Real Talk Friend Therapy: Honest Conversations, Advice + Tips For Stronger Adult Friendships

Making friends as an adult can feel overwhelming—but it's far from impossible. In this episode of our recurring series, #WhyAreWeFriends , Daysha explores the real-life origins of her closest relationships to better understand how meaningful friendships are formed and maintained. This week, Daysha reconnects with Kendall, her wifey for lifey from high school who she hasn’t lived in the same st...

Is it just Daysha or does even brunch feel like it’s gotten way more curated, aesthetic and high stakes lately? Are you someone who likes to show out when they plan a get together, but feel like people are all bailing on you at the last minute? Or are you the person who likes to say yes in the moment to an invite but then bail at the last minute? In this week’s episode, Daysha goes over: The diffe...

While it’s coming a little late, in honor of Women’s history month, Daysha decides to tackle the age-old question of whether or not men and women — and more specifically hetero men and women can ever truly be friends. While the question can seem silly and slightly regressive, Daysha invites her bestie, Becky Harris, to sit down and ponder with her since Becky has had a lot of successful male frien...

Contrast, as defined in The Law of Attraction by Michael J. Losier, is “anything you don’t like, doesn’t feel good, or causes you to be in a negative mood.” And when we live in contrast for too long — aka we observe people who make us feel negative, but continue to engage with them and give them our attention, then we are only inviting more negativity into our lives. In this week Daysha goes over:...

BESTIES! I know it's been a HOT minute since we've connected, and that season 2 ended rather abruptly. So for my first episode back, I wanted to give y'all some background on some of the drama that was going down in my life and spill some piping hot tea about my experience working on the immersive theater show, Brassroots District, that's going on in LA right now. And you know I ha...

When people talk about attachment styles in popular culture, it’s usually within the context of a romantic relationship. But understanding your attachment style can actually be super beneficial for your friendships as well. In this week’s episode, Daysha goes over: What the three major attachment styles are How we, as a culture, have been thinking about independence all wrong And how she learned h...

For our last episode in the friendship and money series, Daysha has a mini coaching session for y’all this week that dives into ways you can turn down group outings in a clear and kind manner when you don’t have the funds. In this episode she: Offers strategies on how to define your financial boundaries Walks you through a step-by-step example on how to say no and what to do when faced with push b...

Do your friends make more money than you? Or are you the friend who outearns their friend group? Regardless of where you fall, talking about money and budgets and limitations is already extremely stressful, but when you add friendship on top of it — it can really make or break some relationships. So, this week, Daysha sits down with licensed financial therapist, Aja Evans, to discuss: How to creat...

Welcome back to the second half of season 2, besties! For our first episode back, Daysha wanted to talk about her journey of being the “broke friend” for the last 11 months as she dealt with a long period of unemployment. Specifically, she’ll be discussing: The emotions that came up for her this time around How her conversations changed with her friends  And why being the “broke friend” is not as...

Hi y’all! I know it’s been a minute but Daysha has a quick life update and the Friendship Pain Point survey is now OPEN! Please fill out the survey so Daysha can learn more about you and how to best tailor future episodes to meet your needs. REFERENCES: Friendship Pain Point Survey RESOURCES: Want to hear new episodes 2 days early? Subscribe to our Patreon ! Looking for someone to talk to about th...

The time has come for our mid-season break! But before heading off into summer, Daysha wanted to offer up some coaching this week on how to make time for friendship since it is one of the biggest challenges for people when trying to make friends in adulthood. We’re always saying we’re too busy to hang out. But are we really, tho? Or are there other underlying emotions blocking us from finding the...

Over the last several years, there has been a cultural push in America for mothers and daughters to become best friends. For last week’s episode, Daysha sat down with a licensed therapist to get her take. So, this week she decided it only made sense to reach out to her mom to see if she ever had a desire to be best friends with her or her siblings. In addition to her mother, Angela, her sister, Er...

Happy almost Mother’s Day to all the mamas out there! With Mother’s Day coming up this weekend in the US, Daysha decided to use the next two episodes to explore this cultural trend she’s noticed over the years: mothers and daughters being “best friends.” This week, she sits down with licensed therapist Aaliyah Nurideen to discuss: Can mothers and daughters actually be best friends?  Is it healthy...

We all want friends, right? But have you ever thought about why you want them? Having healthy friendships is an important part of your wellbeing, and we go over in episode 8 how friendship impacts your mental health with a licensed therapist. But Daysha can’t help but notice how often people seem to be treating their friends more like accessories than people lately. Yes, vibing and taking cute pho...

Making friends as an adult can feel overwhelming—but it's far from impossible. In this episode of our recurring series, #WhyAreWeFriends , Daysha explores the real-life origins of her closest relationships to better understand how meaningful friendships are formed and maintained. This week, Daysha reconnects with Rachel, a close high school friend that she fell out of touch with after Rachel m...

In this powerful follow-up episode, Daysha continues the conversation about what it means to grow up without many (or any) friends of your own race—and how to authentically build those connections later in life. In part 1, Daysha shares how her upbringing brought her through a variety of spaces that allowed her to form diverse friendships throughout her life. But it wasn’t until she worked at Buzz...

Do you think your friendship would be able to survive an 1,100 mile trek through the deserts of the Middle East? Or that you’d both be able to write a book about it together afterwards? This week, Daysha sits down with Miles Spencer, half of the writing duo behind the Amazon bestseller, A Line in the Sand . They discuss how Spencer and his “adventure bestie,” Wells Jones, sought to better understa...

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses the topic of sexual assault, but features no graphic depictions. The National Sexual Violence Resource Center  reports that: 81% of women and 43% of men have reported experiencing some form of sexual harassment and/or assault in their lifetime One in three female victims of completed or attempted rape experienced it for the first time between the ages of 11...

With it being the beginning of March, which ushers in Women's History Month and International Women's Day, Daysha decided to chat with her favorite feminist bestie, Becky Harris, on what it means to be a "girl's girl" in 2025. How are we actually showing up for and supporting women in an intersectional way in 2025? What are we trying to communicate when we say another woman i...

With Black History Month coming to a close, Daysha wanted to explore how the race of our friends can impact how we are perceived by others. When it comes to BIPOC people who either have fewer or no friends of their race, the implication is often that they aren't [Black, Brown, Asian, etc.] enough, but how much truth is there to that assumption? And is it possible for us to exist in a world whe...

Happy Galentine's Day and almost Valentine's Day, besties! Have you been struggling with having romantic feelings for your best friend? Are you unsure about whether or not you should tell them? Well, Daysha has definitely been there and invites her BuzzFeed bestie, Curly Velasquez, on the podcast to discuss the pros and cons of revealing your feelings and risking your friendship for romanc...

BESTIES! The moment you've been waiting for is here. Season 2 has officially kicked off and for our first episode back, Daysha sits down with her bestie/producer and favorite white woman, Becky Harris, to discuss what it means to be in an interracial friendship in 2025. RESOURCES: Want to hear new episodes 2 days early? Subscribe to our Patreon ! Looking for someone to talk to about this week’...

Can you believe it's the end of season 1?! For the final episode of the season, Daysha decides to talk about a popular negotiation concept that she adapted for personal relationships within her book, Eat Your Way To Self-Confidence. With the new year quickly approaching, Daysha wanted to make sure that you have all the tools you need to make important decisions about your friendships and where...

Isn't it crazy how much we love when people are vulnerable with us, but we HATE being vulnerable ourselves? Vulnerability is key to deepening our friendships, but will it ever be possible to get comfortable with being vulnerable? This week, Daysha decides to sit down with licensed mental health counselor, Sharmishtha Gupta, to find out: Why is vulnerability so hard? Why do we think we look wea...

Mercury retrograde is upon us, y'all! And while it is commonly known for its chaos and delays, it is also a time that is best used for reflection and reconnection. So, this week Daysha does a light deep dive on what Mercury retrograde is, and how you can best use this time to reconnect with past friends or grieve and let go of the relationships that no longer serve you. REFERENCES ( As an Amaz...