Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

Let's talk about what it takes to heal and rebuild trust after the devastating impact of infidelity. In this episode, we break down the critical steps for both the cheating spouse and the wounded spouse. You may be familiar with the main themes in this episode like the importance of open and honest communication and a no-contact rule. Other factors that fly under the radar, however, like what good...

If your spouse has had multiple affairs, it can be hard to believe they have truly repented. When is enough enough? This was the question from a listener named Greg: Dana, I am so thankful you are doing the series on affairs. As a man, it’s really hard to admit that my wife does not find me desirable. She has found love in the arms of another. The problem is she keeps saying that she’s sorry. I fo...

We're getting real about navigating through the mess of shame and blame in the aftermath of infidelity. It's a deep, emotional rollercoaster of an episode but so needed. So, buckle up, because it's about to get raw and honest. First off, it’s important to note that while either or both spouses may feel blame; shame is never productive. There is a stark difference between guilt and shame. Guilt say...

Today's question comes from one of my Instagram followers who wants some suggestions on how to get in the mood for sex. Low libido or lack of sexual desire is a very common issue. Here's the question:  I have a question about intimacy. I have a hard time getting in the mood for sex. This has been a recurring issue for me. I just don’t think I’ve ever had a high sex drive. But I want him to be happ...

As you deal with the shock of discovering your spouse’s infidelity, it can feel like a collision with a semi-truck, leaving you paralyzed, numb, and drowning in a sea of emotions. You have been traumatized. Your initial response to such devastating news can be paralyzing, leaving you grappling with disbelief, pain, and confusion. It’s a sensitive yet profoundly significant topic – navigating the a...

We're addressing a listener's question about having no feelings for her husband anymore. She still has some desire to rebuild her marriage despite feeling empty and detached. If you've ever felt similarly about your spouse, you, too, will benefit from what I share. I explain how to "reignite" the loving feelings for your spouse with three responses:  feelings, forgiveness, and faith. The fact is t...

A staggering 40% of marriages will experience Infidelity at some point, Inevitably, infidelity leaves clues. Here are 10 warning signs plus 12 bonus digital red flags to be aware of that a spouse might be having an affair in person or online. It’s a hard topic to discuss, but I want you to be aware of these potential adultery indicators that may need to be addressed sooner than later. The purpose...

Learning your spouse is having an affair is devastating. One of our listeners wants to know if she should confront the other woman her husband was unfaithful with. This is an honest and vulnerable question that many betrayed spouses have when they are trying to make sense of the infidelity. I am sharing my best relationship advice with this listener and hope that you, too, will find answers should...

We're starting a new series on how to rebuild your marriage after an affair. My hubby, Shaun, and I are telling our story of what caused us to be unfaithful in our marriage, what we learned, and what safety nets we've put in place to keep another affair from happening. Christian couples are not immune to adultery, unfortunately. Most marriages have little to no boundaries, so it's no wonder couple...

As we grow older, our desires often change. One of our listeners has changed her mind about having kids and wants to know how to tell her husband. This conversation is coming up more and more, especially with younger couples. It's one thing to decide not to have kids before getting married, but often, something changes when you see someone else's cute baby or realize your biological clock is ticki...

Welcome to the all-new "Rebuilding Us Marriage Podcast, formerly known as Real Relationship Talk.  I'm your host, Dana Che, marriage coach, and your guide on this journey to rediscovering the beauty and strength of your marriage. In a world where relationships are easily broken and discarded, this podcast is your lighthouse. All is not lost.  Join us as we explore the stories of couples who have o...

I am thrilled to share some incredibly exciting news with you. The podcast is undergoing a major rebranding to better serve our listeners and community. I am happy to introduce you to the all-new Rebuilding Us podcast! This decision came after lots of prayer, input, thoughts, more prayer, more thoughts . . . it was a process . There is significance in the naming of something. Real Relationship Tal...

We're bringing back one of your favorite conversations about conflict . . . specifically how to stop avoiding it and how to communicate confidently instead. In this encore episode, we're discussing why we avoid conflict and how our different upbringings play into this dilemma. Many people confuse peacemaking with avoiding conflict. I dispell this myth and so much more, helping you to finally step...

My hubby, Shaun, is back! We're engaging in a candid conversation about the fundamental needs of both men and women in marriage, shedding light on respect, security, and leadership within relationships. Sharing some of our personal stories and insights that can help couples foster a deeper understanding of each other's needs and strengthen their bond is what we're after.  Men can learn what women...

Today's episode is an oldie but goodie . . . one of your faves: relationship baggage. In this encore episode, I'm bringing us back to the conversation about relationship baggage and the toll its weight takes on our marriages and relationships. This episode previously aired in August 2023, but it's well worth a sweet repeat.  We're talking about five types of relationship baggage, how emotional bag...

Are you ready to have an awesome marriage? Transform your marriage into a flourishing and connected union by practicing these four secrets to cultivating an awesomely attentive marriage. Today, we're exploring key takeaways and four actionable tips for infusing your relationship with attentiveness, support, and joy. Having an awesome marriage takes work, but it’s good work. Great marriages don’t h...

In this farewell Faith Talks episode, we are discussing our goal to hear "well done" from God for stewarding well what He entrusted us with when we reach the end of our life’s journey. A well-known parable in scripture, found in Matthew chapter 25 emphasizes the significance of stewarding our time, talents, and resources well. The parable centers on a master who entrusts different amounts of respo...

In this episode, we're discussing what it means to be "aptly available" in a marriage. I outline five keys that can help take a marriage to the next level for couples already present and engaged in their relationships. I emphasize the importance of intentionality, curiosity, vocalizing appreciation, time-blocking, and praying together. Plus, I'm sharing some personal anecdotes and practical advice...

Have you ever wondered why it feels like God sometimes ignores our prayers? We just can’t wrap our heads around God's ways. I've been there, wondering why things don't seem to be going as planned. But there is one prayer that God always answers: the prayer for mercy. In this episode, we’re exploring the unwavering presence of mercy in the Bible and embracing the abundant mercy God offers us each d...

There are times in marriage when the connection between spouses starts to fade, leaving one or both feeling distant or even absent. Understanding the reasons behind this disconnection is crucial to finding the path back to a fulfilling and loving relationship In this episode, we address four common reasons for a spouse's absence and provide practical solutions to reignite the flame of connection....

DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE SPEAK LIFE AUDIO AFFIRMATIONS HERE. There is a beautiful Hebrew word Ezer Kenegdo that describes the concept of being a "Helpmeet" in the Bible. This characteristic reaches far beyond gender boundaries. Understanding its proper meaning helps us to discover the strength and purpose of women. Join me as I challenge common ideas and help you foster an understanding of the woman’s v...

It’s common in marriage to face issues that lead to apathy and eventually detachment. In this episode, I share helpful insights and practical steps to help couples overcome connection crises and rediscover their connection when the love has grown cold.  There are warning signs that exist when a person or couple is becoming apathetic. We'll discuss what apathy looks like in a relationship, its caus...

The Christian life can be hard at times. Can I get an amen? This episode will help you to hold fast to your faith during times of uncertainty. We must walk by faith in this journey filled with unpredictable twists and turns that test the very essence of what we believe. It’s easy to become despondent and get off course. It's during these difficult times that the concept of walking in faith becomes...

We're getting real about the struggles many couples face on Valentine's Day. I've been married for almost 25 years, so I know firsthand the challenges this holiday can bring, especially if your relationship is on shaky ground. I'm sharing five down-to-earth tips to help you navigate this tough time, from injecting some laughter into your day to confronting issues head-on and shaking things up a bi...

What happens when suffering comes? Often, we feel that God is against us or that we’ve done something wrong. In this episode, we explore conventional perspectives on suffering from the principles in the Book of Job in the Bible and other relevant scriptures. Understanding the purpose behind suffering and how faith can be a guiding light in our darkest times will help us to endure the suffering sea...