Relationship Dish

This week the therapists dish and dive about affairs and infidelity. Listen in as they dish about their own experiences with infidelity and affairs (spoiler alert, it's not pretty) and the impact they've had on their lives. Learn from the literature how to deal with it, get past it or get out of it if it happens to you!   

This week the therapists dish and dive about that critical voice in their heads, their inner critics. They look at where they come from and  how we can learn to manage them so they don't take over our lives. Listen in and learn how to beat those negative voices! 

It's Fathers Day and This week the therapists dish and dive about fathers! They look at the fathers of their own children and compare them to their own fathers, they dive about the importance of fathers and how a good relationship with father actually helps kids thrive all throughout life.    

This week the therapists dish and dive about enmeshment. They wonder if they are at times, enmeshed with their partners. Listen in as they dish about their own issues and explain what enmeshment  is and how to deal with it so it doesn't run your life! 

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about seeing themselves in their partners.   They realize that many things that trigger them about their partners are the very things that trigger them about themselves. Being in a relationship is like standing in front of a mirror 24/7 and when that mirror feels like one of those "fun house" mirrors, well,  it's going to be a bumpy ride.

Listen in this week as the therapists conclude their interview with two women who are pros at making their marriage wor k. Learn about what's challenged them over the years and how they've learned to overcome these challenges and continue to grow together. They are inspirational to us. Learn from the masters!

Listen in this week as the therapists offer yet  another side dish! This time, they interview two women who, despite big obstacles, have managed to create and maintain an incredibly happy and healthy relationship.  Listen in to part 1 and find out which obstacles they faced and how they navigated them together. They are truly masters at their relationship and have much to teach us all. Next week w...

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about the difference between shame and guilt. Both therapists recall events from their family of origin when guilt bled into shame. Instead of feeling guilty for a bad behaviour, they ended up feeling shamed for who they were. Learn the differences between guilt and shame so you can more easily and cleanly heal and repair in your own life. 

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about the deals they make with the devil. It turns out they tell themselves some pretty interesting stories about the things they have to do to feel safe and to keep horrible things from happening to them and theirs! Who knew they had such power! Anyone else seek guarantees that nothing bad will befall them? What  are you willing to do to ensure...

The therapists continue to dish and dive in this two part series about depression. They continue discussing how depression has impacted their own lives and the lives of their family and friends. They then dive into the literature and share the most current research into treatment options for this painful and often misdiagnosed mental illness. There is hope! Treatment saves lives! Listen to part 1...

Listen in this week when Pam and Iona dish and dive about depression as part 1 of a special 2 part series.  The therapists talk about how depression has touched their own personal lives and those of their loved ones and how their relationships with depressed family members have impacted them over the years. They dive into some literature on depression to help better understand it. The series conti...

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about siblings. Why are these relationships, the ones we have with the people who are the closest biologically to us, so often fraught,  painful  or just plain disappointing? Pam and Iona discuss their own sibling relationships and unpack the issues from their own families of origin that may explain some of the difficulties they've struggled with...

This week the therapists dish and dive on self care. Is it really necessary to care for the self or is it just frivolous at best, selfish at worst? Listen in as Pam and Iona struggle through the questions of self care; why is it necessary, are they allowed, is it a one size fits all and what does it even look like. Learn some handy tips about self care for yourself, so you can give more of your be...

Listen in this week as the therapists dish and dive about how to fully repair after a tiff.  Pam has had an issue with Eric in the kitchen (where else??) and learns how to find her part, own it and take responsibility for it without taking it all on. Iona's has an issue with Steve and also owns her piece and realizes what she needs from Steve; for him to cleanly own his part without being defensiv...

This week the therapists dish and dive on forgiveness.   Iona struggles to forgive Steve for his wrongdoing and in so doing, realized that the she was the only person she was hurting by holding onto her anger.  Pam also finds it challenging to forgive Eric because well, does that mean she also has to forget?  Learn the difference between forgiving and forgetting. Stop getting stuck and start letti...

This week the therapists grapple with the things they can and can't control in their partners and in their relationships. Iona's husband is having some issues with his family of origin and she wants to protect him from the fallout, but he refuses to let her. She feels frustrated and her anxiety cannot be soothed by controlling the situation, because he won't cooperate! Pam also has a family member...

This week listen in for part 2 of our interview with Sandra and Laird, a loving couple, who, despite dealing with many obstacles, has made their relationship work, and work well for 37 years!   Listen in as we continue the dialogue and we continue to learn from masters of the trade. What got them through the hard times? What are their rituals? How have they managed to continue to grow and evolve t...

This week as a special "side dish", we air part 1 of our "Love Through The Ages" interview with Sandra and Laird, a couple that have been together for 37 years and are still wonderfully happy.   The road was not easy. It was a second marriage for both (divorce stats for second marriages are even worse than for first marriages), Laird had children and most of the "honeymoon" period of this relation...

This week the therapists dish and dive about grief. Not the grief we feel from the death of a person, but rather the death of a fantasy. When we realize that our partner is not exactly what we want or cannot meet certain expectations or longings, we go through a similar process to the grief process. We feel angry, we bargain, we deny and ultimately if we can accept what is, then we can fully griev...

Happy Valentine's Day! This week listen in as the therapists dish and dive about what it truly means to love your partner. Sometimes we have to do away with the image we create  of our partner, so we can meet and fall in love with who this person really is. They learn that this is not a selfish thing, that another person is not out on this earth to fill all of our fantasies, but rather to be loved...

This week the therapists continue with part 2 of Yours, Mine and Ours.   They continue to delve into issues and feelings that are hard to separate out and try to get to the bottom of whose responsibility they are.  They learn that it is clarity that helps us to  name and own our own feelings and teach the listeners how to get this clarity that we all need to untangle the mess and have better relat...

This week the therapists work hard to figure out what's yours, mine and ours regarding feelings and responsibility for action in relationships. It can be really tricky to pull that knot apart and really understand what we ourselves are responsible for in our relationships. Typically we are responsible for our own feelings, and for communicating those feelings to our partners, but faulty messages f...

This week the therapists dish and dive on the dilemma they have being big complainers about their partners, yet still wanting to be supportive of them and wanting them to feel like they have their backs.    Knowing their partners emotional state is helpful to increase compassion and understanding when they are also triggered by their behaviours. Of course they know that its important to avoid the...

Welcome to season 3 everyone!   This week listen in as the therapists open the new season with a dish and a dive about the difference between surviving and thriving. Iona talks about being stuck in survival mode for so long that she doesn't even notice that some of her responses in her marriage are still coming from that place, even though there is no evidence that she is in any emotional danger....

Hey dishers, we're back with Season 3! We have some exciting new episodes for you, so please listen in on Jan 16 for our season 3 debut! and as always Happy coupling!   Iona & Pam