RecoverU | Betrayal Trauma, Betrayal Recovery, Porn Addiction Recovery, Relationships, Infidelity

HOW do I make a decision about my marriage after betrayal? I feel stuck?    After we have experienced the pain of betrayal, it's normal to feel scared and overwhelmed. Kylene walks you through some things to think through as you work through this decision as she normalizes the ups and downs of the recovery and reconciliation process.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with K...

Can I just read books, listen to podcasts, and navigate recovery by myself? Humans are designed for connection and community is often what helps us feel more grounded, more safe, more secure, and it even has positive benefits for our mental health. All things that ultimately benefit recovery whether you are a betrayed spouse recovering from the trauma of discovery, or a partner navigating recovery...

Betrayal is incredibly traumatic and painful. Recovery as an addict means feeling difficult emotions. When a couple commits to the process, will it ever be worth it?   Today, Kylene and Patrick share some of the benefits they have experienced by really committing to recovery every step of the way and how facing your fears can ultimately provide some of the best growth you experience in life.   If...

What does it look like to CHOOSE healing? What does it look like to express empathy to your partner?   Patrick answers these questions and shares why choosing healing and expressing empath  to your betrayed partner is important as part of your recovery journey.    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free co...

Working through recovery as a sex or porn addict can feel overwhelming, especially at first. You might wonder, can I DO this? Can I ever be truly free?   Today, Patrick shares 5 healthy mindsets to help you succeed through recovery!   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr....

This is part 5 of a series where we share tools and resources to support you as you move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.   These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.   In this episode we discuss how and why group support and 1:1 coaching or therapy is so helpful for both the betrayed partner and the addict...

Today is part 4, of a  5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.    These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.     In this episode we discuss the benefits of journaling, how it helps bring awareness to patterns, assists in recovery, and benefits long term hea...

Today is part 3, of a  5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.     These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.     Many of these tools are created or inspired by Dr. Ted Roberts who created the Conquer Series which we highly recommend. You can purchase this...

Today is part 2, of a  5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery.   These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.   Many of these tools are created or inspired by Dr. Ted Roberts who created the Conquer Series which we highly recommend. You can purchase this reso...

Today we begin a 5 part series on daily tools and resources to use to move from discovery, to sobriety, to recovery. These tools can be used to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors, sex addiction, porn addiction, or other.   In this episode we discuss technology blockers, a daily scales used to begin identifying sobriety risk and recovery status, and the feelings wheel which as...

What is the step by step process to recovery? What if my husband isn't an addict but there has been some type of infidelity or porn use? How do we recover our relationship after betrayal? Today, Kylene and Patrick walk you through the exact steps they recommend couples and individuals take to begin the healing process whether or not it's an addiction.   watch Patrick’s testimony starting at 38:21...

Saying the words "I am a sex addict", or, "my husband is a sex addict" can feel like some of the scariest, most daunting words you will ever utter. Individuals and couples navigating this landscape carry a lot of shame and part of recovery is processing and working through that shame so that it's no longer something you have to carry with you. In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick share why they...

How do I know I I should stay in my relationship after discovering my husband is a sex or porn addict? Is it worth the effort?  Deciding if you want to reconcile a relationship after betrayal takes time. In today's episode Kylene and Patrick share their thoughts on how to pursue a healthy life and things to think through when determining if a relationship is, or can be, healthy.   If you are a bet...

Today Kylene and Patrick share how certain coaching techniques and exercises have helped them in their own healing journey. Patrick also answers questions from betrayed partners from his perspective as a sex/porn addict in recovery including: When did you realize you truly had a problem? When did you realize you needed assistance from a professional? How long until you personally felt control over...

Today Patrick answers questions from betrayed partners from a recovery addicts perspective including: Is there any point where you think your betrayed partner could not worry about a slip or relapse anymore? What is it like when your spouse (the betrayed partner) questions you, especially in the beginning of discovery? Is the polygraph worth doing? Are there any cons of NOT doing a disclosure for...

Have you ever noticed that the addict parter feels great as soon as they get into sobriety but the betrayed partner feels horrible as they fall deeper into the trauma of betrayal? This is the dichotomy of healing and this is what Kylene and Patrick discuss in today's episode. It's a very real disconnect where one partner feels GREAT while the other partner feels sad, angry, depressed, hopeless, an...

Ever feel like you have a complicated brain? Do you feel frustrated with how it works? Kylene can relate. Todays episode is a personal episode where Kylene and Patrick share some recent life updates including her recent diagnosis with ADD, their trip to Greece, OCD, and how they have navigated these experiences together.   If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1...

What is parts work? And how does it impact my recovery journey? Parts work (alternatively called internal family systems) is an approach that helps individuals identify parts of themselves (whether they are positive or negative) with compassion. Parts work offers a safe way to communicate on a subconscious level so that we can help our parts behave in healthy ways instead of acting our in unhealth...

Have you ever experienced intrusive thoughts? Do you feel guilty or like a bad person because you ruminate on things that go against your moral beliefs and you can't find a way out of this mental cycle?   Lily Sais is a former school psychologist who now coaches people how to recover from OCD, anxiety, panic and intrusive thoughts to live a life filled with mental health.   She shares the truth ab...

Are you feeling stuck in your healing? Or maybe you are beginning to identify unhealthy patterns in your relationship as you navigate recovery and begin to dig more deeply into through patterns and emotions.   In todays episode, Kylene and Patrick tackle 5 common lies that we are prone to believe and then share the TRUTHS that will set you free!   1. Telling the truth will hurt my spouse more than...

Amanda Testa is a sex and relationship coach who also supported Kylene own her journey through recovery.    In this episode Amanda shares her gentle, trauma informed approach to support individuals through their uncomfortable relationships with sex and sexuality.    Connect with Amanda at www.amandatesta.com Podcast: www.amandatesta.com/podcast/ Free Gift: www.amandatesta.com/thegoods/ If you are...

Is the idea of sex after betrayal scary? Or does sex feel ok, but looking into each others eyes feels to scary or intimate? Sex is a topic that is bound to come up when a couple is working through reconciliation and recovery from sex/porn addiction and betrayal trauma. In today's episode Kylene and Patrick vulnerably share their own story fore-establishing intimacy, how traumatic being physically...

What does sex after betrayal and sex/porn addiction look like?  There are so many things to consider as a couple navigating recovery and reconciliation and when you are addressing sex and porn addiction the topic of sex and intimacy is bound to come up!  In todays episode, Kylene and Patrick break down some thoughts, recommendations and things to consider the first year of recovery around sex and...

How will I ever be able to trust again after my partner lied and manipulated to the point where I had no idea? Kylene and Patrick discuss what intakes to re-establish trust after betrayal and cover topics like honesty, consistency, disclosure, and both individuals committing to and investing in their own healing work. If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coac...

Does sex addiction mean they are a sex offender? Will he cheat again? Is he a horrible person? Many friends and family members struggle understand what sex addiction is, and how they can support a family member who is choosing recovery. This episode is designed to be sent to friends and family who want to learn more about the reality of addiction and recovery look like.  We offer several practical...