Relationship Atlas

This episode is driven by the knowledge offered in the book, "Conscious Loving,' coupled with the results both in my own relationship and my clients. Its not magic - its simply turning the things we assume into tangible commitments and accountabilities.  Follow me on socials for more daily support. @therelationshipcoach_ Interested in taking this work on more intentionally? Click here to book a di...

Great relationships are built on many things, and in this episode, an important one is to be addressed: follow through. Not just the value of follow through, but the greater impact that it has on the safety, security, and foundational trust of the relationship.  Follow me on socials for more daily support. @therelationshipcoach_ Interested in taking this work on more intentionally? Click here to b...

The first 30 episodes are officially in the books!   As always, we have kept this episode short, sweet, and to the point, because complexity is the enemy of execution . Today, we discuss the power of putting one simple structure in place to create a world of freedom for both you and your relationship. While on the surface it may sound counter-intuitive, structure really does create freedom.  Let m...

We can't change our partner, but we CAN contribute to a more enjoyable experience and possibly influence some change along the way. Thats what this episode focuses on - the WE, not just the me.  Follow me on socials for more daily support. @therelationshipcoach_ Interested in taking this work on more intentionally? Click here to book a discovery call.

Disclaimer - this episode invites you to confront yourself. I hope it serves you well! Follow me on socials for more daily support. @therelationshipcoach_ Interested in taking this work on more intentionally? Click here to book a discovery call.

What we want from our relationship is often associated with playing a bigger game. It says, "right now matters, but what we are building matters more." This episode is curated to support with getting radically honest with ourselves about what kind of game we are playing, where we are selling ourselves short, and how we can start to impact our relationship in the ways we know we truly want to. Foll...

When you think the mic is working... regardless, the content was solid, so here it is. Episode 26 diving into 2 solid reflections I had this past that are widely applicable to every facet of our relationships.  Follow me on socials for more daily support. @therelationshipcoach_ Interested in taking this work on more intentionally? Click here to book a discovery call.

The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. But the quality of our lives tends to come down to what we focus on the most. Do you find yourself focusing frequently on whats going wrong, or the hardships of your life, or the resistance, challenge, scarcity, difficulty, pain, sorrow? Or do you find yourself orienting towards what is going well, the possibility of the next mo...

Gabby and I recently moved, and with that move came a lot of moving parts and a lot of things to tend to and care for. Thru this, a question came up: who is going to do this? Who is going to do that? Who will plan this? Who is even thinking about all of this? This is where todays conversation sparked from: the mental load. This is something we experience as individuals and amplifies when we get in...

Gabby and I just recently moved into a new home, and something that came up during the move was our desire to get the home 100% complete - design, colours, organization, etc. Unfortunately, we are not in a position to make that happen, which was disappointing to face. And at the same time, it got me thinking - what would have happened if we didn't create that clarity together? How would the next m...

To understand what might be alive for us in our relationship right now, it can be extremely helpful to identify where we are at in the emotional cycle of change (also could be called "the steps to success"). Everything starts at the stage of uninformed optimism, but what happens from there is where the real value and depth of growth begin.  Follow me on socials for more daily support. @therelation...

I attended a mens group a couple of weeks ago and as everyone was sharing, I realized something about myself; I am really great at being honest, but I am really not great at being vulnerable. As I sat with this for a couple of weeks, I discovered that I am not alone in this. I also discovered that when it comes to our relationships, whether it be friends, family, or lover, understanding the differ...

Understanding the systems we operate is a foundational necessity for change, and in our intimate relationships, attachment theory is one of the most powerful sources to learn. In a previous episode, we talked all about the anxious system. Today. we focus our attention on the avoidant system. Together we explore what it is, how its created, what it looks like, what their views are on things like co...

A common thread in relationship is withdrawing: mentally, emotionally, physically. When we don't know why this shows up, it can be very difficult to manage. Whether we are the one withdrawing, or we are experiencing our partner withdraw, this episode is built to help both sides gain clarity on the deeper why behind withdrawing behaviours. We also discuss what to do about it and how to better manag...

Today we breakdown one of the insecure attachment styles - the anxious attachment system. Together we break down what it is, what it looks like, and what we can do about it. We name it, we tame it, and we evolve thru it. Be sure to subscribe to the podcast to get alerts on the release of the next episodes of the attachment series where dive into the avoidant, the anxious-avoidant, and the secure....

Do you cross your arms when talking to people? Do your cheeks reach your eyes when you smile? Do you squint at your partner when something doesn't make sense? All of these are just some of the many examples of the way our body speaks. And in relationship, this can be the make or break between our partner feeling accepted, or rejected. In todays episode, we break down the power of non-verbal expres...

I came across these two posts the other day - one was a polarizing share about how "Relationships are easy, you just need to be with the right person," and a comment on a separate post that said, "so what - do we need to just talk like a therapist now?" After sitting with these, I came to a couple conclusions that I believe are important thoughts to consider.  Follow me on socials for more daily s...

Today we talk about money, one of the biggest challenges relationships face. But money isn't inherently the problem - the problem is how do hold space for two differing opinions, beliefs, and experiences while simultaneously creating financial safety and trust in the relationship? Today we begin that journey, starting with a deeper exploration of our own experiences with money, how that has develo...

One of the cornerstones for a successful relationship over time is emotional safety: is my emotional experience safe here? Or is it judged, rejected, or worse? What do I need in order to feel emotionally safe? What do I need to change in order to be a safe space emotionally? All of this and more in todays discussion. If you liked this episode, make sure to like, subscribe, and share the pod! Follo...

I struggled today to put together what I thought would be the "perfect" episode, and because of that, I almost didn't record at all. And then it hit me - messy action is better than no action at all. Follow me on socials for more daily support. @therelationshipcoach_ Interested in taking this work on more intentionally? Click here to book a discovery call.

Indecision is a silent killer - lets talk about what needs to start happening. Liked this episode? Make sure to subscribe and give it an honest rating!  Follow me on socials for more daily support. @therelationshipcoach_ Interested in taking this work on more intentionally? Click here to book a discovery call.

Conflict can be difficult, but if it is resolved well, regardless of the difficulty, it can lead to lead to deepened connection and the overall resiliency of the relationship. Here are 3 tools I have used over the years that have helped Gabby and I navigate conflict better together.  Liked this episode? Make sure to subscribe and give it a rating! Ready to take this work deeper? Click the link bel...

I think its fair to say that we would all enjoy being in a secure relationship; the intimacy, the closeness, the connection, the ease, peace, alignment, etc. The possibilities of a secure relationship are literally endless, and thats where I got curious - how far does that "endless opportunity" go? Turns out, pretty damn far. From personal exploration to postpartum depression to retirement to the...

In todays episode, we begin the conversation surrounding safety and trust in our relationships. Without a strong foundation of safety, build thru consistency in action based on who we say we are, our relationships will quickly (or slowly) deteriorate over time. So what can we do? How can we create this kind of environment? How do we even know if my partner feels safe? That they trust me? Where are...

Todays episode is a discussion about "time" and how to approach it more effectively as a couple. Together we get curious about what your current belief about time is, where that belief originated, how you manage time now vs.how you want to manage time, and then we finish the discussion with a couple strategies and tools to help alleviate conflict around time. Whether you're single or in a long sta...