REALIFE Conversations from the Porch

There's no denying this season has been challenging!  In the midst of restrictions, cancellations, and even deep losses, I've still been looking for the extraordinary within the ordinary moments. For the past three weeks, I've been recovering from COVID and Pneumonia, and as I've taken time to rest and renew I've reflected on some gifts this season has brought.  In this episode, I'll share three o...

Has your vision blurred in 2020? It's time to refocus! Crafting a personal Vision Statement can make all the difference! In this episode, we'll walk step-by-step through creating your Vision Statement that is:  Honoring to both your being and your doing Future-Based Measurable and Sets you up to generate impact and income Let's move into 2021 with clear vision and congruency from the inside out to...

Are you ready to turn the page on the year 2020 and dive into 2021 with fresh intention? Choosing a Guiding Word for the Year is a practice we've been embracing for the past several years at the REALIFE Process®.  Some years, the word is obvious and comes easily, and other years, it takes some time–either way, to really embrace the exercise, discernment is involved.  In this week's episode, we'll...

There's no denying this year has been challenging and has taken us out of our regular routines and rhythms!  As 2020 comes closer to an end and we begin to look ahead, we are all ready for some time to– RESET | RENEW | REVIEW In this episode, we'll walk through 5 practical steps you can implement right away to take a look back and then look forward!  Rather than waiting for 2021 to arrive, once yo...

"We can't permanently change our results without changing our thinking." -Terri Johnson, REALIFE Process® Coach Through the lens of the Enneagram and the N.O.W. Process, we've learned that thoughts produce feelings, feelings drive actions, and actions or behaviors lead to results.  What would you give to have a tool you can take with you anywhere that helps you to notice your adaptive patterns and...

It's a milestone moment–we're celebrating 100 episodes of the REALIFE Process® Podcast and this week we're flipping the script!  In this episode, special guest host, Chris Niemeyer, interviews REALIFE Process® Creator, Teresa McCloy. We're going to rewind back to where the podcast began as Teresa shares about:  The impact of finding her niché voice in the marketplace Transitioning the podcast from...

"If you don't come apart for a while, you will come apart after a while." -Dallas Willard You don't have to go through life with your hair on fire–there is another way. Beyond building a framework to help you discover your REALSELF, manage your REALIFE, and do your most important work, there are the practices behind the REALIFE Process®, like that of retreat, that makes it all sustainable.  Creati...

What difference could it make to curb your addiction to busyness, hurry, and workaholism and learn to savor the moment?  The practice of slowing is an intentional way to overcome living with your hair on fire to shift toward enjoying the present moment to the full!  Together we'll explore the practice to notice:  How can slowing intentionally produce margin?  Tangible ways to apply the practice of...

As you review your day, for what are you most grateful? And for what are you least grateful?  Another practice behind the Process is the Examen–the rhythm of reviewing your day with intention.  In this week's episode, we'll explore:  What does the practice of The Examen look like practically? How does Time Blocking connect with this practice?  How can you incorporate The Examen into your Weekly Re...

What rhythms or practices are sustaining you these days? If you've ever flow on a plane, you've heard the flight attendant announcement, "Please put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others." And the truth is whether you're 35,000 feet in the air or on the ground, that's still sound advice.  Taking care of your self and your soul is imperative to living your best REALIFE and cultivating hea...

What is discernment and how is it different than decision making?  Discernment is a practice that " opens us up to listen to and recognize the voice and patterns of God's direction in our lives. " –Adele Calhoun As you're moving into this final quarter of the year, it's no small thing to consider what you value, the necessary action to move forward in your areas of focus, how you'll allocate your...

Do you need space to breathe? Creating margin or white space in your day can make all the difference.  Unfortunately, there's no indicator light that flashes when you've almost had enough and need breath, but there are ways to lean into paying attention to your head, heart, and body that will give you a signal that you need some space! What difference would it make in the midst of Time Blocking yo...

Time is one of our most valuable resources! How are you engaging the moments you have to take action and connect with those life-giving relationships in your circle?  One of the most unique of the four Time Blocks we apply through the REALIFE Process® is People Blocks.  In this episode, we'll explore: 5 Circles of Relationships to consider for these 90 days How your Enneagram Stance influences you...

Who's in your circle? There's nothing quite like being in life-giving community with others! As you think about spending time with others in this season, what comes up for you?  Whether you're going all in, carefully engaging with others, or feeling resistance, there's something to notice and much to gain by reframing the way you embrace community.  On this week's episode we'll talk about:  Findin...

Do you know what you really value? Take a look at how you're spending your time and you'll catch a glimpse of what you're currently valuing.  Are the things that are consuming your time, truly what you value? If not, it's time to take a pause and refocus your attention toward what matters most. On this week's episode of the podcast, we'll explore: The true definition of values  The relationship be...

No matter how organized your calendar is or whether you have it color-coded, if you're not living out your needs and values, you're still going to feel unfulfilled!  Often we trivialize the things that really matter to us–dismissing our needs and values to keep the peace and avoid conflict in our work and home relationships.  Knowing and naming your needs is such an important way of living FULL CI...

Welcome to the REALIFE Process® Podcast! You may be thinking, wait, what? I thought this was an Enneagram Podcast!  What we've discovered over the past 88 weeks is that we LOVE the tool of the Enneagram, but to bring you the best of all we've got, we've got to repackage it to bring you the FULL CIRCLE, complete experience! And who doesn't want that?  In order to bring greater congruency and help y...

Your life is unique. So, it only makes sense that your plan for living is different from that of everyone else! Over the past few episodes, we've been exploring the difference a Modern Day Rule of Life can make in living out your values and needs in sustainable ways.  We've considered what it means to COMMIT to a Rule of Life and CRAFT a Rule of Life and on this episode, we'll discover ways your R...

Are you tired of reading self-help books and striving to find the next great method or plan to organize your life? It can be exhausting and nothing seems to fit perfectly. I've been there and the struggle is REAL!  In order for a method or framework to be sustainable, it has to be crafted around your  story.  The REALIFE Process® is a framework that gives a foundation or scaffolding for you to bui...

The Enneagram is a valuable tool for self-discovery and when coupled with REALIFE application, it becomes more than just informational–it's transformational! This week on the podcast we're going to continue to broaden our exploration and look at how whole self awareness can be used to produce sustainable changes! Together we'll explore:  What is a Modern Day Rule of Life? How does behavior shape o...

How do you want to live, so that you can be who you want to be?  The Enneagram gives us great glimpses into how and why we think, feel, act, and react the way we do. Alone, it provides great whole self wisdom but combined with application into our everyday life, it allows our "doing" to reflect our best sense of "being." That's where the Enneagram becomes transformational! Designing a Modern Day R...

There's something about a full-circle moment!  This week on the podcast I'm excited for you to meet Esther Littlefield. Esther is a business owner, writer, podcaster, and a recovering perfectionist who loves personality profiles!  On this episode, she shares:   How the Enneagram has made a difference in her relationships and especially her marriage Her full-circle journey as a business owner and e...

Whether it was being the top candy bar saleswoman in her class as a young girl or raising 3.2 million dollars for the American Cancer Society, Mary Valloni has a heart for fundraising.  As an Enneagram Type 3, she loves to help missions and non-profits be efficient and effective in raising money to produce greater freedom to do the things that really matter.   On this episode, Mary shares about: C...

What is on your calendar? How you spend your time shows what you value. So, are your highest values showing up on your calendar? If not, it's time for a reset!  Depending on your Enneagram type and the center of intelligence you most naturally access, your approach to time differs. Developing a framework, like an intentional calendaring system can help provide the white space you need in seasons l...

When you hear the word "sales," what comes up for you–head, heart, and body? Notice your reaction without judgment, pause, and then take a deep breath! Mindset matters when it comes to sales and it doesn't have to feel sleazy! In fact, just shifting your perspective and approach to sales can help you embrace it as serving others and it can actually feel like love when you lean into it as your best...