Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby Seeley

Today we're talking about conflict—but not just arguing. We're talking about the kind of conflict that goes nowhere. The kind that leaves you frustrated, disconnected, and wondering why you just wasted your time. And the truth is, most couples don't realize they're stuck in patterns… cycles that repeat over and over again without resolution. The first cycle we unpack is the blame cycle. This is wh...

Have you ever noticed how gyms are packed in January… and empty by mid-February? Joe shares from his own experience as someone who works out consistently six days a week. Every January, the classes are full. Parking lots are packed. But by mid-February? Empty. The excitement fades when people realize goals actually require a price. Inspiration gets you started—but commitment carries you forward. F...

In today's episode, we're continuing the vision conversation we started in part one. These next five questions felt heavier—but in the best way. They forced us to slow down and really assess what season we're in, what we're being asked to step into, and what might need to be released so we can move forward with clarity and unity. Vision isn't just about dreaming—it's about making room. We start wi...

In today's episode, we're literally inviting you into our anniversary getaway. Yes… we are sitting in a hotel room, journals spread out everywhere, soaking in the fact that we've been married 27 years. And honestly? We're still learning, still growing, and still asking God to show us what's next for our marriage. We've had so many people ask us lately, "What's your secret? How have you stayed marr...

What would you say to the "year 1–5" version of your marriage? In this conversation, Joe and Shelby look back over 27 years together and share three lessons they wish they'd known at the start—practical, heart-level shifts that would've saved them from a lot of unnecessary conflict and helped them grow faster, together. 1) Listen for understanding (not for your turn to talk). Joe shares how, in th...

Sometimes, the most powerful lessons come not from a sermon or a book, but from a simple moment of quiet observation. In this heartfelt episode of Redesign Your Marriage, Joe and Shelby share a story that stopped them in their tracks—a father carrying his disabled teenage son into a hotel pool, and the sacrificial love that radiated from that moment. This episode is more than a touching story—it's...

Ever had one of those days where everything goes wrong before the vacation even starts? In this real, raw, and (now) hilarious episode of Redesign Your Marriage, we're sharing the unexpected emotions, high tension, and spiritual growth that came from a recent trip that didn't go as planned. After missing a flight to Cabo due to a series of delays (and misjudgments), Joe and Shelby found themselves...

As 2024 comes to a close, we're taking a moment to reflect on what worked well for us this year. In this episode of Redesign Your Marriage, we dive into the practical changes and intentional actions that strengthened our marriage, family, and personal lives. From weekly check-ins to creating memorable moments with our kids, we share the wins and lessons that shaped this year. If you're looking for...

In this episode, we explore the powerful impact of investing in your children's education and the legacy you're building through intentional parenting. We'll unpack: Guiding your child's path with wisdom: How to train up a child in the way they should go, focusing on their unique purpose (Proverbs 22:6). Balancing discipline and encouragement: The biblical approach to raising children without frus...

In this episode, we dive deep into the heart of marital communication by exploring the key pillars of physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. We'll unpack: How to align and support each other's physical health aspirations. The essential needs that fuel emotional fulfillment in your relationship. Ways to nurture and grow together spiritually, fostering a deeper bond. With expert advice, rela...

In this insightful episode of "Redesign Your Marriage," we dive deep into the vital role friendships play in a thriving marriage. We explore a unique perspective on categorizing relationships as leaf, branch, and root connections, each serving a distinct purpose in our lives. We discuss how leaf people represent casual acquaintances, branch people are those we've shared experiences with, and root...

In this episode of "Redesign Your Marriage," we delve into the transformative power of friendship within marriage and how it serves as a cornerstone for a thriving relationship. Join us as we explore three insightful tips to help you identify the stage of friendship you are in with your spouse, and learn how to foster healthy friendships that enhance your marital bond. We'll also discuss the warni...

Welcome to Redesign Your Marriage, in this episode, we delve into actionable strategies to enhance empathy within marriage, drawing from timeless biblical principles and modern psychological insights. From active listening techniques to cultivating compassion and validation of emotions, "Empathy in Action" provides couples with the tools and guidance they need to navigate the complexities of marri...

Welcome to Redesign Your Marriage, where we dive deep into the intricacies of relationships and marriage. In this episode, we dive into the profound importance of authenticity and transparency in the sacred bond of marriage. Join us as we explore the transformative power of removing masks and embracing the flaws and imperfections that make each partnership unique. Joe and Shelby passionately empha...

On this podcast of Redesign Your Marriage, we explore the transformative journey of letting go, holding life with open hands, and navigating the various seasons of marriage and motherhood. In this episode, we delve into the art of releasing expectations, embracing change, and redesigning our relationships to thrive in every season. From the challenge of becoming empty nesters to the diverse experi...

In this episode on Redesign Your Marriage, we dive into the transformative concept that Focus is Power. In this dynamic podcast, we explore the profound impact of maintaining focus on our marriage, faith, and personal growth. We believe that the strength of our connection lies in our ability to remain focused on our shared goals and Christ-centered values. Together, we share insights, personal sto...

Welcome to Redesign Your Marriage podcast! In this episode we are discussing Parenting in the Digital Age,' where we navigate the intricate landscape of raising children amidst the challenges of technology. In this podcast, we intertwine biblical wisdom with practical insights to guide parents in instilling strong values, modeling healthy digital habits, and using technology as a powerful teaching...

Welcome to this episode where we cover the importance of self care in your marriage. In this episode we will embark on a journey of self-care intertwined with spiritual growth. Tune in for biblical wisdom, heartfelt discussions, and uplifting stories that guide you and your spouse toward a sacred dance of self-love, mutual care, and a closer walk with God in your marriage. Hit play and join us as...

In our Redesign Your Marriage podcast we want to cover topics that no one else is talking about and in this episode we are tackling mental health and your marriage. We know that mental health issues can significantly impact the dynamics of a marriage and the quality of the marital relationship can influence an individual's mental well-being. In this episode we discuss three tips to manage the inte...

In this episode we discuss how to deal with external stresses as we know it can put strain on your marriage. We discuss the the effects it has on marriage and some effective strategies.  Couples can navigate these challenges together and emerge even stronger.   The three tips to manage external stresses that we discuss are:   Open and Honest Communication: Teamwork and Joint Problem-Solving Seek E...

​Welcome back to the Redesign Your Marriage podcast. Have you ever experienced some of these most common causes of power struggles in your marriages include disagreements over finances, household chores, parenting styles, and intimacy. In this podcast we will talk about all those power struggles and more. We unveil the truth behind how you can achieve a power union, instead of the constant battle...

Are you tired of having the same conversation with your spouse when it comes to money in your marriage? Do you try to avoid the conversation all together? Then you will want to listen to this podcast. We provide 3 practical tips on how to finally get on the same page when it comes to your money. Stop living paycheck to paycheck and start pursuing all God has for your marriage and money. Start purs...

In the podcast episode we uncover the reason why you may have hurt and offense in your marriage that you just can't seem to get past. We dive deep into the discussion of why staying in integrity with your spouse is a must at all times. We also uncover the reason we make excuses in our marriage everyday to keep living the same way and doing the same thing and calling it a good marriage when in fact...

Welcome to the Redesign Your Marriage Family, this is part two of the podcast we are doing on the changing seasons of life. In this episode we discuss a place we have all found ourselves that messy middle. We provide some tools that help you get unstuck and move from that messy middle to the miracle on the other side of hard. LINKS: ● www.redesignyourmarriage.com   Quick Episode Summary:  The seas...

Welcome to the Redesign Your Marriage family. Today we are breaking down some ways we have discovered and relied on when experiencing some of the craziest, hardest seasons in our life and our marriage.   LINKS:  www.redesignyourmarriage.com Quick Episode Summary: Handling the changing seasons We are officially almost empty nesters  Every season can come with mixed emotions Learning how to change t...