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Send us Fan Mail Jared and Melissa discuss what they term the "unfolding" which is getting to the point where you are comfortable showing up as yourself in the world.  Getting past living life for validation of others.  The idea of "going first" is explored as well as finding communities where it is safe to do so.   

Send us Fan Mail Melissa and Jared discuss the concept of the predator.  When we are small we make deals to keep ourselves safe.  As we grow up the predator feeds on the energy of those promises when they don't work in the current context.  We have to use our adult self to identify and break those old promises and make new agreements that fit our current context.  Jared and Melissa share pers...

Send us Fan Mail Melissa and Jared talk about the polarity between the masculine archetype and the feminine archetype.  Compares to the Jungian concept of the Anima and Animus.  We must wake up to the one end of the polarity that is operating within us, or we can’t see the other end of the polarity.  Healthy development of both is discussed.  

Send us Fan Mail Melissa and Jared speak to the body and how the society socializes us to be disembodied.  We look at the body as something to be ignored or shaped to fit a certain image that really makes the body an enemy.  How we learn to listen to what the body has to say is discussed and several examples given.  Authenticity without embodiment is performance.   The body can hold what arises. ...

Send us Fan Mail The Vessel.  Pulling from the concepts of alchemy as identified by Carl Jung.  When experiences happen, when those images come from soul we need to create a container that we can hold these experiences in.  Like a beaker in a chemistry experience, there are three qualities this container, this vessel, must have: 1) Clarity -awakening to what is going on.  Putting a name to the exp...

Send us Fan Mail Melissa and Jared explore the call.  The soul speaks to us using images, imagination, and dreams.  If we pay attention to the images that arise in our consciousness, we will start to gain a deeper understanding of what the soul is trying to say to us.  "How we are with the image, affects how freely the images feels to show itself."--Frances Weller.  We have to slow down...

Send us Fan Mail Melissa and Jared cover the topic of "The Wound."  There is a discussion about approaching the wound, verses managing the symptoms that are uncomfortable. With enough experience the Soul acquires a wound that is meant to awaken us.  The wound does not need a origin story.  Some personal examples are shared.  "We want to not fix what is broken, but to have what is br...

Send us Fan Mail Jared and Melissa talk about another line of defense that can keep us asleep and that is the story we tell about ourselves.  The energy around the "should" may allow us to see lives and stories in a new way, and because we are the narrators of our story we can tell the story in a different way.   The suggestion of living life as an improvisational actor rather then an ac...

Send us Fan Mail Melissa and Jared talk about the concept of the Inner Critic.  A model of soul development is introduced where we go from Essence, to Ego, to Encapsulation and ultimately try to move to Expansion.  An earlier version of ourselves creates a set of rules and an operating system in order to survive.  As we get older a voice develops that keeps us encapsulated into the person we think...

Send us Fan Mail Jared and Melissa share how we are asleep in so many ways.  How can we tell if we are asleep and how do we wake up?  And why would we want to wake up if life seems to be going okay?  

Send us Fan Mail What keeps us stuck in mistyping? Head Types and ADHD, aka Melissa cries on the internet again. :) Email us at redrockenneagram@gmail.com

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Send us Fan Mail Today is part two of our new trip around the enneagram from a neuroscience perspective. If you missed part one last week, be sure to listen.. we talk all about enneagram 8s, 9s and 1s.  Today we are talking all about the heart patterns (enneagram 2s 3s and 4s) and heads patterns  (enneagram 5s, 6s, and 7s.) As always, thanks for listening and we hope you enjoy this episode 

Send us Fan Mail What is the gift of your pattern? What does it look like when that pattern becomes rigid?  What is the gift of your pattern from a neuroscience perspective?  What does it look like when that pattern becomes more flexible?  Email us at redrockenneagram@gmail.com

Send us Fan Mail Ipek has been working with the enneagram professionally for over 20 years.  She recently had the courage to take a second look at her type.  Today she tells us what that process was like for her and breaks down some common misconceptions of the type 3 pattern. Can Threes be spiritual and goal oriented?  Difference between type 3 and 7.  Deceit and Type 3.  How 3s connect.  How to...

Send us Fan Mail Neuroscientist Dan Siegel's research and new book (Personality and Wholeness in Therapy) has really rocked our world. Today we begin to share what we're learning! Is your enneagram type nature or nurture? Should we be saying the word type? Playground vs. Prison? Email: redrockenneagram@gmail.com Info About Enneagram Circles Here Still struggling to find your type? Book a...

Send us Fan Mail You've seen the movie, now let's talk type. :)  We want to hear your theories! Email us at redrockenneagram@gmail.com ---- Stay tuned for new content and podcast rebrand!

Send us Fan Mail We miss you!  We have been taking a deep dive into all things typing, and it is rocking our world. We are learning so much, and can't wait to continue to share more.  Today's episode: -Why is finding your type so hard?  -Why we are changing our stance on helping people find their type.

Send us Fan Mail A month ago, I started meeting with a new enneagram coach. She starts all of her clients with a very thorough typing session. So, as standard proceedure, she did a two hour typing session with me.  At the end of the session she said, "I don't think you're a Type 7." ...insert internal scream.... (And.. she was right.)

Send us Fan Mail We are back with another Type Interview! Kristen is a Type 9. She has done her Enneagram work, and she has so much wisdom to share! She shares about the following things: Waking up to her anger and how that has helped her connect with God. The sturdy comfort of coming home to her body, and discovering what's true there. How that place of truth and integrity has helped her con...

Send us Fan Mail What is my ego fixation? Why is it so hard to let it go?  What will I lose by letting go of my attachment? Today Jared and Melissa answer a question from a listener: "I'm beginning to become aware of my patterns, but I can't change them. Why is this so hard?"  Today we discuss our ego fixations, letting go of control, and the humble willingness it takes to beco...

Send us Fan Mail Today our guest is Aubrey Chaves.  Aubrey is an Enneagram 2. Just as a refresher, The Enneagram Two is called the Helper. They need to be needed and liked. They are naturally helpful and accommodating, but struggle with feeling unwanted, unworthy or unloved.  Aubrey’s enneagram journey coincided with a painful crisis of faith.  She talks about deconstructing her ideas about a God...

Send us Fan Mail We have another interview for you today with my friend, Brenna Kimber.  Brenna is a six on the enneagram.  As a quick reminder an Enneagram six is called the loyal skeptic. They are responsible, group minded, and very loyal. They also tend to struggle with trusting themselves and other people, and this  can cause some anxiety and hyper vigilance, and thinking of in terms of worst...

Send us Fan Mail Melissa here.  As I’ve been working as a coach, I’ve noticed a lot of people struggling with their faith. Some people experience this as a crisis, others are experiencing  new questions or doubts, others have family members who are having a painful experience in the church and it’s making church hard.  I’ve noticed some patterns when in comes to enneagram types, and going through...

Send us Fan Mail Today we’re talking to my dear friend, Lindsay Alder!  Lindsay is a 4 on the Enneagram, and today she’s sharing what’s it is like to be deep diving in that rich emotional world of an enneagram 4.  She talks about how relationships can get tricky when people don’t know how to meet you in that space, and how the Enneagram has helped her navigate the the tension between being true to...