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Jeffrey and Troy are back after a long hiatus. In this episode, they talk about how "precious things come in ugly wrappings". They provide their life experiences and knowledge of 12 step principles to convey that sometimes good things can come out of bad circumstances. They emphasize spirituality as the bedrock for a sober, God centered life free from their addictions. We hope you enjoy...

In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy discuss the often confusing nature of what it is that Higher Power wants for us in this life. Higher Power certainly does not want us to be in constant pain and anguish because of acting out in our sex and porn addiction. Is there a better way? Yes, there is. Higher Power always has a plan. Jeffrey and Troy discuss how they have come to realize and carry out Highe...

In this episode, Jeffrey gets into how taking the next right action immediately after acting out helped him bounce back from his relapse with "social media porn". Taking the next right action is a common recovery slogan, and it is common because of how well it works. If we just acted out, or are in fear that we are about to, distracting ourselves by taking the next right action is the sh...

In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy discuss one of the most dangerous character defects: Denial. Denial holds all of us back from true sobriety in our recovery, especially sex and porn addiction. If we are in denial, we are not able to face the daily challenges that will inevitably pull us back into the grip of active addiction. Jeffrey explains how denial and pride have held him back from the sobri...

Ep 42 - To God, to Ourselves and to another Human Being In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy discuss the depth behind this phrase within the fifth step, and how to apply this thinking to our daily life in recovery. Addiction is a threefold disease: the allergy of the body, the obsession of the mind, and the spiritual malady. So we have a threefold solution: receving support from God, ourselves, and a...

Jeffrey and Troy talk about how in 12 step programs, we are encouraged to define our own conception of our higher power. Nobody will force on you a certain belief system in 12 step programs, which is a relief to many newcomers. They discuss how their own conceptions of God have changed over the course of their recovedy journey, touch on atheism in recovery, as well as give advice to newcomers who...

In this epsiode, Jeffrey and Troy discuss the somewhat touchy subject of day count. Day count in AA or other substance abuse programs represents a tangible metric of sobriety. But what about in the Sex and Porn addiction space? Day count can be somewhat difficult to determine because there are so many behaviors that may be unhealthy for us, rather than simply one thing. Jeffrey and Troy share thei...

In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy share their experience around the idea of "wearing life like a loose garment". Sometimes taking a step back to recover from life, and even from "recovery fatigue" is important. To stay sober, we also have to live our lives, do our work, and pursue our interests, as well as embrace the 12 step tools. Jeffrey and Troy discuss the importance of fi...

In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy are accompanied by the legendary Bill and Doctor Bob, straight from 1935. The four of them discuss the sixth step, and what it means to be "entirely ready". This step is often overlooked, but it is critical in overcoming the character defects that keep us mired in our addictive behaviors. Even in sobriety, these defects can prevent us from living a conte...

Jeffrey and Troy discuss how the internet has dramatically changed the landscape of access to sexually stimulating content. The internet is a dangerous place for sex and porn addicts, and the two discuss their experiences around how to define stimulating content as "porn", and admit powerlessness over ALL of it. Whether or not it would normally be considered pornography. Send us an anony...

Jeffrey and Troy discuss the benefits of a creative practice to help us stay free from our addictive behaviors. When we are living our lives and creating, we stay away from isolating and self-destruction. Send us an anonymous text message letting us know enjoy the show! Standard texting fees apply. If you have suggestions for future episodes or questions, feel free to email us at info@recoverynerd...

Jeffrey and Troy discuss the dangers of how our addiction continues to progress, getting worse and worse. Because of that, we need our recovery to be equally progressive; engaging deeper each day to improve our quality of life and reach closer towards maintaining the state of serenity that our higher power wants for all of us. Send us an anonymous text message letting us know enjoy the show! Stand...

In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy, along with their esteemed guest Bill W, discuss the important slogan of “shame to grace”. They touch on how shame drags us back into the addiction, and how we find hope in recovery and gain the grace we need to stay sober from our higher power. Send us an anonymous text message letting us know enjoy the show! Standard texting fees apply. If you have suggestions f...

Jeffrey and Troy discuss the important of outside help. Outside issues are generally discouraged from discussion in 12 step meetings, but that doesn't mean that outside factors can't supplement our recovery. Jeffrey and Troy discuss how medication, therapy, religion, and other topics aid in their ability to stay sober one day at a time. Send us an anonymous text message letting us know e...

In this episode, Jeffrey and Troy discuss the importance of trusting God (Higher Power) in our everyday lives as addicts. No matter what challenges life throws our way, we can get through it unscathed with the help of Higher Power. However, trusting God is not easy. In fact it can be very, very difficult. Jeffrey and Troy share their journeys around how they try their best to trust God in everyday...

Jeffrey and Troy discuss the importance of prioritizing recovery, and treating it as the most important thing in our lives. It has been said that "anything we put before our recovery, we will lose anyway". Tune into this episode for some experience, strength, and hope. Send us an anonymous text message letting us know enjoy the show! Standard texting fees apply. If you have suggestions f...

Dr. Jeffrey and Mr. Troy discuss the importance of consistency in recovery versus intensity. Sometimes people think it's best to hit 3 meetings every day, but why not hit a meeting a day first? They allude to athletic training where consistency is more useful than the intensity of a workout. The same applies for recovery as well. Send us an anonymous text message letting us know enjoy the sho...

Jeffrey and Troy discuss why the 12 steps are the backbone of the program. 12 step recovery groups are not just accountability groups. They offer mentorship, fellowship, and a "design for living that really works". Most people don't need a book to teach them how to live, but we certainly did.  The twelve steps have been helping addicts of all varieties get sober ever since their con...

Jeffrey and Troy discuss the importance of Sponsorship as a must-have tool to assist in our 12 step addiction recovery. It has been said "if I don't have a sponsor, I'm sponsoring myself", and I certainly don't know what I'm doing. They discuss the role of a sponsor and what it's like to be a sponsor and a sponsee. Send us an anonymous text message letting us kno...

Jeffrey and Troy finally meet for the first time at a sexual recovery 12 step retreat. They have a candid conversation reflecting on the retreat, asking probing questions about each other, and sharing from a place of sincerity and vulnerability. This is our longest episode by far because we wanted to give you a lot of content to digest. Thanks for supporting us in our first year of the podcast 🙏....

Troy and Jeffrey talk about what they consider to be the difference between abstinence and sobriety. Often times these terms are used interchangeably. But what does it really mean to be sober, and feel free from addictive cravings? Send us an anonymous text message letting us know enjoy the show! Standard texting fees apply. If you have suggestions for future episodes or questions, feel free to em...

Jeffrey and Troy discuss how change is to be expected in the recovery process. We change home meetings, sponsors, even 12 step programs. Nothing is necessarily constant in recovery. Sponsees disappear, good friends leave program. But Jeffrey and Troy share how they have undergone changes in their recovery and how it is ultimately for the better in the end! Send us an anonymous text message letting...

Jeffrey and Troy discuss the part of the eleventh step that mentions our need to maintain conscious contact with our higher power. The eleventh step reads: "Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understand God,  praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry it out". Jeffrey and Troy discuss their experiences mai...

Jeffrey and Troy discuss their prayer practices and how important dedication to prayer is to sustain sobriety in 12 step addiction recovery programs. Send us an anonymous text message letting us know enjoy the show! Standard texting fees apply. If you have suggestions for future episodes or questions, feel free to email us at info@recoverynerdpod.com! We're on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon,...

Jeffrey and Troy discuss how to keep a mindset that helps us stay positive despite setbacks in recovery, and how letting go of negativity can help us stay sober from our addictions! Send us an anonymous text message letting us know enjoy the show! Standard texting fees apply. If you have suggestions for future episodes or questions, feel free to email us at info@recoverynerdpod.com! We're on...