Relate-Able

An important aspect of our relationship to ourselves that we haven’t talked about yet on Relate-Able is our health. It’s just a simple fact that when we feel physically well, we’re more capable of enjoying the time we spend with other people and when we’re depleted, our relationships may feel like more of a burden. But it’s easy to deprioritize your own health when you’re busy taking care of other...

We know that comparison happens. We know that it doesn’t always feel that great. We know that “comparison is the thief of joy” or that the “grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” We don’t need to be told that. What we want to understand is how we can free ourselves from the spiral of comparison that can overwhelm us with feelings of inadequacy. How we can worry less about what ot...

For many women, the sexual relationship can be a complicated one. When you’re busy taking care of kids or other people a lot of the time, sex can start to feel like a chore or like one more person who wants something from you. Or it might be that you felt desire in the past but you can’t seem to find it now and wonder if it’s buried under a big pile of laundry or where it got lost. You might feel...

There is a lot of messaging coming at us from many different sources that tells us as women to shrink ourselves. This can be about the size of our bodies with constant pressure on women to be smaller or to lose weight or it can be about our presence with pressure to be accommodating, agreeable, to avoid conflict, or just in general to take up less space. In this episode with Dr. Lauren Barnes, we...

This episode is a little different than the ones I usually share. I’m not teaching a new idea or giving you something new to think about. I’m not sharing any research directly in this one. Instead, I’m telling you a story—my story—and why it matters so much to the work we’ve been doing on this podcast. I’m sharing this because for a long time I had a life that looked good on the outside, but insid...

Most women crave deep, meaningful connection, so we pour ourselves into the people we love—caring, serving, sacrificing, and trying to meet everyone’s needs. And yet, so many of us end up feeling exhausted, disconnected, lonely, or unsure why all that effort doesn’t always seem to create the closeness we want. When that happens, we usually assume we need to give more, communicate better, or finall...

When you’re neck deep in taking care of kids, demands at work, or getting everything done (and it never seems to all be done), it’s easy for the pieces of yourself that used to make you you to fade a little.   Or maybe something in your life has changed—the kids are growing up and need you less often, your job changed, a relationship dissolved, something happened that’s left you a little unsu...

December is a wild ride of emotions — so much to do, so much pressure, so draining and exhausting at times… and also so fun and exciting. We want to be enjoying the magic. And it all gets mixed together into one messy, beautiful, overwhelming month. In this short episode, I'm sharing one small thing that I dropped from my list this week...and the relief it brought me. And one super simple traditio...

When you’re the magic  maker , it can be easy to end the season feeling more frantic and frazzled than calm and connected. You  want  to create magic for your people but you are exhausted. And it would be nice to feel the magic too. This episode is a followup to episode 9 about a simple mindset shift that helps you feel more connected to your people, but this time we’re talking abou...

Connection with other people is one of the best parts of life, but sometimes we don't feel as connected as we wish we did. Sometimes our relationships feel surface level or superficial and many people feel lonely—even when surrounded by people. On top of that, many of us feel incredibly busy and sometimes overwhelmed. We'd like better connection with other people, but we are already pouring so muc...

If you had a day entirely to yourself with absolutely no expectations of productivity on you — no chores to do, no one else’s needs to see to, now worries that you weren’t getting enough done, just you and your time and whatever you wanted to do — what would you do? And how do you feel when you think about it? Like it would be a dream come true? Or does it make you anxious (because for so many of...

You have a good life — and you know it. You’ve got people you love and people who love you back. You’ve got opportunities, routines, responsibilities. From the outside, everything looks fine. But lately, it feels like you’re running on empty — doing all the right things, carrying all the right responsibilities — and still feeling strangely disconnected. In this episode, we’re talking about a quiet...

Life is busy, messy, and full — and sometimes it feels like the hard stuff takes up all the space. But every now and then, there’s a quiet moment that catches you off guard — a small laugh, a warm kitchen, a simple night that just feels good. Those little glimmers can change everything, if we actually notice them. In this episode, I’m joined by Rachel Nielson from the 3 in 30 Podcast to talk about...

You’re doing all the things — taking care of everyone, getting the work done, staying kind, showing up. You check the boxes, juggle the lists, and somehow still end each day with that whisper:  “I didn’t do enough.” You’ve tried to fix it by doing more, controlling more, organizing more… but that sense of  “not enough”  never goes away. And it’s exhausting. In this episode, we talk...

If you've ever driven home after a party or after lunch with a friend and replayed something you said or did that made you feel dumb, you know what we're talking about with an "inner critic." And it's relatable because we all do things we are embarrassed about and things that get that inner critic talking loudly. But what if you knew that the inner critic was just trying to protect you? What if it...

Here are some actual phrases that women have said to me this month that might sound familiar to you too: “I kinda feel like I’ve lost myself!” or I want to start “feeling like a main character again” or I want to stop “hiding in my relationships.” Do you see a common thread in those words like I do? These women want to feel like themselves again. They want to feel like they know who they are and l...

You're pretty sure you need better boundaries, but you don't like to feel like you are disappointing people and you aren't all that sure what your boundaries would be if you DID set them. Plus, sometimes when you speak up for yourself, you just end up feeling like a jerk and wishing you hadn't said anything at all. On top of that, boundaries can be a bit of a buzzword these days and gets misused a...

Welcome to the Relate-Able podcast! This podcast is for women who are ready to reconnect with themselves so they can experience deeper, more fulfilling relationships in their lives. In this intro episode, we're talking about whether the old cliché that you've got to love yourself before you can love other people is actually true. Spoiler alert: it is, kind of. It's not just about having high self-...