come true they hurt. It’s okay to have expectations, but they also require flexibility and disappointment. Why do we argue? Arguing is a normal part of relati...

“My wife and I play this fun game in quarantine, it’s called “Why Are You Doing It That Way?” and there are no winners.” (retrieved from @thedad who reposted @ericspiegelman) While this podcast has been in the making in my mind for over a year, it’s birth will be in the middle of (hopefully end) of the COVID-19 Stay at home, physical distancing. Many of us are at home with our partners…. Leaving o...

Do you want long lasting love? Do you want to understand what prevents divorce? This podcast is going to provide the roadmap to long lasting love. We will learn from the masters of love, as well as the disasters of love, in order to sort out the secret sauce of what makes a relationship work. Mentioned in the this podcast: Christine Padseky  Aaron Beck- Love is Never Enough Gottman Method Emo...