Rebuilding Us: Marriage Podcast

  Today, we’re talking about a different kind of AI: not artificial intelligence but “artificial intimacy.” Why do some people settle for inauthentic, shallow relationships instead of real ones? Drawing parallels between the impact of inauthenticity in relationships and the lack of uniqueness in AI-generated articles, I explained the irreplaceable value of genuine human connection. People choose n...

If you've ever loved someone struggling with addiction, you know how lonely and difficult a journey it can be. Today's question comes from a wife who wants to know what to do about her husband's drinking, especially since he won't admit he has a problem. I share four key points and a few resources with her in hopes of encouraging her to seek help for herself even if her husband won't seek help for...

Biblical submission has been misinterpreted and misunderstood for ages. Today, the topic can be taboo and controversial, which is why we’re going there! I want to bring a balanced viewpoint to a conversation that is worthy of another godly perspective. My husband, Shaun, is back for this episode, and we begin with a candid discussion about decision-making in marriage. How would you define the conc...

Submission in marriage is a controversial topic, especially among Christians. Should wives submit to their husbands in these days or is submission a thing of the past? A listener asked me this question, and I am addressing this topic on the podcast today. Scriptures such as Ephesians 5 can long be used to support women submitting to their husbands, so let's talk about it. Whether you believe that...

Do you ever find yourself triggered by the thought of not being enough? Perhaps you believe your abilities fall short, your self-worth is under attack, or your identity is somehow flawed. It's a pervasive feeling that can linger in our minds, affecting both our personal and professional lives. We’re getting into the nitty-gritty of combating those "I'm not enough" thoughts in this universal strugg...

Marriage counseling is a widely accepted way of receiving marriage help. However, marriage coaching is on the rise, and many couples have experienced lasting and effective results from this process. Today's podcast listener question comes from a guy who thinks his marriage is pretty good yet his wife feels they need marriage counseling. He wants to know the difference between marriage counseling a...

Prayer is fundamental to any healthy, Christian marriage, so why don't more spouses pray for their marriage? Weariness, disappointment, and apathy are all obstacles we must overcome to develop loving, resilient marriages. Today, I'm sharing five ways to pray for your marriage, using the acronym C.O.V.E.R. If you practice what you hear in today's episode, I am confident your marriage will exponenti...

Today's relationship question comes from a listener who wants to hear she's on the right track healing from the emotional damage of her husband's affair. In this episode, I share five key signs to know if you're on the right track from healing from any relational hurt. I liken healing emotionally to healing physically. The effects are very similar. Remember, everyone heals at a different pace, so...

A topic that comes up most often with my marriage coaching clients is what to do when your spouse is emotionally distant. We've covered this marriage issue before on the podcast but because it's an ongoing problem in many marriages, we're bringing it back for a "sweet repeat." If your spouse has a hard time explaining or even understanding their feelings, this episode will encourage you with steps...

Isn't it frustrating when you can't seem to agree on anything in your relationship? Today's question comes from a listener who wants to know how to get his point across without arguing with his spouse. Maybe you've wondered the same. I am sharing a very effective communication tool called the "mirror moment." This is when you explain to your spouse or partner how you feel and help them to do the s...

Rebuilding trust in your relationship when it has been damaged or destroyed may seem like an impossible feat. However, I believe there are 12 steps every marriage or relationship can benefit from when seeking to rebuild trust. Today's episode is a "sweet repeat" of episode 107 from July, 2022. These timeless truths will help any relationship with trust issues to get unstuck and begin the healing p...

When someone we love needs support, jumping into advice-giving mode is easy. Instead, we should ask these three powerful questions before dishing out solutions: Do you need a hug? Do you need help? Do you need to be heard? Beginning conversations with these questions deepens our connection and communicates respect, trust, and genuine concern. Recently, one of my marriage coaching clients shared th...

Today's Q&A is from a listener who believes their marriage is at a breaking point and needs advice on how to tell their spouse they want a divorce. Knowing little about the fallout of this marriage, I first encourage every couple in this situation to re-evaluate your marriage. Oftentimes, your marriage is not as far gone as you may believe. The fact that one spouse is asking how to tell their...

Many marriages face problems and losses that test the very fabric of their relationships. From communication breakdowns to deep-rooted conflicts, navigating through the complexities of a marriage can be difficult. But there is hope. In this episode, we will explore the crucial concept of tearing down and building up in the context of a struggling marriage. Ecclesiastes 3:3 says, “There is a time t...

In today's digital age, many affairs start online. Today's question is from a wife whose husband looks at semi-nude pics of women online and gets angry when she confronts him. This listener wants to know how to set boundaries with her husband to change his behavior. Take a listen as I explain how boundaries work in marriage and what she can do if her husband doesn't change his behavior.  Have a qu...

Have you ever wondered what happens in a marriage coaching session? Will and Jo, a husband and wife married for three years need help reconnecting after a separation. They willingly discuss the challenges that led them to separate and what they're doing today to make version two of their marriage work. Jo and her husband navigated through financial struggles, boundaries, and the complexities of a...

One of the most powerful ways to pray is to use the Word of God in your prayers. Scripture teaches us how to enact God's kingdom here on Earth in our lives, including our marriages. Today’s question comes from a listener who listened to another episode I recently shared about prayer and wanted to know how exactly to pray the Scripture over her marriage. Take a listen and employ this simple solutio...

I don’t know where you are in your marriage today, but I believe God led you to this episode for a purpose. If we’re honest, most married people have thought about divorce at some point in their relationship. Perhaps, right now, you might be about to file papers or maybe you desperately want to help a friend or loved one who is considering divorce.  Our culture says divorce is a necessary solution...

Whether you have a blended family or not, agreeing on how to parent the kids can be a challenge. Today's question comes from a listener who wants to know how to handle when his wife is too strict with the kids. He's tried bringing the issue to her attention but she gives him the silent treatment. Listen as I share three thoughts on how to agree with your spouse on values even when you disagree on...

Are you frustrated with a husband who isn't taking the lead spiritually in your marriage? In this episode, I provide practical, empowering solutions for wives, giving you the keys to unlocking spiritual intimacy and building a stronger, deeper connection with your husband. From fostering open conversations to offering support and love, I’m sharing three do’s and don’ts to help end the tension in y...

Have you ever experienced resentment or boredom in your relationship? A listener wants to know how to overcome feeling stuck between not wanting to be around her husband and not wanting to divorce him either. She acknowledges that while she's trying to work on communication, she's struggling to find motivation and is unsure about the next steps for her marriage. Listen in as we discuss how resentm...

Hormones are those sneaky, hidden chemicals that can wreak havoc on our bodies . . . and on our relationships. Our guest, Becky Yawn, is helping us understand why it's important that women, especially, understand how certain hormones affect our mood and communication. What if the conflict you're facing in your marriage is more than meets the eye? What if the internal changes in your hormones are p...

Carrying secrets in marriage can cause you to live in fear and disconnection. A listener asks if she should come clean about some shady behavior when she and her husband were on bad terms. The weight of carrying this secret is weighing her down. What should you do if you're keeping a secret in your marriage or relationship? Should everything be brought to the light or are some things better off hi...

All is not lost after an affair. You and your marriage can become more resilient and stronger from what could’ve destroyed you. Shame says, “You are damaged. You are bad.” But that is not true. You can truly rise above shame and have hope even after an affair. Shaun is back on the podcast today, and we’re discussing what we learned from our affairs. This conversation will help all who have been af...

Today's marriage advice is for a listener struggling with the feeling of complacency and stagnation in a long-term marriage. Here's the question she asked:  I really need good sound advice I've been with my husband for 25 yrs & I find myself thinking of a different life. Everything is the same ole same ole. Money is always tight. We work, come home, connected with our phones (more than each ot...