Real Mother Fuckers

We’ve got our first dude on the show, ya’ll! In this episode we sit down with Ethan Gregory Dodge, the first dad to grace our podcast, for an intimate conversation on his decision to leave the Mormon Church and the impact it has had on his approach to parenthood. Join us as Ethan shares his past work with MormonLeaks, navigating life beyond the constraints of religious norms, and shedding light on...

The beautiful Mexican tradition, Día de los Muertos, or Day of the Dead, is a time for family and friends to honor and remember their loved ones who have passed and it is celebrated like a family reunion, with the deceased as special guests. Have you thought about the possibility of communicating with the dead? Join Vanessa and Steph as they explore the mystical and the maternal. They delve into t...

For our Halloween episode, we’ve got spooky stories for you! As a mom podcast many of you listen only but this time you should check us out on video to SEE our crazy costumes – on Spotify or Youtube!  In this episode of our parenting podcast, we shine a spotlight on the unspoken fears that keep us awake at night. Join us as we explore the deepest, most authentic concerns of motherhood, and life, w...

One of our previous guests is back on our pod to tell more of her story.  She is a survivor of child abuse, domestic abuse, and an eating disorder. She told us the story about how she was locked in a dark room and sex trafficked for 6 weeks. After her escape, she did not tell authorities what happened to her. Her perpetrators are still out there. But, to her, it does not matter. She said, “justice...

Steph is one of those moms where you ask yourself… how the heck does she do it all?! She is a woman of many hats and does it with grace. She’s a mother of 3 boys, wife of a US Marine, chef, water polo coach, aspiring real estate agent, and activist. This episode dives into what it’s like to be a military wife and the experience of many months-long deployments. What is it like for partners to spend...

Steph and Vanessa became moms in their 30s, well into adulthood, and that shit was hard enough. What is it like to be a mom as a teenager? Stephanie Martinez shares her story about being pregnant her senior year of high school, in 2000. She reveals how her parents reacted to the news, how she fought for her sense of normalcy to finish out her high school career, and what it was like to raise her s...

Our vulvas, vaginas, labias, coochies, yonis – whatever you call it – need love, too. Many of us spend a solid amount of time taking care of our faces and hair. We exercise our bodies, moisturize our skin. Have you ever thought about giving your privates devoted self-care?  This isn’t about self-pleasure (if that’s what you’re looking for, listen to Lola + sex, part 1 + 2). This pod is about takin...

DESCRIPTION “It’s not a fight. It’s a puzzle.” Steph and Vanessa love it when someone gives them an entirely new perspective on a topic. Jessica Richer did just that.  Jessica joined the pod to talk about competing as a cage fighter, owning a Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu gym, and being a mom of 2. Mixed martial arts (MMA) is, no doubt, a physical feat. Jessica reminds us that size and strength are a factor...

This one is a mixed bag so come and join Steph and Vanessa as they sort through it all. Veronica is an independent smart mama, and career woman with a storied life.  The gals cover a lot of different topics so be sure to listen to each chapter. First, she’s a mother who conceived her baby in a very unconventional way. Plus, she has a crazy working while breastfeeding and pumping story. Second, she...

Description: This week’s guest holds a position in a demanding, selfless, and courageous profession where some days all she does is put out fires. This sounds a lot like being a mother, doesn’t it?! She is a mom AND she literally fights fires for her job. Kelley Delotch is one of less than 5 percent of female career firefighters in the US. Living in California, a fire state, you can imagine Kelley...

"The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing." Socrates Listen up, Real Mother Fuckers. Its OK to not know everything. In fact, it's cool if you don't know much. When Steph and Vanessa started this podcast, they didn't know what they didn't know and look, they're still standing! Or... technically, sitting on a brown couch. But they're here to tell you what...

We love a love story. This one comes from Melissa Staricka, who was fostered and adopted as a baby. We often hear about sad and tragic stories about a failed foster system, about how it’s incredibly hard for parents to adopt, or how many children never get placed in a safe home. Yes, these do happen, unfortunately. But you can find trust in the good — there are positive foster and adoption stories...

Victims of human trafficking are often left in the dark, voiceless, and completely unseen by society. Vanessa and Steph shed light on the topic by sharing the story of a sex trafficking survivor. She has entrusted them with telling her story for the very first time on this podcast. Listen with an open heart and an open mind. For the safety of their guest, she will remain anonymous and this episode...

According to the CDC, as of 2023, around 1 in 36 children in the U.S. has been diagnosed with autism.  This week, Vanessa and Stephanie learn about autism from Luana Barajas, a mother of 3, middle school teacher, and author. Your co-hosts admittedly did not know very much about autism so they were grateful to learn more about it with an open heart and mind. They learn about masking, stimming, and...

Lola is back, bitches. Hang out with the ladies to talk about dom vs. sub roles, no whips needed. Thanks to pop culture, Steph and Vanessa envisioned dom/sub talk to be all about leather gear, tying each other up and kink but, thanks to Lola, she expands our minds beyond this discussion. Let’s talk about sex in more realistic ways, how our roles in the home also affect our roles in our sexual rela...

For complex, uncomfortable and serious topics, awareness is often the first step to understanding and healing. This is why we started this podcast.  Join Steph and Vanessa’s conversation with Diana (Di) Bamford about her experience with Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADs), including severe postpartum depression, anxiety, PTSD, and OCD. Inspired by her personal struggles, Di made it her mi...

Join Vanessa and Steph as they have an honest chat with Suzy Yatim Aslam, who wrote the book Post Pardon Me. For those moms on the go, give it a listen on Audible and hear Suzy’s wonderful storytelling voice! What Suzy has to share is real, raw, and an honest take on what can go on in a new mother’s mind postpartum. Her book is written in the form of journal entries, using candid language and dark...

Did you know the preferred age to take children on vacation in the U.S. is between the age 6 and 9 ? Taking your toddler or teen on the vacation you spotted on Instagram may not have the outcome you were expecting. Or maybe it’s about having realistic expectations.  When you go on vacation with kids, do you need a vacation from your vacation? We see you, we feel you, and we’ve got you. In this epi...

Lola L'Amour joined Steph and Vanessa to chat about the thing that’s often on our minds but we don’t talk about enough. Sex! Have you asked your friend lately, “how’s your sex life?” You might be surprised with how initiating this conversation with your femme friends can turn out to be a great topic.  Lola discusses ways to improve or change your sex life. Tools and toys? Optional. A better se...

Remember when Vanessa and Steph talked about their birth stories in " What the birth ?" This sparked their interest in talking to experts in the labor and delivery field. They speak with the smart, funny, and very candid Hilary Erickson, a.k.a. The Pregnancy Nurse⁠ ®. The ladies talk about how to create your hospital birth plan, what to do and what not to do while in the hospital, and ju...

This week, guest Winter Redd helps listeners better understand stillborn and infant loss from her own story. Winter’s son, Brannan was stillborn at 38 weeks. She and her husband, Lee, started a podcast called Still Apart of Us . Many loss parents want to share their stories. Through their podcast, Winter and Lee give them a way to safely share their experiences to the world. Winter chats with Vane...

Also known as transitional objects, security blankets can be an important emotional support for children, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics. As a kid, did you have a security blanket, a lovey, or something that gave you comfort? Do your kids have one? Are there items that are emotional support for you now as an adult? Vanessa and Steph divulge their security “blankets.” We hope this...

Shanna's daughter received a heart transplant at the age of 3 and her husband, a professional BMX champion, suffered a heart attack and stroke two years later. Like riding a vert ramp, the Tabron family has experienced the ups and downs. Hear Shanna’s story about how she trusted her mama instincts and what was going on in her mind – and heart – as life threw more obstacles at her. This intervi...

What is a boundary? It’s a force field meant to protect you and your loved ones - physically, mentally, emotionally.  Vanessa and Steph talk about their many boundaries. They talk about sleep, work, the social media trap, coping with depression , and the teacher/parent/student dynamic. Hear a juicy story about when Vanessa bust out her taser gun! They even talk about how their animals understand t...

What. the. birth. We all have unique and different birth stories. Heck, each one of Vanessa and Steph’s pregnancies were polar opposite experiences in many ways. Whether you had your baby in a bathtub, on a hospital bed, in the car on the way to a birthing center, your story can be helpful for another mom as she decides on her birth plan. Vanessa spoke to 30 moms on their experiences before her fi...