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Problems, different interests, ridged positions and conflict makes lot of couples come to therapy and wonder if they are even compatible, if they are soul mates and if they should be together. It sucks to love someone a lot and wonder if you should be together. This is a great question and it's hard to answer.  This podcast is for informational purposes only. 

3 Ways to use Words of Affirmation. How to use words to reignite the love in your relationship. Imagine if you could take down the guard around your partner’s heart. Discover how to use words to make love shine in your partner’s eyes again. After working with couples for over a decade, I know people want love to be easy, and can be frustrated by the work involved to keep love alive. They want it t...

How to make your partner feel loved & special The five love languages can guide your way. Gary Chapman, author of the book the 5 Love Languages defines the 5 Love Languages. This episode is about using these as a guide to help your partner feel loved and special. TV/movies have lied to us… it looks easy, simple, it depicts a false picture of what “true love” is. If we were lucky enough, maybe...

A FAST and little-known way to increase loving feelings Reigniting loving feelings with words of affirmation. Long term relationships are hard, the spark fades and rather than loving comments, your relationship has ugly complaints. You don’t listen to me You don’t respect me You think I’m a bad person You don’t love me Many couples start to wonder if they are compatible, or if their partner finds...

What Attachment has to do with Communication Some people avoid conversations Other people aggressively attack conversations While yet others openly chat and hear the other person and calmly express their side. Depending on our underlying attachment styles, and beliefs and values in her world, we will respond in conversations in different ways. In the episode The Secret Behind Creating a Love That...

6 Steps to heal past resentments Past pains get in the way of current pleasures We all want conflict to stop and to feel deeply connected to our partners. It sucks to have the same conflict again and again. Like we are spinning our wheels and getting nowhere. Lonely, angry, feeling invalidated and disrespected, sometimes we can end up even more resentful when trying to actually address the issue....

5 Reasons Couples Therapy Will Not Work for You If your relationship needs help, but you are not sure if couples therapy is for you, this relationship will help clarify why you should not do couples therapy. When couples come to therapy many are in joint agreement they need help, whereas sometimes it is one dragging the other. Since therapy can have a stigma, many people can be fearful o try it ou...

Improve your COMMUNICATION SKILLS with your partner. Discover how to express your inner feelings with pushing your partner away. (and even hear their inner feelings too). I have seen too many couples feel like they are living parallel lives with their partners. Many couples feel lonely in their marriage and feel like it should be easier. I get what it’s like to be drifting apart without a clear wa...

Secrets behind creating a love that lasts with different attachment styles. How to break free from connection problems, even if one partner is avoidant or the other is anxious. Many couples want a safe connection, with open communication. They want the rejection, loneliness, disrespect or the fear of not being enough for their partner to end. They just want to feel… safe. In this episode we are go...

How to calmly bring up a sensitive topic. Because past pains can cause current sore spots. In this episode, we cover 4 steps to bring up a sensitive topic. We review a predictor of divorce and how to prevent it We talk about how to calm down and why. We discuss communication and timing. The text number is 1(313)710-9683 This podcast is for informational purposes only. Host- Amber Dalsin is a psych...

Catastrophic Couples Conflict and How To Prevent It Transform fretful fights to calm conversations. In this episode, we are going to discuss 2 types of problems in relationships and how couples get stuck in fretful fights. We will answer the questions: So why are you fighting with your partner anyways? Are fights even normal in relationships? Do all couples fight? We review common cognitive distor...

Simple Strategy to Be HEARD & Understood To be heard, understood, respected, appreciated, connected - fundamental desire. This human needs is found in all races, religions, and groups- its woven into the fabric of our being. If you’ve wondered the strategy to use, so that he will listen, this is the episode for you. To discuss the episode, we are going to use an example from the TV show the Cr...

A Mistake that STOPS Communication Avoid doing this if you want good communication with your spouse. To illustrate a mistake that most people make when they are communicating, this episode looks at an interaction between Princess Margaret and her husband that I witnessed watching the TV show the Crown. Now, I have no idea if this is what she was really like, and as TV does it made for some really...

Secrets To Successful Relationship Repairs Have you wondered why relationship repairs are the most frequent post I make on Instagram? @emberrelationshippsychology This episode is about the power of relationship repairs. Imagine, you and your partner start sliding down the nasty spiral, the way all your big fights start, and then one of you quickly does a ninja move and halts the process, reconnect...

Is Porn Bad For Relationships? Show Notes In this episode we are going to look at when pornography is helpful and when pornography is harmful in relationships. We will outline the negative symptoms related to your partner watching pornography. Understanding Porn Use, The Confidential Information No One Talks About. In this podcast we discuss: So, is  pornography bad? Positive and negative imp...

5 Ways to Build Love Maps The crux of a solid relationship In this episode we are discussing LOVE MAPS. What is a love map anyway? It is knowing your partner’s inner world and having mental space for their experience and what is going on in their life. We are going to get to know more about these love maps and why they are a foundational part of relationship success. We look at three evidence-base...

Can’t afford couples therapy, and need to get clear on what to do to improve your relationship? This is the episode for you. Chris Harder- at Fast Foundations 2 Day Event shared a great tool to understand your problems, how to fix them, and what you need to achieve the solution. The stop, start, and find a method! In this episode, we discuss Kate and Toby and what happened in their marriage after...

Emotional intimacy a simple strategy that builds connection End loneliness and disconnection in less than 10-20 minutes a day In this episode we discuss: What builds emotional intimacy Questions to ask for emotional intimacy The difference between creating emotional intimacy in the TV show Love is Blind vs. Raised By Wolves. This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat prevent or cure any medical,...

COMMUNICATION Skills for couples. Even the best couples have conflict- how to stop disconnection in its tracks. In this podcast we discuss: The enemy in the relationship: the conflict cycle. Feeling heard and understood How to do everyday communication Levine & Heller’s book Attached, and the reasons for effective communication Tips to help couples communicate: Use empathy Use body language Stop i...

4 Ways to Create a Fight If Aliens wanted to know how to have a conflict, this is how you would do it. In this episode, we explore what aliens would see on their 3D TV screen if they were watching couples on early do conflict in a way that’s going to lead to problems. What is talked about: The Gottman’s Four Horsemen Stonewalling Criticism Contempt Defensiveness Other episodes discussed in this po...

3 Secrets to Emotional Intimacy Tips to get the emotional connection you want. Feeling got and understood by your partner really feels nice. This episode is all about how to feel close, connected and create more security with our partners. In this episode we discuss: Psychologist Jim Coan’s research on partner’s buffering pain How to create emotional connection Unhelpful behaviors in relationships...

Maladaptive Relationship Behaviour. 2 Steps towards change. In this episode, we discuss early childhood experiences and family influences and the impact on romantic relationships. I've been struck over the last week, doing marriage therapy in Toronto about how our early experience shape our adult relationships. In this episode we discuss: Relationship influenced by our history Emotional triggers i...

The SECRET to GREAT Sex in Long-Term Relationships How to make your sex life better with your spouse. It’s normal to want to have sex and it’s normal to not really want to have sex, so there is no road map for how to make sex great in a long term relationship, but there is a secret that can help. The secret is communication. In this episode, we explore Masters and Johnson’s research on sexual resp...

Your brain on love. Sexual chemicals and how they lead to love in the brain. Decline of the Hot and Heavy Stage of a Relationship- in this episode we are going to explore the impact the brain’s chemosignals in early attraction. Chemosingals are the glue that bond early relationships. The primary reason for sexual chemosignals is to bond couples together long enough to start a relationship and poss...

What to do when you’re mad at your significant other 3 steps to being angry and keeping your partner close (ish) The 3 concepts are 1. Time out 2. Remember the flip flop 3. Focus on yourself Partner will make us mad… its inevitable… but we can keep working to do anger like our partner is someone we love. This podcast is not meant to diagnose, treat prevent or cure any medical or relationship probl...