Relational Trauma SOS

S2 E11 – Getting Vulnerable with R.E.S.T In this episode of Relational Trauma SOS , host Jeni Brockbank invites listeners into a deeply personal space by sharing her own R.E.S.T. process. R.E.S.T. is a framework for finding peace in the midst of relational trauma: R – Release to God what you can’t control and what you can control. E- Express to another person what you can't control and what you ca...

Relational Trauma SOS – Season 2, Episode 10 Title: Boundaries: Getting to the Root Episode Summary: In this episode, we explore why it’s essential to understand the root of destructive patterns so we can place boundaries on what truly matters—not just the obvious behaviors. We discuss how missing Truth, Ownership, and Empathy (T-O-E) can allow harmful cycles to repeat, and share real-life scenari...

S2 E9 – When Patterns Repeat Like Groundhog Day: Breaking the Cycle Have you ever felt like you’re stuck in a loop of destructive relationship patterns—where the same hurtful behaviors repeat over and over, almost like Groundhog Day ? In this episode of Relational Trauma SOS, host Jeni Brockbank , Executive Director of H.E.R. Wings Unfold and a victim advocate, explores the Cycle of 4-A Behavior:...

️ S2 E8 – No Rigid Rules: A Real Relationship With God In this episode of Relational Trauma SOS , Jeni Brockbank invites listeners to explore what it means to cultivate an authentic and healing relationship with God. For many survivors, rigid structures and formulas around spirituality can feel unsafe. Instead of checklists, this conversation leans into gentleness, curiosity, and freedom — encoura...

Season 2, Episode 7 — Hello God. It’s Me. Are You There? Relational Trauma SOS – A H.E.R. Wings Unfold Production Tagline: Trauma Survivors Belong Here Episode Overview In this heartfelt episode, Jeni Brockbank — Executive Director of H.E.R. Wings Unfold and certified victim’s advocate — explores what it means to heal a relationship with God after experiencing relational trauma. For many survivors...

S2 E6 – 9 Best Practices for Faith Leaders With Tara McCausland A H.E.R. Wings Unfold Production Donate now to support H.E.R. Wings Unfold: https://herwingsunfold.org/donate/ Find a TS-12 Anon Meeting: https://www.ts12anon.org/find-a-meeting.html Welcome to Relational Trauma SOS ! In this episode, we’re honored to speak with Tara McCausland about 9 Best Practices for Faith Leaders —a powerful guid...

Healing While Being Shot At: A Survival Guide Episode Description: In this episode of Relational Trauma SOS , Jeni Brockbank explores what it means to try to heal while still “being shot at”—navigating crisis after crisis. Using the powerful quote, “We don’t expect soldiers to heal from PTSD while they’re being shot at,” Jeni shares pieces of her own story and a survival guide for those who feel l...

S2 E4: Worth It – Why YOU Are Worthy of Healing Right Now   Links to Learn More + Get Involved: Women's Retreat Details & Vision ✨ Get Retreat Updates Sponsor a Survivor ️ Episode Summary: So many of us were taught — directly or indirectly — that healing is something we have to earn. That we must prove ourselves, fix others, or forgive fast enough before we’re “allowed” to rest, receive, or r...

“This is my story. I get to decide who has the privilege of hearing it.” —Step 5, TS-12 Anon In today’s episode of Relational Trauma SOS , we explore what it means to reclaim authorship over our stories—especially after experiencing another’s abuse, addiction, adultery, or abandonment (what we call 4-A behavior). For many survivors, sharing our experience can be layered with fear, shame, confusion...

Support the Movement: Donate to Help Her Heal Every dollar helps fund trauma-sensitive healing resources, retreats, care packages, and safe spaces for women impacted by abuse, addiction, adultery, and abandonment. Buy the Book: TS-12 Anon on Amazon ️ Episode Title: S2 E2 – The Revolution of Trauma-Sensitive 12 Steps: TS-12 Anon Welcome to another episode of Relational Trauma SOS , a H.E.R. Wings U...

Help Her Heal: Make a Donation Support trauma-sensitive healing for women impacted by abuse, addiction, adultery, or abandonment (4-A behavior). Your donation helps fund TS-12 Anon meetings, survivor care packages, healing retreats, and the creation of a safe space to heal and rise. Thank you for being part of this important mission. ️ Episode Title: We’re Back—With Hope, Healing, and a Wider Lens...

Rhyll Anne Croshaw, with the SA Lifeline foundation, shares her insights about the surrender process. Why do we need the surrender process? Rhyll says that the rewards of surrendering to God are peace. For those of us who struggle with betrayal trauma, peace is like water to our souls. Rhyll shares her 3 step surrender process and adds some extra details that I find particularly helpful. The basic...

Ashlynn Mitchell discusses how to be the buffalo on this week’s episode. Because Ashlynn has been open with her recent experiences of heartache and thriving, I wanted to learn more. I am grateful that Ashlynn generously shares her experiences regarding healing from her recent divorce. We discuss how to be the buffalo… Physically Emotionally & Spiritually I’ve implemented some things from Ashly...

Addiction & mental illness often go hand in hand. Sometimes it’s hard to see that there is an underlying issue. This last year, my eyes have been forced wide open and I am sharing more of our story here. Very special thanks goes to my husband who decided to let me be more open about our story. This leaves him vulnerable, as he struggles with both sex addiction and mental illness. Thankfully, b...

Do you sometimes struggle with obsessive worrying about the future? I sure do and it’s normal to struggle when facing betrayal trauma. Our brains are looking for something to land on, but when the future is unsure, future tripping is often where our brains turn. A year ago I knew that I needed more insight into staying present, so I decided to interview Pam Blizzard. What Pam graciously shared wit...

Sex Addiction Edition of the Betrayal Trauma SOS Podcast What is sex addiction and might you or a loved one be struggling with sex addiction? In this sex addiction podcast episode, we will take a whole body approach.  Let’s discuss how sex addiction affects people physically, emotionally and spiritually.  I’ll even share my horcrux addiction theory.  We'll discuss: What is sex addiction? Why is it...

Working Through Strong Emotions is something that everyone has to deal with at times. For those of us who deal with betrayal trauma due to the sex addiction of a loved one we often times have an added struggle.   Emotions!  When betrayal trauma hits, emotions can be all over the place. “traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past us alive in the form of gnawing interio...

How To Help a Loved One With a Sex  Addiction We can't "fix" our loved ones, but there are things that we can do. A few topics that we will discuss in this Betrayal Trauma SOS podcast episode are: 1- Learning About Sex Addiction 2- Keeping things shame free 3- Setting Boundaries  4- Strengthening Intuition “Intuition is not a single way of knowing - it's our ability to hold space for uncertainty a...

Have you wondered how to teach children about pornography? Me too friend. This week's podcast episode is all about raising porn addiction resistant children/ This episode stems from a question from last week’s Q & A: “Hi Jeni!  I have a question for you: how do you raise sex addiction resistant children?  I think about having kids and I worry about them suffering from the same demons that my h...

Episode 14: Q & A I appreciate all of the questions submitted for this Q &A episode. In this Betrayal Trauma SOS podcast episode, I answer your questions about: If I am still married to the person who betrayed me. What the lines are for staying with your spouse after betrayal. How to tell if an addicted spouse is being honest or not? How to raise children who are resistant to sex addiction...

The POWER of Surrendering outcomes when your loved one has a sex addiction. Feeling weighed down? Do thoughts of your loved one's addiction consume your thoughts? I relate. Let's explore how to function from a place of peace in this week's episode: The POWER of SURRENDERING. NOTE: Next week I will be doing a Question and Answer episode.   I welcome recovery and/ or personal questions regarding my...

Grace is my favorite tool for healing from... anything but especially betrayal trauma. The key element in my recovery from betrayal trauma that stems from my husband's sex addiction has certainly been grace and I'm happy to discuss that in this betrayal trauma podcast episode. Women's Stories of GRACE In Healing From Betrayal Trauma I am honored to welcome 9 women who share their personal experien...

Boundaries with my spouse who deals with sex addiction changed my life.  Maybe they will change yours too? While a few things in this episode are geared towards spouses who are married to someone that struggles with sex addiction, most of what we are discussing is applicable to other addictions as well.  Whether your spouse is addicted to drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc. you will likely find helpful...

Facing denial to live in truth is critical for anyone, but especially those of us who have a loved one that struggles with addiction. Let’s learn why it’s an important element to address when healing from betrayal.  Denial.  What is it and why do we need to be aware of it?  This podcast episode uses a parable from Deiter F. Uchtdorf about blind men feeling and describing different parts of an elep...

Do you want to learn to communicate more effectively, and don't know where to begin. All who are seeking to learn communication skills will likely find things of worth in today’s episode. While this Betrayal Trauma SOS podcast episode is geared towards helping those who are struggling with betrayal trauma learn better ways to communicate, most things can be applied to many different scenarios.  So...